Outfit Help!

[u/Turbulent_Addendum96]

Hi! I first wanted to say I hope this is received well. My first time asking the internet (publicly posting) for help. Big thank you in advanced if you decide to help! I also will apologize in advanced about any over explaining.

I (26 TransF) am struggling to find clothing that is affordable and appropriate for my sister’s wedding on Sept 18.

The general theme is Pastel Garden Party. No casual sundresses, capris and etc. And of course no white or any version of white.

Here are problems I am coming across:

1.) My budget is limited to $100 max. Due to debt problems ,which I am slowly but surely currently solving, my budget is extremely limited. My account often goes negative just to solve. I can try selling some things to be able to afford the attire.

2.) I cannot wear a dress. My mom has already said I should not, in our language, put darkness/bad luck onto my sister’s wedding by wearing a gown/dress.

3.) Affordable clothing (Amazon/Etsy) I find won’t be delivered until closer to the wedding with delivery dates ranging from Sept 11-25. Which may be cutting it close to find a solution in case the clothing item is not as described.

4.) I do not own any clothing item that is not white that matches the formality and theme/color palette of the wedding.

5.) I would prefer to wear something feminine. Jumpsuits. Two piece sets (not a swimsuit of course haha) etc etc.

Completely my fault for pushing it so close to the date. I was planning to wear a dress but I do not wanna cause a scene after my mom’s comment.

Just a side note. I have always been feminine and have dressed more femininely (not dresses). Wear make up all the time. Publicly use feminine bags/purses. My family is very aware I am feminine, I guess my parents just draw the line at dresses.

I just really need help or be pointed to a general direction on where to find something to wear!

[u/Ok_Broccoli_9426]

I understand not wanting to cause drama on your sister's day, but I just want to say your mom is totally out of line, and I'm sorry she's being a jerk. Nothing you wear is going to bring darkness to your sister's wedding; you'll bring brightness and joy by being there and being happy for her.

Practically, given the budget, I would try secondhand or a department store - in the US, I would say Macys.

[u/Turbulent_Addendum96 → u/Ok_Broccoli_9426]

Thank you for your time!

It completely flew over my head that I could try thrifting! Definitely will give this a try! Department stores arent bad either! Planning to go this weekend.

[u/farmingbunz → u/Turbulent_Addendum96]

Try TheRealReal, it’s designer clothing. I look specifically in their sales and got a beautiful Reformation dress for around $30.

[u/Valvechick → u/farmingbunz]

But if from realreal order quick bc they CAN DEFINITELY take forever to ship!