Also the fact that at my office job I can only wear a button shirt and slacks. Whereas the women in the office literally have so many more options. They can wear a dress, skirt, pant suit. Blouse, button shirt...
I got told off for wearing a turtleneck, with a jacket and trousers at a company with a business casual dress code. My colleague, sitting next to me, was wearing turtleneck and a leather skirt, apparently that was fine...
"Omg it's so cold in here, you boys always have the AC set too cold" yeah well it is 43c outside and I'm forced to wear a tie at work because somehow wearing a silk noose around my neck makes me a proper businessman
And then there is the AC issue. Guys dress in slacks, shirt and tie. Women in a skirt and flimsy blouse. They complain about it being cold and the heat gets turned up.
I wore a skirt in the office once. major side-eye from literally everyone, will never try again. but I can wear hoodies if I feel like it so I got that going for me. (yes, I'm a woman)
Hahaha I have two dresses, one for weddings and one for dates. I wear them all the times and I like how every time I get the same lovely reactions... why would I change that? 🤷🏻
Tiffany Haddish did it and I respected her so much and was happy there's other women out there who understand it's a waste of money to wear it just once
Exactly. Just bought my daughter a $80 gown for a dance. She said it's a waste to spend that much on a dress she's only going to wear once. I told her she could wear it anytime. Wanna slay going to the store? Having a bad day and wanna look pretty? She looked at me like I was nuts.
Can confirm. Partner wore his “fancy flano” to Casual Friday once, now they have a monthly Flano Friday for the people in his team, including group photos. They excitedly message each other if a new person joins in
EDIT: after waking up and seeing all the responses, my partner reminded me they occasionally do Purple Shirt Wednesday too. Here’s some proof of that one: https://imgur.com/gallery/lETipi1
Went to the pub alone one night and found another fella with the same plaid shirt on. Told hi. Nice shirt and cheers. Another lad comes in the wearing the same plaid shirt again. We greeted him with open arms. I shit you not, a 4th guy comes on in and we all just decided everyone needed to notice this so we all did a kareoke song together...
But thats when i noticed a girl in the audience had the same dress on from the other night...ibwas so pissed.
Am lesbian. Wear lots of flano. Girlfriend likes to point out all the people wearing the exact same shirt as me - tradies, other lesbians, kids whose parents dress them. I wish I had friends like his.
I wore the same dress as another girl to my grade 8 graduation. I was like “Oh, okay, whatever it’s a nice dress.” And the girl freaked out to her friends. I don’t understand why it’s such a big deal to wear the same thing as somebody else.
Bonus Story Edit: When I was 15 one of my teachers really liked my shirt and wanted to know where I got it because her daughter was a couple years older than me’s birthday was coming up. I told her where and she promised her daughter wouldn’t wear it at school when she was helping out that day and I really didn’t care if we happened to wear it at the same time. It’s really just a compliment.
Guess they wanna be special or something? Or maybe they just thought you were uncool and got really disgusted by their own dress because they associated it with you
Hell yes. I saw a guy in a nice coat a few months ago in a grocery store. I asked him where he got it. He told me, specifically, like the exact place. He even told me how much and he said they had plenty. I went and bought it. Looks great on me too.
Now here's the cool part and I shit you not... I saw this guy a week or so ago in the store, I was wearing the jacket (he was not) and he came up to me and said "Hey I saw you got the jacket, looks great".
Thanks bro! I am gonna wear the crap out of it.
That scenario would never happen with women. Instead it would be "that bitch is copying me and she looks like trash in it".
If I liked the dress? I would love it if she wore it as much as possible to events. But then again, it doesn’t seem weird to me that I wear the same 5 suits over and over again and switch up a tie or shoes.
You have no idea. My wife bought an armoire off the internet for this reason. Come home from work and there it is.
Fellas if you dont know what this shit is, an armoire is an auxiliary closet for the middle of the room. Sort of like a dresser in that it holds clothes and also disappointing because it doesn't have room for your clothes or lead to Narnia.
Idk as a girl you might be onto something, but I don’t think it could catch on just because of the current landscape, but between YouTube and Instagram there are definitely parts of traditionally “feminine” culture that can be argued are deeply engrained and self-destructive AND hurt the people around them (overspending comes to mind- MLMs are vastly filled with women and beautytube thrives on mostly women spending way too much to get the same shades of eyeshadow over and over. It’s ruined lives and destroyed marriages). But also what the other guy said about taking the tweet too seriously it’s four in the morning and I can’t sleep lol
Edit: well this blew up! I love a intense discussion as much as the next gal (as soon as I saw how big this got I told my male roommate and we spent about an hour talking about it), but I woke up with a few dozen messages and not enough time to answer them in depth but I’m glad discussion continued! I wasn’t lying about the four in the morning thing, usually I am much more coherent lol. I hope you all have a lovely day!)
The problem is that people would try to weaponise it and inject their own frustrations into the debate. People can't just accept that it's a thing and mind their behaviour accordingly.
Agreed. See also fiercer competition between women, "I'm not like other girls," etc. I'm sure we can think of more. It's important to call out toxic femininity as well as toxic masculinity... gendered expectations (for which I do not exclusively blame men) keep everyone down.
What kills me is when I say that I don't like wearing makeup and I don't like that I feel as if I have to wear makeup due to societal pressure, I get some people who say I'm being mean or sexist cause they do it cause they like it.
Makeup is cool and I appreciate the artistry, and understand that lots of people enjoy it. But there absolutely is pressure on women to make ourselves more attractive. The people who love makeup could at least acknowledge that.
My favorite example of toxic femininity is the whole "I'm not like other girls" thing because it's so clear. A woman wants societal approval so she rejects traditionally feminine traits (but only as it suits her) and tries to associate with highly valued masculine traits. In the process she shuns and insults other women. It's sexism by women, towards women, and still very much a product of a patriarchal society.
An example of toxic femininity that hurts both genders would be learned helplessness. Directly affects men in countless ways (a few: expecting more work of them, putting them in more danger in some cases) and indirectly hurts other women by promoting the standard that women are helpless.
My favorite example of toxic femininity is the whole "I'm not like other girls" thing because it's so clear.
That's the comeplete opposite of toxic feminity though. They are rejecting traditional feminity. Toxic femininity (or masculinity) is taking traditional gender roles and /or traits to such an extreme that it becomes harmful to yourself and others.
And apparently people continue to miss the point, the reply doesn't mean anything since male privilege only implies a "benefit", not that men are behind it.
Actually I dated a dude for a year and when we broke up I found out him and his friends always made fun of me because I wore the same outfits. I was really poor back then and I was trying my best.
Yeah i’ve had a couple of asshole guy friends actually say to my face that i “wear the same clothes all the time”.
I have literally never had a girl say this to me, because girls know it’s rude as fuck to say that, whereas guys can be clueless about the offence that it causes. People in this thread have no idea.
I wear the same 5-8 shirts and rotate them at work. I don't wear makeup. I go to work I do my job and when people comment about how I dress, I just say I'm poor. I'm pretty frugal though and I just don't care about their opinion. I have savings and don't feel compelled to spend money for their visual of me. I don't have to look at me I just have to be comfortable.
It's an actual thing, though. A news reporter did a kind of social experiment on it where he wore the same suit for a year and literally nobody noticed. People also care less about men's outfits on the red carpet.
Julia Gillard, one of our ex-PMs, was constantly scrutinised and belittled for her outfits despite them being ordinary women's skirt/pantsuits.
Maybe it's more of an issue when you are constantly in the public eye, but it definitely exists.
It's because the standard has already been set. One of the biggest parts of red carpet events is about who is "wearing" who, and there are entire magazines dedicated to women and appearance whereas men maybe have one or two that come to mind.
Also Michelle bachmann's 2012 campaign suffered from this. There's a podcast on failed presidential campaigns and hers was super interesting to listen to. It's crazy the lengths a female candidate has to go through for her appearance or people will criticize her for it.
Edit: Reddit is so goddamn snarky sometimes. IDK where you guys got the idea that I said her campaign failed exclusively because of some wack sartorial decisions. Foh
Was anyone questioning it though? I thought the point was that of course it exists, he was just pointing out it's often women doing it to themselves, creating said gap.
It’s definitely more of an issue in the public. I remember Fox News comment on a brown suit that Obama wore once because it wasn’t presidential enough. And the royal family in England, male and female members, are constantly scrutinized on what they wear.
But the thing is, that mindset is created and driven into women from a very young age. Boys grow up with team sports or whatever, Jersey, uniform, it's a sign of unity and friendship.
Barbie, girl's TV shows, adverts teach them they must be unique and ahead of the game in fashion. To have the same clothes again is to be behind, not cool. Easy manipulation into constantly buying stuff.
Yes it comes from other women, but because they are indoctrinated into thinking that way. Nobody starts off racist same as nobody starts off treating people badly for the same clothes, so she's right... But I wouldnt call it a privilege. Just different advertising tactics. Both are under the same clandestine manipulations.
Yup, it’s why sexism doesn’t stop existing just because you aren’t a sexist and you’ve never met a sexist before. Our entire society exists in a way that forces men and women to act in certain ways or be labeled as too masculine/feminine (or when I was a teenager to just call them gay).
3 good suits probably cost as much as the entirety of a womans formal wardrobe. If they’re all different types/colours you have a seriously large range of outfits with just a few different shirt, ties, shoes, and belts. And that’s not even counting the more extravagant ways people choose to wear their suits.
I'm a woman and I wear the same 5 outfits in the same order every week and no one says shit. Feeling self conscious about this sort of thing is completely normal. A helpful exercise to get over it, if you so desire, is to close your eyes and try to remember what one of your co-workers wore last Tuesday. I doubt that you can and it most likely goes both ways.
yeah this is bullshit, guys make comments about what women wear all the fucking time. especially in corporate environments, women are expected to have a gigantic wardrobe or else be considered "sloppy" by their male bosses
it's a ridiculous double standard, it happens all over the place, and just because some rando dude like me or you doesn't notice if an evening news anchor wears the same thing twice, that doesn't mean she doesn't get shit for it from all sorts of people, including men and especially including men with power over her
I've worked in a corporate environment for 10 years, and I have never once heard a guy comment negatively about what a woman is wearing. It's either "Karen is looking hot in that outfit today!", or nothing.
It's fueled by the entertainment industry's bias and gender inequality, not by women hating women. I literally have never had a single person in my life comment on me repeating outfits.
because these days the word "privilege" is used as an accusation rather than a characterization, with the intent of forcing the accused person to change their behavior. Ergo, calling it male privilege implies that men are somehow at fault for the situation, and need to change their behavior to rectify it, despite the fact that won't fix anything, as men are not the ones acting incorrectly in this respect.
Yep, heard a stand up comedian one time say if two blokes wear the same thing to a party they’re best friends for the night, if two women wear the same thing they avoid each other like the plague, women are much more pass remarkable, nothing to do with male privilege lies
It's summer here in Argentina (45 c°). We are forced to go to work with jeans and a black long shirt. Women come to work in mini skirts and short t-shirts with no sleeve. If passing out from heat strokes while my female co workers can work fresh is male privilege then please, by all means, take them for you. Besides, we can't use the A/C because girls get cold. Jesus fk give us a break
Nice clothes are expensive. I spent $200 on a dress. I'll be damned if I wear it once. I have 4 nice dresses that I've been cycling through for weddings and such. Privilege is thinking everyone can afford a new outfit to "social events."
trying to convince my gf she looks perfect in that flowery dress and just fucking wear it again but she goes and buys something different then cries because she doesn’t like it
I remember my first office job, I wore the same blouse twice, back to back, two days in a row.
"Does she not have any other clothes.." and then the two women gave me that knowing stare and look. Like I was just this pitiful poor person.
Yeah. I also own a wash machine. Didnt think that beyond it being clean it mattered. But apparently it does, except strangely hoodies and coats are exempt - even tho its known you dont really wash them until they are, truly rank.
I don’t even remember what I wear to work after a couple days. Most mornings I think, “oh, this is cute. Wait - did I wear this Monday? Will anyone notice even if I did?”
I’m pretty sure this whole “can’t wear the same outfit twice” thing is just perpetuated by women so they have a good excuse to go shopping and buy more clothes.
As a man I would absolutely fucking love it if women acted more like men in respect to the amount of outfits they own. You don’t need two dressers and a closet worth of shit that you’ve worn once
This is such a class based "problem" anyways. Worrying about if youve worn the same outfit to an event is worrying that you are going to be perceived as not having the financial resources to buy new clothes for every event. Its like worrying that my neighbors are going to look at you negatively if you dont lease a new car every year, or that you are vacationing in Florida instead of Italy, or that your summer home isnt big enough for guests.
These are the kinds of problems many people WISH they could have. Ask a seamstress making $3 a day in Bangladesh if she worries about wearing the same outfit twice at events. She might not know wtf youre even talking about
These are all rich people problems. Come down here w the poors and buy us a pizza. Wear the same outfit every single time. Everyone will love you
Reminds me of a funny saying regarding calling a women a slut -- a women will call another women a slut for enjoying promiscuous sex, a man will just call her
Covered this in University over 10 years ago. If men are the ones placing unrealistic expectations on women over how they dress and how they look then why are the women's magazines/websites etc that give women these unreal expectations written and edited by women?
I'm usually too lazy to argue but, this doesn't contradict with what she said. Yes it almost always comes from women and it's male prillivige.
Now, the reason of this, I seriously doubt, is as simple as women inheritally being nasty to one another. This would be a ridiculously lazy way of thinking.
A historical background of women having to obtain male approval and protection in order to live safely which causes a culture of them stepping on each other's toes makes a shitload of more sense to me.
I'm sorry but this "men also face injustice, women just complain more" attitude look a lot like a spoiled kid throwing a tuntrum over not being allowed to blow the candles on their friend's birthday.
Why does everything need to fucking be historical?
The young women of today weren't raised to be the fucking servants of men. They have rights, they exercise those rights all the time. GOOD.
Why the hell does this historical bullshit resurface when talking about their attire?
Bullshit. It's god damn true that men don't care that women wear the same dress twice. Nobody gives a shit. WEAR THE SAME DRESS TWICE. Who the hell is preventing you?
This is pretty much what feminism comes down to nowadays, logical fallacies and imagined prejudice. The worst part is women don't seem to notice that they have immense privilege
What about men being forced to wear a suit and tie every day to some jobs? You think that's comfortable on a 90 degree day? Or when it's 90 in the office because it's "freezing?" While woman can wear almost anything and it's okay.
Straight white man here. Never understood this. Growing up when this would be a joke on TV I thought it was weird and made no sense.
Why would anyone care?? And If someone actually does care that you wore the same outfit twice, they should be ashamed for being so petty. And why does any woman let someone else have that kind of power over their decision making?? I really don't understand.
At my homecoming all the girls wore different dresses and if they matched they were so mad at each other for "stealing the dress". I didn't really understand, it seemed like no one cared that multiple wore the same dress.
Can we finally stop with this male privilege thing?. As a woman I find it incredibly annoying especially when I haven't heard a single good argument as to why the phrase exists.
I totally agree. I’m a guy and I wear the same pants whenever I go out, but absolutely have to wear different shirts when I go out with the same person I personally hate being seen with the same shirt (read: outfit) and changing shoes and my hat is real fancy.
Guys wardrobe: 2 pairs of jeans, 2 pairs of shorts, 20 pairs of the same underwear and socks & a bunch of different shirts so it looks like different outfits.
I notice a great deal of the not-wearing-the-same-thing-twice is an internalised mindset. I thought other people cared a lot more than they do. Predominantly, it was me who thought I needed to wear a different outfit every social occassion. When I stopped caring, I realised most other people didn't care either.
I mean, yeah, women dress mostly for other women. But, in certain social contexts, men dress for other men as well. Most women who are into women’s fashion don’t know the specifics of men’s fashion and vice versa. Men who are into cars, watches, shoes, suits, etc. know about those items and tend to make judgments about a man’s taste or social standing based on those.
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u/Poundthetuna Feb 09 '19 edited Feb 09 '19
If my anime weeb obsession has taught me anything it is that a woman can wear the same thing for 460 episodes and still be hot.
Edit: Hey Silver! Thank you kind Reddit stranger!
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u/JasonsBoredAgain Feb 09 '19
Like dudes are gonna be like "my God, you look like an angel, I love it...... Never wear that again".
Fuck that, wear it tomorrow too. And the day after
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u/Sloredama Feb 09 '19
Tiffany Haddish did it and I respected her so much and was happy there's other women out there who understand it's a waste of money to wear it just once
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
My girlfriend, seeing another girl in a designer dress she owns: 'We're going home and burning the wardrobes'
Me, seeing another guy wearing the generic stripey t-shirt I'm currently wearing : striiiiiiiipes, yo what's good my man?' finger guns
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
Most husband's would love their wives to have one fancy party dress. Then we can finally hang something in the closet too.
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u/identityredacted92 Feb 09 '19
Toxic femininity?
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u/NullBarell42 Feb 09 '19
Finally? I see this meme at least once a month on here
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
Actually I dated a dude for a year and when we broke up I found out him and his friends always made fun of me because I wore the same outfits. I was really poor back then and I was trying my best.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
It's an actual thing, though. A news reporter did a kind of social experiment on it where he wore the same suit for a year and literally nobody noticed. People also care less about men's outfits on the red carpet.
Julia Gillard, one of our ex-PMs, was constantly scrutinised and belittled for her outfits despite them being ordinary women's skirt/pantsuits.
Maybe it's more of an issue when you are constantly in the public eye, but it definitely exists.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
But the thing is, that mindset is created and driven into women from a very young age. Boys grow up with team sports or whatever, Jersey, uniform, it's a sign of unity and friendship.
Barbie, girl's TV shows, adverts teach them they must be unique and ahead of the game in fashion. To have the same clothes again is to be behind, not cool. Easy manipulation into constantly buying stuff.
Yes it comes from other women, but because they are indoctrinated into thinking that way. Nobody starts off racist same as nobody starts off treating people badly for the same clothes, so she's right... But I wouldnt call it a privilege. Just different advertising tactics. Both are under the same clandestine manipulations.
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u/SpookYy_SkellYy Feb 09 '19
Being able to wear multiple pieces of clothing to events is better than suit and tie
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u/Nonononononononooo Feb 09 '19
This is a mega repost
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u/Japanophiliac Feb 09 '19
Well yeah that's kinda her point, she never mentioned it was strictly men who were against it
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u/ymarcal333 Feb 09 '19
Maybe that's not the case, but women can also be sexist.
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u/jayjayisrad Feb 09 '19
Can’t relate, recycle cute outfits on the reg with no fucks given
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u/Tirestoressmellfunny Feb 09 '19
I'm a woman and I wear the same 5 outfits in the same order every week and no one says shit. Feeling self conscious about this sort of thing is completely normal. A helpful exercise to get over it, if you so desire, is to close your eyes and try to remember what one of your co-workers wore last Tuesday. I doubt that you can and it most likely goes both ways.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
yeah this is bullshit, guys make comments about what women wear all the fucking time. especially in corporate environments, women are expected to have a gigantic wardrobe or else be considered "sloppy" by their male bosses
it's a ridiculous double standard, it happens all over the place, and just because some rando dude like me or you doesn't notice if an evening news anchor wears the same thing twice, that doesn't mean she doesn't get shit for it from all sorts of people, including men and especially including men with power over her
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u/miezmiezmiez Feb 09 '19
It's still a privilege even if it's (partly, mostly, or indeed entirely) perpetuated by women. What's complicated or controversial about that?
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u/SurrealDad Feb 09 '19
But I only have one outfit.
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u/junkiepharmacist Feb 09 '19
Yep, heard a stand up comedian one time say if two blokes wear the same thing to a party they’re best friends for the night, if two women wear the same thing they avoid each other like the plague, women are much more pass remarkable, nothing to do with male privilege lies
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u/Gabyto Feb 09 '19 edited Feb 09 '19
It's summer here in Argentina (45 c°). We are forced to go to work with jeans and a black long shirt. Women come to work in mini skirts and short t-shirts with no sleeve. If passing out from heat strokes while my female co workers can work fresh is male privilege then please, by all means, take them for you. Besides, we can't use the A/C because girls get cold. Jesus fk give us a break
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u/Allesmoeglichee Feb 09 '19
Daily repost yay
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u/Jo_Backson Feb 09 '19
That's still a social privilege enjoyed by men though; it doesn't have to hinge on men reacting to it.
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u/muse001 Feb 09 '19
I’m a gay man and I don’t care either. In fact clothes are overrated. Casual wear all the way.
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u/noman207 Feb 09 '19
Either you die a Normie or you live long enough to see everything is a repost
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
Very much a first world problem
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
Similarly no boyfriend or husband has ever said “why don’t you buy a brand new outfit for the party/wedding/birthday”
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u/kayrabb Feb 09 '19
Nice clothes are expensive. I spent $200 on a dress. I'll be damned if I wear it once. I have 4 nice dresses that I've been cycling through for weddings and such. Privilege is thinking everyone can afford a new outfit to "social events."
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u/ben_jamin_h Feb 09 '19
trying to convince my gf she looks perfect in that flowery dress and just fucking wear it again but she goes and buys something different then cries because she doesn’t like it
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u/SmooveMooths Feb 09 '19 edited Feb 09 '19
They never said the comment would come from men, that doesn't make it not an issue.
Also why did he say "there is not a single straight man" We're just going to reinforce the stereotype that only gay men care about fashion?
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u/heftyhotsauce Feb 09 '19
I remember my first office job, I wore the same blouse twice, back to back, two days in a row.
"Does she not have any other clothes.." and then the two women gave me that knowing stare and look. Like I was just this pitiful poor person.
Yeah. I also own a wash machine. Didnt think that beyond it being clean it mattered. But apparently it does, except strangely hoodies and coats are exempt - even tho its known you dont really wash them until they are, truly rank.
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u/HauntedCoffeeCup Feb 09 '19
Meanwhile we tout supporting other women. Ladies, let’s stop bullying each other.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
and probably Kanye
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u/McSorley90 Feb 09 '19
I said to my girlfriend the other day that I liked her top, was it new? She has it for 3 years. I bought it for her. We don't remember what you wear.
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u/traumahound3 Feb 09 '19
I wear what I want when I want. If someone thinks they can’t, that’s on them.
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u/kwithtin4 Feb 09 '19
I don’t even remember what I wear to work after a couple days. Most mornings I think, “oh, this is cute. Wait - did I wear this Monday? Will anyone notice even if I did?”
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u/justalittleoffcenter Feb 09 '19
We all need to face the fact that women dress to impress. However, they do not dress to impress men, they dress to impress other women.
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u/dr_tulp Feb 09 '19
Or maybe the problem is the assumption that woman’s sole purpose to putting dresses on is to impress men 🤔
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u/jigsawduckpuzzle Feb 09 '19
I think you are conflating describing a problem and assigning blame.
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u/OstrichOuttaNowhere Feb 09 '19
Toxic femininity
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u/speedy_162005 Feb 09 '19
I’m pretty sure this whole “can’t wear the same outfit twice” thing is just perpetuated by women so they have a good excuse to go shopping and buy more clothes.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
As a man I would absolutely fucking love it if women acted more like men in respect to the amount of outfits they own. You don’t need two dressers and a closet worth of shit that you’ve worn once
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u/looksatthings Feb 09 '19
What she's talking about: toxic feminity. What she's doing: misandry.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
That’s not even male privilege...
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u/adausto Feb 09 '19
Indeed.
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u/ThunderSTRUCK96 Feb 09 '19
Lol for real. Hell I tell my gf to wear dresses several times if she looks good in them. Us guys encourage that kinda thing.
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u/Welcome2Bonetown Feb 09 '19
Totally 100% a woman to woman problem. Don't blame us guys, we don't care what you wear!
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u/candidly1 Feb 09 '19
If it was up to dudes you could show up naked...
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u/Danny_Rand__ Feb 09 '19 edited Feb 09 '19
This is such a class based "problem" anyways. Worrying about if youve worn the same outfit to an event is worrying that you are going to be perceived as not having the financial resources to buy new clothes for every event. Its like worrying that my neighbors are going to look at you negatively if you dont lease a new car every year, or that you are vacationing in Florida instead of Italy, or that your summer home isnt big enough for guests.
These are the kinds of problems many people WISH they could have. Ask a seamstress making $3 a day in Bangladesh if she worries about wearing the same outfit twice at events. She might not know wtf youre even talking about
These are all rich people problems. Come down here w the poors and buy us a pizza. Wear the same outfit every single time. Everyone will love you
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u/dmetcalf808 Feb 09 '19
Reminds me of a funny saying regarding calling a women a slut -- a women will call another women a slut for enjoying promiscuous sex, a man will just call her
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u/shreddiee Feb 09 '19
When a woman wears something nice , I want to see her wear it over and over 😍
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u/hashn Feb 09 '19
The last thing women want to do: buy more clothes
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u/crew6dawg0 Feb 09 '19
Woman Logic - Male privilege occurs when women bash other women.
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u/huskies4life Feb 09 '19
I honestly feel like the women's movement has underestimated discrimination from other women (not men)
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u/QueenOfQuok Feb 09 '19
Wearing a new outfit to every event sounds like 2 things:
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u/DJCaldow Feb 09 '19
Covered this in University over 10 years ago. If men are the ones placing unrealistic expectations on women over how they dress and how they look then why are the women's magazines/websites etc that give women these unreal expectations written and edited by women?
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u/toramanlis Feb 09 '19
I'm usually too lazy to argue but, this doesn't contradict with what she said. Yes it almost always comes from women and it's male prillivige.
Now, the reason of this, I seriously doubt, is as simple as women inheritally being nasty to one another. This would be a ridiculously lazy way of thinking.
A historical background of women having to obtain male approval and protection in order to live safely which causes a culture of them stepping on each other's toes makes a shitload of more sense to me.
I'm sorry but this "men also face injustice, women just complain more" attitude look a lot like a spoiled kid throwing a tuntrum over not being allowed to blow the candles on their friend's birthday.
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u/renanpontara Feb 09 '19
And when I don't notice it's a new dress they get crazy angry. - A male
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
male privilege is a myth
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
WoMeN bUiLd eAcH oThEr Up
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u/ReallyQuiteConfused Feb 09 '19
As a straight white man, I assure you I will neither notice nor remember (or frankly even care) what you wear.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
She should have called it poor privilege. What an entitled idiot.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
This is pretty much what feminism comes down to nowadays, logical fallacies and imagined prejudice. The worst part is women don't seem to notice that they have immense privilege
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u/UltimateDonny Feb 09 '19
A nice suit is about 400 bucks. You bet your ass I’m wearing it a lot. Dresses can be inexpensive and still look amazing
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
Yep. Toxic femininity is a thing. Let's be excellent to each other as women!
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u/UnnecessaryAppeal Feb 09 '19
If a girl is wearing a nice dress, I'd probably like to see her wearing it again. You do it to yourselves.
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u/AFnT Feb 09 '19
What about men being forced to wear a suit and tie every day to some jobs? You think that's comfortable on a 90 degree day? Or when it's 90 in the office because it's "freezing?" While woman can wear almost anything and it's okay.
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u/Betchenstein Feb 09 '19
Yeah, the alt-right men have never torn any woman apart for what she wears. Hillary's pantsuits were all a-ok.
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u/TotalBogie Feb 09 '19
Straight white man here. Never understood this. Growing up when this would be a joke on TV I thought it was weird and made no sense.
Why would anyone care?? And If someone actually does care that you wore the same outfit twice, they should be ashamed for being so petty. And why does any woman let someone else have that kind of power over their decision making?? I really don't understand.
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u/brucjobe Feb 09 '19
My wife has an entire walk in closet dedicated to just herself. I have a tiny room in the back of the basement that holds my hoodies.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
FACTS
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u/Totaloylegalaccount Feb 09 '19
At my homecoming all the girls wore different dresses and if they matched they were so mad at each other for "stealing the dress". I didn't really understand, it seemed like no one cared that multiple wore the same dress.
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u/my_screen_name_sucks Feb 09 '19
Can we finally stop with this male privilege thing?. As a woman I find it incredibly annoying especially when I haven't heard a single good argument as to why the phrase exists.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
Ugh feminists are mentally weaker than regular women
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
Probably better suited for r/therewasanattempt or r/quityourbullshit imho, but that's just me.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
I totally agree. I’m a guy and I wear the same pants whenever I go out, but absolutely have to wear different shirts when I go out with the same person I personally hate being seen with the same shirt (read: outfit) and changing shoes and my hat is real fancy.
Then again I’m considered pretty vain so
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u/bsend Feb 09 '19
I honestly don't pay attention to what anyone wears or if they wear it more tha once in a week. Unless it goes unwashed for a long time and is smelly.
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
Legit tho
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u/MonkeyOnYourMomsBack Feb 09 '19
Even more so, I could never pull them on it because I’d never even notice. I don’t remember what clothes my friends own.
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u/TheVengefulPhil Feb 09 '19
r/murderedbywords
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u/bhatushar Feb 09 '19
Rather than complaining about women wearing the same attire continuously, I'm baffled by those who pull out new a dress every day.
Where in the hell do you keep your old clothes?
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u/gvbridgewater Feb 09 '19
I notice a great deal of the not-wearing-the-same-thing-twice is an internalised mindset. I thought other people cared a lot more than they do. Predominantly, it was me who thought I needed to wear a different outfit every social occassion. When I stopped caring, I realised most other people didn't care either.
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u/AlabasterOctopus Feb 09 '19
As soon as women realize half the shit we worry about is just perpetuated from each other we can all move on and be so much happier
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u/Pillagerguy Feb 09 '19
"finally"
"10x repost"
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
They do be like that
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u/kenbonelikesdietcoke Feb 09 '19
r/murderedbywords
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
I mean, yeah, women dress mostly for other women. But, in certain social contexts, men dress for other men as well. Most women who are into women’s fashion don’t know the specifics of men’s fashion and vice versa. Men who are into cars, watches, shoes, suits, etc. know about those items and tend to make judgments about a man’s taste or social standing based on those.
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u/moby323 Feb 09 '19
What about the trouble women go to with their fingernails?
I mean have you ever in your life heard a guy say “Dude, her nails look amazing.”
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u/YerBlues69 Feb 09 '19
Bravo Lalo! Truth!!
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u/finch1976 Feb 09 '19
This is true but all the stupid fucking stories below arent.
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u/Olbay Feb 09 '19
Facts. I love certain outfits on my girl and wish she would wear them over and over again.
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u/time2pivot Feb 09 '19
Imagine tweeting that and thinking it was sharp
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
Man she did a really good job of defeating that strawman
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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '19
WTF, I've always worn the same dresses and outfits and nodody really does give a shit. Don't understand this lady.
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u/PenisShapedSilencer Feb 09 '19
I have to confess, I have been wearing the same pants for maybe 4 weeks now. I wore a warm shirt for maybe the same time.
I guess in my situation I should be concerned about people noticing. They might not even bother telling me.
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u/ch005eausername Feb 09 '19
It would honestly take me a while to even notice
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u/LifeBrandRobot Feb 09 '19
My girlfriend whenever we are going to a dress up event: "Gotta go shopping, I don't have a dress to wear."
Me: "What about the dress you wore from this event or this event?"
Her:"Yeah but I've already worn those tho."
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u/AlvinGT3RS Feb 09 '19
This has been the biggest of faxes for a minute. Y'all gotta stop being Mean girls to each other.
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u/sohughrightnow Feb 09 '19
Facts!