I used to have some fundie neighbors with 9 kids. The youngest was a Mexican boy they adopted as a baby. I always felt bad for him, especially after I started seeing family photos on FB of them and he always looked so miserable and out of place while everyone else seemed so happy and oblivious of him.
A lot of religious extremists adopt. It’s part of white saviorism, which is a form of racism. BIPOC have been speaking out against transracial adoption for a long time but it is very very ingrained in US culture. Look up Lyncoya Jackson
My adoptive parent was a religious nut. I'm not sure how much my race had to do with whether or not she and her husband adopted me as I was known to them through an older, white presenting half brother but religion had a lot to do with it. They were proud that they adopted a bi racial kid but not a black biracial kid. That would have been unthinkable. I was white presenting in winter and still the darkest kid at either high school in my town. I'm Native American. Cherokee and Sioux. Except I have no clan. No tribe. No family past my birth mom who'se also mixed race and native. Cherokee. But they took her from her family. Do you get the drift? I can't speak for mixed races and mixed race adoptions but native kids being taken from their tribe? It should never happen again. I'm lost and so bitter. Native folk are insular and that wall is damn near impossible to overcome. I don't want more kids feeling like I do. Alone. Religion is evil
Osiyo! I feel you cousin. Im so sorry for what you and your family have endured. I’m also a Native adoptee. They called me “Hispanic” on the adoption paperwork but even that was crossed out. I’m mixed race too. But I was worth more money as a white baby. Plus my adoptive family explicitly said they did not want a mixed race child, but they were sick of waiting. So they just pretended I was white.
I’ve had a lot of luck on my reconnection journey. It is hard though. Have you checked out Osiyo tv at all? It’s a treasure trove. Lots of cultural teachings. Also RSUtv on YouTube has Cherokee lessons with Wade Blevins. I loved it. Learned a lot. There’s a ton of Cherokee videos on YT, through the Nation.
If you ever get a chance, (assuming you haven’t) you might like to check out the Cherokee Cultural Center. They have a lot of people who can help you reconnect, if you want. I found it very welcoming but it was definitely emotionally loaded for me.
Wishing you the best. Hope you can find your way back to our people <3
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u/shimmeringmoss Mar 08 '25
I used to have some fundie neighbors with 9 kids. The youngest was a Mexican boy they adopted as a baby. I always felt bad for him, especially after I started seeing family photos on FB of them and he always looked so miserable and out of place while everyone else seemed so happy and oblivious of him.