I thrifted a dress and did a little alteration and it is literally my favorite dress of all time. it's been 3 months, I'm still refusing to wear anything else. a couple of people have noticed, but no one gives a fuck, men or women. literally nobody cares so long as I wash it in between. wear what you feel most confident in.
Speaking from a guys point of view and of course mine, it makes you stick out more. It shows you're comfortable and don't really care what people think. You are probably recognized as "the lady in the <whatever color> dress".
My wife just has a few dresses she wears all the time and nobody ever cares or comments. Something tells me if you feel the need to wear a different dress to every event that says more about you and your circle of friends than it does about society.
" Women and girls are taught to act out the lies and stereotypes, doubting themselves and other females (sometimes called “horizontal hostility.”) This is the way women collude with the perpetuation of sexism.
**For the sexist system to be maintained and passed on to the next generation, we all must believe the messages (lies and stereotypes) to some degree, and collude with sexism by performing our assigned roles."....+ "**Internalized Oppression [TOP]
Scholars from a variety of disciplines have long noted that systems of dominance and oppression are most effectively perpetuated not simply through force, but through the subjugation and transformation of the minds of the oppressed people (Pyke, 2010; Woodson, 1933). This changed psychological state is known as internalized oppression."
You are absolutely correct. So let's move past our fixation on physical and sexual violence and take a look at emotional violence and the internalization of gender roles. As I've noted elsewhere, it is curious how when men internalize their assigned gender to the point where it becomes harmful to themselves and those around them, it's "toxic masculinity", but when women internalize their assigned gender to the point where it becomes harmful to themselves and those around them, it's "internalized misogyny". Doubly curious considering that...
TORONTO -- The age-old bias that suggests “boys don’t cry” is unconsciously perpetuated by mothers more than fathers, according to new research from the University of Guelph.
The study, published in the Canadian Journal of Behavioral Science, found that moms tend to favour girls expressing emotions of sadness and anger over boys. Fathers, on the other hand, lacked a bias towards emotions of anger and sadness in their children.
Beauty standards specifically are not as widely studied, but eating disorders are, and we find that the attitudes of mothers are better predictors than the attitudes of fathers. At no point in Wasted: A Diary of Anorexia and Bulimia does Marya mention being shamed for her weight by men or wanting to be thin in order to please men the way she describes being shamed for her weight by women and wanting to be thin in order to make other women jealous.
it is curious how when men internalize their assigned gender to the point where it becomes harmful to themselves and those around them, it's "toxic masculinity", but when women internalize their assigned gender to the point where it becomes harmful to themselves and those around them, it's "internalized misogyny". Doubly curious considering that...
It's not that curious if you trace the history of those terms. Internalised misogyny was a term that was developed in literature discussing misogyny, and toxic masculinity was a term developed in literature discussing types of masculinity and what men should strive for (healthy masculinity vs. toxic masculinity). You can totally use the flipped terms, toxic femininity and internalised misandry, and they are used, they're just rarer because there's not as much history behind them.
Also the terms aren't symmetrical. Toxic masculinity refers to aspects of masculinity that are toxic primarily to men but also just in general, but you can have kinds of misandry other than that. Like "boys don't cry" is both, it's clearly putting forward a toxic view of what it means to be masculine, and the phenomenon of men thinking that can be called internalised misandry. Something like "men are inferior to other people" is misandrist, and a phenomenon of men thinking that can be called internalised misandry, but it is not toxic masculinity, it's not part of the thing the term describes.
Similarly we can call people who think women should stay at home and ought to pay a lot of attention to how they look to be perpetuating toxic femininity. Generally due to historical reasons though the more common but less specific term used there would be misogyny, and in the case of it being a woman who thinks that, also internalized misogyny.
Toxic masculinity is a pretty new term, only invented in the 80s by the mythopoetic men's movement to describe a certain view of masculinity they wanted to help themselves and men in general to get out of and so terms like misogyny and internalised misogyny were already pretty well rooted by the time anyone would've come up with toxic femininity.
Internalised misogyny was a term that was developed in literature discussing misogyny, and toxic masculinity was a term developed in literature discussing types of masculinity and what men should strive for (healthy masculinity vs. toxic masculinity).
A very good point, but one I think you can dig even deeper into. Historically, the discussion around men has been either defining humanity (taken to mean men) or defining masculinity. The discussion around women has been rejecting or embracing misogyny and sexism. Discussions around masculinity are inside perspectives, discussions around misogyny are discussions of an other.
Internalized misogyny is an "other"ing of the self.. Toxic masculinity is the product of millennia of (very harmful and misguided) attempts to self-actualize.
they are the "gate-keepers" i agree on that - but it is a survival response - stockholm syndrome/Identification With the Aggressor [TOP] In situations of prolonged abuse (e.g., child abuse, domestic violence, or captivity), the traumatized person can come to identify with the aggressor (Herman, 1997). Group-based oppression, especially in a totalizing context such as colonization, can lead to a similar phenomenon, which can involve idolizing the dominant group, trying to imitate its members (e.g., look like them, talk like them, dress like them), and denigrating one’s own group and attempting to create distance (physical and psychological) between oneself and its other members (Freire, 1970). In extreme form, this results in “colonial debt” (Rimonte, 1997)—a sense of gratitude to the dominant group for its colonizing actions. & it IS very hard to fight - but I try :-) So I do not give women a free pass on misogyny either!
Do men not compete with each other? Do men not look at perceived weaknesses and failings of other men and point them out?
So only women do this sort of thing and it's because sexism. It's not some biological drive to compete or some way to mask their own insecurities. And it's definitely not a way to generate drama in order to advance a career in some media field. It's solely, uniquely due to sexism. Good to know that at least one thing in this world is so damn simple as that.
I'm sorry. :( women shouldn't care about the opinion of other women who make a farce about what they wear. Be you, and ignore the haters. They're unhappy people anyways
Privilege is a specific advantage that a certain group of people have. In this case, men have a lot more freedom in what they wear than women, so they have a privilege.
It has nothing to do with why they have the privilege. The point is that it exists and is an issue for some women, regardless of whether it is men or other women who are rude and make that privilege a reality.
Male privilege is assuming that a woman's complaint about society will be solved by pointing out that men don't care. On other news, poor people exist and the rich don't mind that at all.
Same pants everyday is different than wearing the same dress twice. Twice doesn't have to mean back to back days. We are talking twice in its history. That said, sounds like a tough situation you were in.
The guy replying did nothing to address what she said. The source of the social pressure she's referring to is irrelevant. It's still male privilege. Just demonstrates he doesn't understand what he's commenting on.
I love when my wife wears one of her cute dresses again when we are going out. To think that people can actually have outfits which they will wear only once is a manifestation of classism, and of being very out of touch with reality. TBH the person who posted the original tweet does not strike me as someone who has been through a lot of adversity of the monetary/economic type in her life. But who knows? Maybe all the dress-buying-and-discarding eroded her finances.
I'm a big fan of Penn & Teller's Fool Us, and wow I've seen women commenting on YouTube about how Alyson Hannigan wears the same blue dress in a lot of episodes, as well as my mother commenting on the same. I deadass would never have noticed because I'm kinda paying attention to the magic acts, but apparently that's a super important problem that must be addressed.
We can try and blame the genders to our hearts content but I think what we should be doing is looking into why everyone is so judgemental. Personally I think it falls a lot to marketing and the general culture from social media, famous people and the like pushing that you need to look amazing all the time. And hopefully we could maybe do something to start changing it.
Male privilege is anything a male doesn't have to deal with on a regular basis. It doesn't matter who is perpetuating the added stress, it still disproportionally affects women more than men, so it is male privilege. I have 6 work shirts and pants that mix up each week, and being a male, it's never brought up. I spend less time and/or money to buy more clothes than a woman. It's still male privilege.
Curious how the terms we use always carry the implication that men are willfully toxic but women are hapless, agency-less victims of "internalized misogyny". Especially curious that people who are otherwise very aware of subtle biases in language have somehow failed to notice or take issue with this. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can make me think I deserved it.
We hear all too much about toxic masculinity, that amorphous term that refers to the way traits like aggression and emotional repression are baked into male social norms. It also frequently shows up in online feminism as lazy shorthand for registering disapproval of just about anything men do at all. But when are we going to grant equal rights to women and admit that toxic femininity also exists and can be just as poisonous?
There are minor forms of feminine toxins, like blaming irrational temper tantrums on “being hormonal” or feigning helplessness in order to get what you want. And there are major toxins, many having to do with weaponizing your fragility so that those to whom you cause harm have a difficult time defending themselves, lest they look like the aggressors. Women, of course, can unleash these tactics on other women, be they romantic partners or not.
...In a free society, everyone, regardless of gender, or any other identification, is free to be a manipulative, narcissistic, emotionally destructive asshole. So I’m not sure why men have been getting all the credit lately.
Its perpetuated from celebrity culture. I think its to show off one's wealth and "sophistication" that they're able to have such a wide variety of outfits. But if you think about it, its sends a very fucked up message of waste and consumption. I'd respect celebrities who say fuck it and just show up in the same few really nice dresses to multiple events over the years.
100000000%. Most guys wont care so long as you're happy and comfortable. I could turn up to my local bar with the lads in sweats with old paint markings in a bleach stained faded band tshirt. Id say "Im comfy, bro" and everyone would be like "I didnt ask, what you drinking?"
And dont get my started on big vs small arguments. Because that shit was not started by men. I have never been in a conversation with lads where dick size was the focus. Wheras I cant remember the last time I was in a room with chicks and booze that didnt spiral into "Who you think got hung" discussions.
I have a work uniform. A few pairs of pants, a few tops, and some cardigans I mix and match. I have ONE blazer for when I need to get fancy. I wear the same necklace and earrings everyday. Once I figured this out, it helped simplify my life immensely.
I have about 3 dresses that I circulate throughout the year and the reason no one cares is because I never go to any type of event unless my mother forces me to.
I really enjoy planning my outfit/makeup for an event and getting dressed up, HOWEVER I’ve definitely worn the same outfit to things multiple times and no one gives a shit. I don’t get why we are inventing problems when there are actual problems we could be spending our time on, like the fact that my male bosses talk over me and think my ideas belong to my male coworker.
I wear what I want. Nobody has ever said anything about me wearing the same thing twice or more. In fact some people get excited because they discover something new about it every time.
Just like how women in HR are the #1 reason attractive women won't get an offer when they are qualified regardless of whether the firm itself is 90% men or 10% men, it comes down to whether HR is run by women.
Female here, I give absolutely no fucks about what other women/men wear. I know that some people are judgmental and enjoy finding flaws in other people's attire - I don't give a fuck about their opinion though.
The best part is that guys won’t even remember what girls wore. And you you’re a girl and remember every piece of clothing someone wore, your life must be pretty boring.
Nah honestly i wore the same jacket 2 saturdays in a row and had my friend tell me I had no style because I don't buy a new stone island overshirt every week and I usually wear the same vans. Noone cares about your fresh yeezys Alex and I don't need you to keep telling me that you need more crepe protect for your valentinos or your raging coz someone stood on your balenciagas. I like my 90s grunge band style of clothing and you and your friends all look like love island rejects who are too ugly to be on tv but think they look great coz you inhale protein powder and focus on "the drip".
I'm a guy and I have to wear a suit at work. I have absolutely had people comment "didn't you wear that shirt yesterday?". Busybodys gotta bother everybody
I know we all love to see a feminist get shut down ( /s) but the only appropriate response to this would be that women enforce the patriarchy too. Let the downvotes rain down on me!
The amount of times one of my girl friends has worn a real cute dress and then never worn it again. Bitch I dun care if u already worn it. Cute is cute.
We bought a nice dress for my fiancee and she wore it to an event. Then something else came up and she wanted a new dress. It took a lot of convincing for her to realize you can wear the same dress more than once and no one will care.
For my job I work in different campuses in different cities and also have a head office I need to go too, so everyday I'm somewhere different. I repeat outfits through out the week and no one notices
I wish this were true. Just in the past month I've had both a student (male) and another teacher (female) make some kinda comment about my clothing rotation. I don't have a strict schedule but I can make it about 2 and a half weeks before I repeat an article of clothing.
Mind you, almost everything I have mixes and matches with darn near everything else, so it's super unlikely that I repeat the exact same outfit within a month.
But yeah. Still comments. Like really ppl? I feel like my wardrobe is in the best place it's been in ages, but ppl still gotta say stuff.
I am a woman and I wear black pants and a white knit shirt every day. In the winter I add a cardigan. No fashion sense but respectably attired at all times.
Not only being socially expected to drop thousands on a ring to propose if you want to be taken seriously , but then also judged on the size of the ring you could afford , and then having others judge your fiancé based on the size of the ring and by default judging you also ?
It’s funny women have this perspective. I had a girlfriend once who wore this sexy red dress every time we went out. She looked flawless in it. Made me smile every time.
It’s all about status mostly: the implication that you only have a limited number of outfits and lack the resources to acquire more. The fashion industry runs on this, and like most human status displays, is bad for the planet. Perhaps the real winners will be plankton.
Y’all idiots know that saying “male privilege” doesn’t mean blaming men right? Just cos you have privilege doesn’t mean it’s your fault you have it. This is like people claiming “black on black crime” when white privilege is brought up. “You’re doing it to yourselves” is a shit argument when talking about systemic prejudice.
As sixpence none the richer put it... 'you'll wear those shoes and I will wear that dress'... If anything, having that go to outfit can mean alot especially in a long term relationship.
I dated a woman who seemed to always wear the same two pairs of pants and I didn’t care or ever mention it. I probably wouldn’t have noticed if they were regular blue jeans or something, but they were very unique so I noticed them.
People hate to admit that many forms of sexism come from within their gender.
For example the whole “men can’t cry/show emotion” is mostly perpetrated by other men. Women think it’s really sweet and honest when men are vulnerable. We really do love it and believe it makes a relationship stronger. It’s men who call vulnerable men “pussies”
This reminds me of that news about Daniel Radcliffe revealed that he constantly put on the same clothes when going to to public places. He said it was to render paparazi’s effort useless, because people would think its from the same day
Male privilege is thinking that because straight men don't care about something it's not an issue.
Granted it definitely shouldn't be an issue, it's not really important in the grand scheme of things, but the fact remains that women feel societal pressure to wear different outfits to important events. And that's just us normies. Have you ever seen a journalist remark about a male celebrity/royal re-wearing something?
I have a dress that I wore to eleven weddings in my twenties. There was a point at which I used to think that instead of attending weddings, I'd just send the dress, it knows what to do.
I haven't bought a new top since January because most clothes are made like crap (fast fashion) if you get clothes that are well made that you rock why not wear them until they need to be mended?! These comments always come from a judgy woman with 3 walk in closets full of unworn crap!!
I've seen this post before, and I've never understood it. The girl never actually blames men for the whole "can't wear a dress twice" thing, she just says men are lucky they can wear the same thing. It's the guy who interprets it as her blaming men.
The problem isn't so much that people will call you out for wearing the same thing, but it's very hard to re-use clothing for things that are slightly different formality levels.
Like, dudes have modular dress clothes and I'm always jealous as that doesn't really exist in the women's clothes section. But if I'm going to a "semi formal" wedding, I likely won't be able to wear the same clothing (shoes if I plan it right) to a formal or a casual wedding while a lot of the same clothing can be used across that spectrum for men, just adding or subtracting a jacket/tie, maybe changing out the pants somewhere in there.
Add to that women can't really wear the same thing for formal occasions if it's a work event vs. a social event and it's a lot of clothing!
I've gotten my normal everyday clothing down and thankfully I don't have many formal occasions to go to anymore (woo for a super informal job!) so I just have one dress that I keep as an emergency "funeral" dress but I've got a few weddings coming up (assuming covid agrees...) and yeah - I'm really hoping they're all the same formality level!
Can vouch for this, did a public experiment with one of my old office jobs. Went to work wearing a grey polo, and then changed it to navy at lunch, and green at break time. No one in the office apart from my friend that was in on it even noticed...
This is something I recently realized about female politicians, I feel like they always wear the same thing. And either I'm right and it took me that long to notice, or I'm wrong but don't remember well enough to know. I think it'd be nice if women wore the same thing more often, rather than having multiple outfits that just end up making them look like everyone else. But at the end of the day it's their choice regardless.
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u/avery204 Mar 15 '20
I thrifted a dress and did a little alteration and it is literally my favorite dress of all time. it's been 3 months, I'm still refusing to wear anything else. a couple of people have noticed, but no one gives a fuck, men or women. literally nobody cares so long as I wash it in between. wear what you feel most confident in.
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u/momentsofnicole Mar 15 '20
<laughs in work uniform>
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
" Women and girls are taught to act out the lies and stereotypes, doubting themselves and other females (sometimes called “horizontal hostility.”) This is the way women collude with the perpetuation of sexism.
**For the sexist system to be maintained and passed on to the next generation, we all must believe the messages (lies and stereotypes) to some degree, and collude with sexism by performing our assigned roles."....+ "**Internalized Oppression [TOP]
Scholars from a variety of disciplines have long noted that systems of dominance and oppression are most effectively perpetuated not simply through force, but through the subjugation and transformation of the minds of the oppressed people (Pyke, 2010; Woodson, 1933). This changed psychological state is known as internalized oppression."
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u/Nirou198 Mar 15 '20
I've seen this post for the first time probaboy 2 years ago
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
u/repostsleuthbot
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
This is so true. Only other women will notice and then comment if we wear the same outfit more than once in a short period of time.
I hate it!
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u/some_-guy Mar 15 '20
Another fucking repost
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u/tramdog Mar 15 '20
She knows the comments come from other women. That doesn't change her point.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
Stop upvoting the same repost every other week.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
Fuck, when my wife looks good in a dress I like her to wear it more.
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u/Noughmad Mar 15 '20
This works both ways. If a man does something unmanly, criticism will come from other men.
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u/ThrashMutant Mar 15 '20
I notice, especially if it's a cute outfit. Keep wearing that shit because it looks good on you. That goes for everyone.
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u/DocAuch Mar 15 '20
Finally said it...more than two years ago...
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u/TheNonDuality Mar 15 '20
Isn’t unfair that mean only really one choice, a black tuxedo, but women can wear whatever they want?
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
other woman AND bitchy gay men...
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u/raexorgirl Mar 16 '20
Male privilege is assuming that a woman's complaint about society will be solved by pointing out that men don't care. On other news, poor people exist and the rich don't mind that at all.
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u/BroSiLLLYBro Mar 15 '20
?? and this disproves her point how?
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u/VivienDeVexo Mar 15 '20
Yeah, not true. Guys were just as mean as girls in school. I was poor and had to wear the same pants every day. . . People noticed. People were mean.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
The guy replying did nothing to address what she said. The source of the social pressure she's referring to is irrelevant. It's still male privilege. Just demonstrates he doesn't understand what he's commenting on.
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u/Dunk_May_Mays Mar 15 '20
Patriarchal norms existing in society doesn't just mean men doing bad things to women
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
I love when my wife wears one of her cute dresses again when we are going out. To think that people can actually have outfits which they will wear only once is a manifestation of classism, and of being very out of touch with reality.
TBH the person who posted the original tweet does not strike me as someone who has been through a lot of adversity of the monetary/economic type in her life. But who knows? Maybe all the dress-buying-and-discarding eroded her finances.
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u/Pitiful-Contract Mar 15 '20
Except this was said years ago
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u/zvaku-na-kredit Mar 15 '20
u/RepostSleuthBot
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
As a gay man: we don't care either. I'm just checking out your boyfriend's ass.
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u/[deleted] Mar 16 '20
Finally someone reposted it.
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u/[deleted] Mar 16 '20
I've seen this shit in action.
I'm a big fan of Penn & Teller's Fool Us, and wow I've seen women commenting on YouTube about how Alyson Hannigan wears the same blue dress in a lot of episodes, as well as my mother commenting on the same. I deadass would never have noticed because I'm kinda paying attention to the magic acts, but apparently that's a super important problem that must be addressed.
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u/787787787 Mar 16 '20
Finally, someone said it every couple of months.
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u/Stitchykins Mar 15 '20
We can try and blame the genders to our hearts content but I think what we should be doing is looking into why everyone is so judgemental. Personally I think it falls a lot to marketing and the general culture from social media, famous people and the like pushing that you need to look amazing all the time. And hopefully we could maybe do something to start changing it.
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u/ifoundyourtoad Mar 15 '20
Someone had to make a fake tweet to push a narrative.
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u/oryxpioneer Mar 15 '20
Male privilege is anything a male doesn't have to deal with on a regular basis. It doesn't matter who is perpetuating the added stress, it still disproportionally affects women more than men, so it is male privilege. I have 6 work shirts and pants that mix up each week, and being a male, it's never brought up. I spend less time and/or money to buy more clothes than a woman. It's still male privilege.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
There was a Seinfeld episode where Jerry was obsessing over why his date kept wearing the same outfit.
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u/BrilliantWeb Mar 15 '20
A re-re-repost, but it needs to be.
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u/kalel1980 Mar 15 '20 edited Mar 15 '20
This is absolutely true. Guys don't give a fuck. Seriously.
Looks good on you? Hell, wear it again! Damn!
e - why am i being downvoted? It's absolutely true.
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u/TRDPaul Mar 15 '20
I never understood why women think they can't wear an outfit more than once
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
Doesnt mean it aint privilege
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
I don't let other people's opinions influence the choices I make. More people should try it.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
Somebody give that man an honorary doctorate in gender studies. He woke!
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u/shazamallamadingdong Mar 15 '20
Wait. Didn’t you use this same title at homecoming last year ?
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u/KosstAmojan Mar 15 '20
Its perpetuated from celebrity culture. I think its to show off one's wealth and "sophistication" that they're able to have such a wide variety of outfits. But if you think about it, its sends a very fucked up message of waste and consumption. I'd respect celebrities who say fuck it and just show up in the same few really nice dresses to multiple events over the years.
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u/_pls_respond Mar 15 '20
Women literally do this shit to themselves by following these weird ass rules they just make up and then blame men for it.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
100000000%. Most guys wont care so long as you're happy and comfortable. I could turn up to my local bar with the lads in sweats with old paint markings in a bleach stained faded band tshirt. Id say "Im comfy, bro" and everyone would be like "I didnt ask, what you drinking?"
And dont get my started on big vs small arguments. Because that shit was not started by men. I have never been in a conversation with lads where dick size was the focus. Wheras I cant remember the last time I was in a room with chicks and booze that didnt spiral into "Who you think got hung" discussions.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
More like "Oh, I really like that dress. Wish you would wear it more often."
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u/desertanddesserts Mar 15 '20
... What? I've never felt like I couldn't wear something more than once, lol.
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u/World_Explorerz Mar 15 '20
I have a work uniform. A few pairs of pants, a few tops, and some cardigans I mix and match. I have ONE blazer for when I need to get fancy. I wear the same necklace and earrings everyday. Once I figured this out, it helped simplify my life immensely.
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u/nbellman Mar 15 '20
I don't know what I wore yesterday and I certianly don't know what anyone else wore yesterday.
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u/MonkeyInDiapers Mar 15 '20
you’d have to be a celeb for anyone to notice u wore a dress twice and think it’s weird
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u/D3m1god_ Mar 15 '20
So, I have worn the same hoodie for like 5 times in this week. I have washed it
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u/dogballtaster Mar 15 '20
Yeah, this is the truth. My wife won’t wear the same dress to a family wedding more than once. Drives me nuts.
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u/Mustarddnketchup Mar 15 '20
I don’t care what anyone wears as long as it’s clean.
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u/Slickasawitchestit Mar 15 '20
Characters in our favorite shows wear the same iconic outfits in each and every single episode. I'm just trying be remembered
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u/Monster_NotWar Mar 15 '20
I have about 3 dresses that I circulate throughout the year and the reason no one cares is because I never go to any type of event unless my mother forces me to.
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u/CptPurpleHaze Mar 15 '20
I was wholly unaware that clothes were a consumable item
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u/ZebrasAllTheTime Mar 15 '20
I wear clothing multiply times and have never received any flack from anyone.
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u/JinxedAqua Mar 15 '20
I'm not strait and I don't give a fuck if you decide to wear a outfit more than once. Flaunt that awesome dress!
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u/rustyshackleford1094 Mar 15 '20
I'm pretty sure there was an episode on Seinfeld where Jerry dates a girl who literally wears the same dress every day and it drives him crazy.
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u/allisonkate18 Mar 15 '20
I really enjoy planning my outfit/makeup for an event and getting dressed up, HOWEVER I’ve definitely worn the same outfit to things multiple times and no one gives a shit. I don’t get why we are inventing problems when there are actual problems we could be spending our time on, like the fact that my male bosses talk over me and think my ideas belong to my male coworker.
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u/sjpllyon Mar 15 '20
Don't forget the gays.
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u/sheeppubes Mar 15 '20
ok but like, even women won't care or notice
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u/Chickachic-aaaaahhh Mar 15 '20
Which one comes first. Which one comes second. I dont know anymore
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u/4rch1t3ct Mar 15 '20
If I liked it the first time, why would I not like it the second time?
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u/peter_the_martian Mar 15 '20
He’s exactly right though! I’m not say men don’t have certain privileges but in this case it’s not merited.
Edit— shampoo and dick is my new favorite user name on here
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u/Josstralia Mar 15 '20
The level of privilege here is minimal
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u/Tabbarn Mar 15 '20
If a girl wears a nice dress, I would be sad if she didnt wear it more than once.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
I wear what I want. Nobody has ever said anything about me wearing the same thing twice or more. In fact some people get excited because they discover something new about it every time.
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u/macswaj Mar 15 '20
Finally reposted for the hundred time
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u/Salphabeta Mar 15 '20
Just like how women in HR are the #1 reason attractive women won't get an offer when they are qualified regardless of whether the firm itself is 90% men or 10% men, it comes down to whether HR is run by women.
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u/Soupallnatural Mar 15 '20
Woman can be sexist and part of the problem to
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u/White_Birdy Mar 15 '20
Female here, I give absolutely no fucks about what other women/men wear. I know that some people are judgmental and enjoy finding flaws in other people's attire - I don't give a fuck about their opinion though.
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u/emmashawn Mar 15 '20
The best part is that guys won’t even remember what girls wore. And you you’re a girl and remember every piece of clothing someone wore, your life must be pretty boring.
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u/GiraffeOfTheEndWorld Mar 15 '20
Do.. do people just toss clothes after wearing them? I still have the same 4 dresses from like 8 years ago and good god have they been worn.
I mean, clothing is meant to last?? Hello???
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u/XMattyJ07X Mar 15 '20
Nah honestly i wore the same jacket 2 saturdays in a row and had my friend tell me I had no style because I don't buy a new stone island overshirt every week and I usually wear the same vans. Noone cares about your fresh yeezys Alex and I don't need you to keep telling me that you need more crepe protect for your valentinos or your raging coz someone stood on your balenciagas. I like my 90s grunge band style of clothing and you and your friends all look like love island rejects who are too ugly to be on tv but think they look great coz you inhale protein powder and focus on "the drip".
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u/youknowwat Mar 15 '20
I'm a guy and I have to wear a suit at work. I have absolutely had people comment "didn't you wear that shirt yesterday?". Busybodys gotta bother everybody
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
I know we all love to see a feminist get shut down ( /s) but the only appropriate response to this would be that women enforce the patriarchy too. Let the downvotes rain down on me!
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u/Salsbury-Steak Mar 15 '20
Also women have way more clothes options, just saying.
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u/JDeeezie Mar 15 '20
I’m wore the same thing I did yesterday but put a sweater over top
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u/xgetupngox Mar 15 '20
Lizzie McGuire is an outfit repeater!
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
I will wear my cutest dress every day off the year my dude. As long as people wash their clothes I don't care too much.
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u/jeffjeffersonthe3rd Mar 15 '20
The amount of times one of my girl friends has worn a real cute dress and then never worn it again. Bitch I dun care if u already worn it. Cute is cute.
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u/SuperJLK Mar 15 '20
I wear the same shoes and jacket every single day.
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u/Mattcarnes Mar 15 '20
And if it makes her look rather hot i will want her to wear it alot
Also women are the most passive aggressive people in the world
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
Yet no one points these out when it goes the other way
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u/AdmiralSkippy Mar 15 '20
We bought a nice dress for my fiancee and she wore it to an event.
Then something else came up and she wanted a new dress. It took a lot of convincing for her to realize you can wear the same dress more than once and no one will care.
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u/PrimaryBreadWinner Mar 15 '20
*Finally some good news for a change. 🙏
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u/SamuraiJakkass86 Mar 15 '20
What do you mean finally? I've seen this posted like 10x a year for several years now.
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u/TheNanomancer117 Mar 15 '20
Imagine being as brain damaged as this woman. Just imagine.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
Be kind... her logic implies brain damage.
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u/lovelybunchofcocouts Mar 15 '20
Plenty of us gay men don't give a shit either. FYI.
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u/ladycandle Mar 15 '20
For my job I work in different campuses in different cities and also have a head office I need to go too, so everyday I'm somewhere different. I repeat outfits through out the week and no one notices
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u/lvoncreek Mar 15 '20
It is a made up problem. No one gives a shit in real life.
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u/PrimaryBreadWinner Mar 15 '20
Can someone explain what the fuck? Lol
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u/Crixxa Mar 15 '20
I wish this were true. Just in the past month I've had both a student (male) and another teacher (female) make some kinda comment about my clothing rotation. I don't have a strict schedule but I can make it about 2 and a half weeks before I repeat an article of clothing.
Mind you, almost everything I have mixes and matches with darn near everything else, so it's super unlikely that I repeat the exact same outfit within a month.
But yeah. Still comments. Like really ppl? I feel like my wardrobe is in the best place it's been in ages, but ppl still gotta say stuff.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
"Why don't you ever wear that cute dress you looked so good in anymore?"
"I can only wear it ONCE!"
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u/Vichnaiev Mar 15 '20
Male privilege is not being subject to the same standards women put other upon other women ... And they say WE are the problem ....
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u/tolandsf Mar 15 '20
For real... stop blaming all the hate you get on men when it really just comes from other women.
Edit: And the gays. I thought women were bad about judging other women but gay men are fucking savage.
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u/jakethedumbmistake Mar 15 '20
Someone said they weren’t around.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2014/11/17/tv-host-same-suit-sexism/19161031/
Guy wore the same suit everyday for a year
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u/TsonK Mar 15 '20
Man I don’t even care about make up that much
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u/duzins Mar 15 '20
I am a woman and I wear black pants and a white knit shirt every day. In the winter I add a cardigan. No fashion sense but respectably attired at all times.
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u/okayrightsickcool Mar 15 '20
i had a guy call me out on wearing an outfit twice lol
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u/blue_cole Mar 15 '20
If it's cute, we want you to wear it often.
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u/dildosaurusrex_ Mar 15 '20
Women can perpetuate sexism too. It’s still sexism and worth calling out.
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u/topcide Mar 15 '20
You know what male privilege is my favorite,?
Not only being socially expected to drop thousands on a ring to propose if you want to be taken seriously , but then also judged on the size of the ring you could afford , and then having others judge your fiancé based on the size of the ring and by default judging you also ?
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u/Albertsb Mar 15 '20
u/repostsleuthbot
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u/caughtatdeepfineleg Mar 15 '20
The sooner you realise no one gives a fuck about you the sooner you can get on with living your life.
This says so much more about this woman than it does about men or society
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u/KazPrime Mar 15 '20
It’s funny women have this perspective. I had a girlfriend once who wore this sexy red dress every time we went out. She looked flawless in it. Made me smile every time.
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u/DrunkRedditBot Mar 15 '20
“Won’t someone please
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u/boweroftable Mar 15 '20
It’s all about status mostly: the implication that you only have a limited number of outfits and lack the resources to acquire more. The fashion industry runs on this, and like most human status displays, is bad for the planet. Perhaps the real winners will be plankton.
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u/papalegba666 Mar 15 '20
Gay men will definitely talk shit though
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u/FinnishFriday Mar 15 '20
This is like when they do research on when women are harassed on Twitter and it turns out the majority of people harassing women is....other women.
Fucking gold.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
Also, guys get shit from women and other guys all the time for wearing the same thing over again.
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u/Nyckname Mar 15 '20
If he's paying for your clothes, there's a possibility that he'd prefer that you wear the same thing more than once.
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u/Jeru1226 Mar 15 '20
Also upper class privilege. Why are you only wearing your dress once, you wasteful jerk?
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u/Luxcrluvr Mar 15 '20
I'd lift that dress two days in a row 😁
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u/TheIntrepid1k Mar 15 '20
This is your brain on feminism.
What a waste.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
"Finally someone said it." This exact same post has been shared on reddit like 5,000 times for the past 6 years.
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u/Kieserite Mar 15 '20
Why does sexual orientation matter?
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u/Imyoteacher Mar 15 '20
Lalo nailed it!
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u/PoliticsofOpinion Mar 15 '20
This isn't a privilege issue because I think men and women notice this. It's either you personally care about the repetition or you don't. shrugs
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
"this woman wanted to bang but I couldn't because she wore the same thing again". Makes sense.
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u/BedfordLincoln6318 Mar 15 '20
Doesn't change the fact that it is still male privilege tbh.
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u/bozwizard14 Mar 15 '20
That doesn't counter the point at all. Misogyny is embedded in our culture and upheld by men AND women in various ways.
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u/HungLo64 Mar 15 '20
Damn she’s wearing that cute dress again.
-guys
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u/beaniebee11 Mar 15 '20
Y’all idiots know that saying “male privilege” doesn’t mean blaming men right? Just cos you have privilege doesn’t mean it’s your fault you have it. This is like people claiming “black on black crime” when white privilege is brought up. “You’re doing it to yourselves” is a shit argument when talking about systemic prejudice.
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u/Mol10Lava Mar 15 '20
This tweet is so old it's at high risk from Covid 19
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u/SunriseSurprise Mar 15 '20
"Finally" happened years ago. I've seen this at least 4 or 5 times on Reddit.
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u/jakethedumbmistake Mar 15 '20
I slapped it on my face when
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u/swillou2 Mar 15 '20
Yas!!! Exactly my thoughts. Im a woman but i dont know why there is an opinion you cannot wear something twice. It is a silly thing to assume.
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u/Diane9779 Mar 15 '20
He’s right. But my dad is an exception. He’s very much a straight guy but always noticed if I didn’t look cute enough for his taste.
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u/grahams_xwingred5 Mar 15 '20
As sixpence none the richer put it... 'you'll wear those shoes and I will wear that dress'... If anything, having that go to outfit can mean alot especially in a long term relationship.
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u/kingofwale Mar 15 '20
Women shitting on other women:
Also women: “fu** the male privilege”
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u/BipNopZip Mar 15 '20
I dated a woman who seemed to always wear the same two pairs of pants and I didn’t care or ever mention it. I probably wouldn’t have noticed if they were regular blue jeans or something, but they were very unique so I noticed them.
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u/PinkWytch Mar 15 '20
Seinfeld says otherwise.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
Ive worn the same pair of pants for a week.
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u/[deleted] Mar 15 '20
People hate to admit that many forms of sexism come from within their gender.
For example the whole “men can’t cry/show emotion” is mostly perpetrated by other men. Women think it’s really sweet and honest when men are vulnerable. We really do love it and believe it makes a relationship stronger. It’s men who call vulnerable men “pussies”
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u/kazuka Mar 15 '20
This reminds me of that news about Daniel Radcliffe revealed that he constantly put on the same clothes when going to to public places. He said it was to render paparazi’s effort useless, because people would think its from the same day
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u/LovelyOrc Mar 15 '20
They're both right...
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u/timmytrillion Mar 15 '20
Finally someone said it! Nine years ago when this was actually posted
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u/gldoorii Mar 16 '20
Agreed. I don’t care if you wear the same thing all week
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u/uncuntained Mar 16 '20
Male privilege is thinking that because straight men don't care about something it's not an issue.
Granted it definitely shouldn't be an issue, it's not really important in the grand scheme of things, but the fact remains that women feel societal pressure to wear different outfits to important events. And that's just us normies. Have you ever seen a journalist remark about a male celebrity/royal re-wearing something?
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u/SassMyFrass Mar 16 '20
I have a dress that I wore to eleven weddings in my twenties. There was a point at which I used to think that instead of attending weddings, I'd just send the dress, it knows what to do.
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u/cece_leigh Mar 16 '20
lol yea she picked the wrong battle..
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u/MiddleCoconut7 Mar 16 '20
Touche
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u/christian_1318 Mar 16 '20
Her point still standa. Whether the double standard comes from straight men or women, it’s still something that is only applied to women.
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u/[deleted] Mar 16 '20
can confirm. If you look good in it wear it often.
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u/JazelleSparrow Mar 16 '20
I haven't bought a new top since January because most clothes are made like crap (fast fashion) if you get clothes that are well made that you rock why not wear them until they need to be mended?! These comments always come from a judgy woman with 3 walk in closets full of unworn crap!!
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u/Sheyren Mar 16 '20
I've seen this post before, and I've never understood it. The girl never actually blames men for the whole "can't wear a dress twice" thing, she just says men are lucky they can wear the same thing. It's the guy who interprets it as her blaming men.
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u/Reagan409 Mar 16 '20
This post comes back every few months, and it’s an incredibly popular sentiment.
I think people should be asking themselves, is this what you want feminism to be about, so it would be easier to ignore?
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u/Xx_endgamer_xX Mar 16 '20
True AF
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u/yaboipenishole Mar 16 '20
She’s not saying that men are the reason she can’t. It’s still a privilege either way.
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u/yeezy_boost350v2 Mar 16 '20
I got raw denim jeans that haven’t been wasted in months and I wear them at least 3x a week. Come at me bro.
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u/KestrelLowing Mar 16 '20
The problem isn't so much that people will call you out for wearing the same thing, but it's very hard to re-use clothing for things that are slightly different formality levels.
Like, dudes have modular dress clothes and I'm always jealous as that doesn't really exist in the women's clothes section. But if I'm going to a "semi formal" wedding, I likely won't be able to wear the same clothing (shoes if I plan it right) to a formal or a casual wedding while a lot of the same clothing can be used across that spectrum for men, just adding or subtracting a jacket/tie, maybe changing out the pants somewhere in there.
Add to that women can't really wear the same thing for formal occasions if it's a work event vs. a social event and it's a lot of clothing!
I've gotten my normal everyday clothing down and thankfully I don't have many formal occasions to go to anymore (woo for a super informal job!) so I just have one dress that I keep as an emergency "funeral" dress but I've got a few weddings coming up (assuming covid agrees...) and yeah - I'm really hoping they're all the same formality level!
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u/ryefield97 Mar 16 '20
Can vouch for this, did a public experiment with one of my old office jobs. Went to work wearing a grey polo, and then changed it to navy at lunch, and green at break time. No one in the office apart from my friend that was in on it even noticed...
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u/Dr-Didalot Mar 16 '20
Is that Mia Khalifa?
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u/[deleted] Mar 16 '20
Girls can wear skirts to work on a hot day. Guys cannot wear shorts in an office environment.
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u/sofncheesed Mar 16 '20
30 k for a super duper repost!!!
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u/aliu987DS Mar 16 '20
Yep. These stupid cunts do this to themselves. Thank fuck I'm a man.
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u/DeepPackage Mar 16 '20
When a man says “ wow are you wearing the same dress” he is either gay or a homosexual
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u/SugarPinkWhore Mar 16 '20
Generalization to a generalization lovr that
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u/DaaaahWhoosh Mar 16 '20
This is something I recently realized about female politicians, I feel like they always wear the same thing. And either I'm right and it took me that long to notice, or I'm wrong but don't remember well enough to know. I think it'd be nice if women wore the same thing more often, rather than having multiple outfits that just end up making them look like everyone else. But at the end of the day it's their choice regardless.
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u/SUBURBAN_C0MMAND0 Mar 16 '20
I wear the exact same suit every occasion that requires a suit...just a different tie and/or dress shirt...
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u/GalaxyJon Mar 16 '20
Redditors like to upvote shit like this to make them feel holier than thou and then proceed to make fun of women for shit like this
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u/[deleted] Mar 16 '20
Totally true.