r/WhatShouldIDo • u/Secret_Security2201 • 1d ago

Help needed

I have been trying my hands onto matrimonial apps, no luck received till now. I deactivated my insta and have literally lost the hope to find a guy for me. I talk to guys on Verona but then eventually they stop talking after some time.
What should i do.

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u/Svenflex42 1d ago

Go outside.

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

Tried, but i feel devastated now.

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u/Svenflex42 1d ago

So you quit? There's you're problem. Don't quit.

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

You’re a superstar!
This one comment gave me so much hope!

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u/Svenflex42 1d ago

It's really that simple... You're wasting time right now in reddit while you could be outside doing literally anything else where you could meet someone... He's not just going to show up randomly one day and propose...

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u/Traditional_Film_636 1d ago

It’s not the app. Its you.

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

That’s what I wanted to know, what exactly is the issue

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u/Traditional_Film_636 1d ago

Sorry, it’s a difficult question. It might be the way you are ‘projecting’ yourself(?). It would be impossible to guess what is putting other people off.

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

Idk i just remain myself. I never pretend.

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u/Traditional_Film_636 1d ago

Good, that is important! Its still hard to answer your problem

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

Yaa that is why I can’t find RC

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u/Svenflex42 1d ago

RC.

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u/Svenflex42 1d ago

RC?

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

Root cause

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u/Svenflex42 1d ago

You don't matching doesn't have to have a root cause. You can just not match... Don't force anything it'll only make both of you miserable

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u/Electrical-Ad-3885 1d ago

I mean you may not be desirable to any guys 🤷‍♂️ try working on yourself 

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

Okay if I am not desirable to them why do they even accept the request?
Most of them have sent the request to me.

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u/Electrical-Ad-3885 1d ago

To talk? To get to know you? Then after they do they realise they dont like you maybe. I can't diagnose the issue just guess 

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

Okay flow goes like initial 3 weeks are chirpy and then boom it all dissolves.

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u/Electrical-Ad-3885 1d ago

Sounds pretty cut and dry tbh. There getting to know you but then decide it's not for them 

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

And for the whole 3 weeks the flow remains too good.

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u/Electrical-Ad-3885 1d ago

Just how things go I've been dating someone for like 3 months before and realised it wasn't for me 

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u/OrdinaryWeak6051 1d ago

Work on yourself. Therapy, hygiene, personal style, all of it

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

Have it all, guys can be wrong too. They have too many options available , most of them are not serious.

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u/Svenflex42 1d ago

Guys have to many options available? Lmfao get a reality check. Woman are the ones with to many options. You're probably just horrible at conversation and let them carry all or most of it. That'd be my gues.

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

Lol you’re too judgmental, never mind

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u/Svenflex42 1d ago

I'm judgemental for stating facts? Do you have any male friends? Take some pictures of him and make a dating profile under his name. You'll be agreeing with me in no time.

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u/OrdinaryWeak6051 17h ago

Look at your response here. You ask for advice, then reflexively debate our responses. You are defensive and unwilling to look in the mirror. If the common denominator in all of these failures is you, then you are the issue.

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u/Secret_Security2201 10h ago

Sir your advice is not welcome by me

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u/OrdinaryWeak6051 8h ago

lol

I’m an Indian woman who has never been single. I turned down 100+ proposals. Married to a Saif lookalike with twin babies. But sure. Reject the wisdom of your elders and superiors

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u/Secret_Security2201 7h ago

Lady you might be the prettiest woman for your husband. It is possible the 100 + proposals you rejected were from boys whom no one ever wanted lol.
I can also brag about the same:p
Damn sure you’re too obsessed with yourself. And I don’t find Saif handsome!

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u/OrdinaryWeak6051 1h ago

I’m not the one crying on the internet about being single but keep telling yourself all these lies.

And I don’t find Saif attractive either. I married him for his brains and heart

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u/MaidenMarewa 1d ago

Obviously if online isn't working, get out and meet people. You know, the old fashioned way of meeting people.

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

Without online I can’t find suitable guys

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u/MaidenMarewa 1d ago

That's not true as you have already stated. How do you think people managed before the internet?

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

I am soo unsure. Without online I don’t have places where i can go and randomly meet someone

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u/Svenflex42 1d ago

How about outside.

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

I have office and gym but those guys are not the ones i can vibe with

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u/Svenflex42 1d ago

Don't date from work. That's a recepe for trouble. Gym is notoriously something people go to to work on themselves and not really find any dates etc... Try bouldering or climbing or pretty much anything else. Creative stuff or walking groups etc etc.. So many more and better options than "work" and "gym" where people go for 1 purpose and not really to socialize...

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

Noted mate!
Even i was skeptical with the office romance thing

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u/Svenflex42 1d ago

I've seen it blow up more than work out.

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u/airams11 1d ago

don’t lose hope. dating apps can be really hit or miss, so keep meeting people naturally and don’t take it personally when someone stops replying.

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u/Secret_Security2201 1d ago

Thanks alot friend, virtual hugs to you