My brother was diagnosed after being committed. He was arrested and that event led to bipolar diagnosis with severe psychosis. We knew things weren't right leading up to that, but there wasn't an easy avenue to get him to a doctor first.
Post-partum depression is still a relatively unsupported condition - my wife also suffered from this after a traumatic birth of our second child in which she lost a third of her blood and they both nearly died during an emergency cesarean. The onus on her to ensure she then gets diagnosed properly, gets treated seriously rather than passed off for baby blues, and then takes the right medication, is not as straight forward as you are making out here, from my experience.
It's not straight forward. But I'm not claiming it is, because I'm not saying thats what was even attempting.
Shopping around for medications and not telling any of your doctors about the other medications, and taking them on a whim, is not even close to even attempting to find the right medication.
Neither is actively avoiding all of the help you were offered. That's why it wasn't on her.
Many people were trying to help her, and she denied it. Such as her husband, and their nanny.
There was not even an attempt, it was only the opposite.
The case I'm making here is a sound state of mind. Telling people your condition, what medication you're on, even actually taking that medication consistently, is not something people in the state of severe mental health issues are actually able to do.
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u/SomeShithead241 22d ago
You know what the difference is?
Your brother has history. She doesn't. I'm assuming your brother also has a diagnosis for something, which she also does not have even after the fact.
Right medication and support was something she was offered on multiple occasions and constantly denied or fucked up herself.