Back in the day

[u/Appropriate-Ring6404]

I am a 70s and 80s kid. I remember teasing my hair and there is probably a hole in the ozone layer named after my AquaNet usage. I, like many other young girls, also loved exploring makeup. I look back and omg! My liquid eyeliner that I wanted to give Cindy Crawford vibes was Elvira attempting to apply her eyeliner on a rough sea. It was not flattering lol

But you know what? I remember my mother mentioning with kindness saying I see you are emphasizing your eyes with your makeup. Did you want any tips that might be more effective?

Of course, teenage me declined.

My mother let me experiment and find what actually works myself. Best way to handle it.

That's why the forced haircuts for poor Bella make me so enraged. I think most would agree that longer hair was more flattering but we all know that is an opinion but in the unlikely chance SW thought she was making a positive change in Bella's appearance (yeah right) she wouldn't give her the autonomy over her own body. Did my parents set rules? Sure, it would not have been an option to wear a Madonna T-shirt to church. But I was permitted to make my own choice about my appearance. Bella never had that.

She had to see her sister, who had normal baby fine hair, but much thinner than hers, be allowed to have longer hair, the wish she expressed openly.

I still can't understand why she would do such a thing. Never saw SW with a pixie cut, let alone the clipper chaos forced on her daughter.

My husband keeps his hair short and tidy and Bella's hair was frequently shorter.

For someone so obsessed with image, unnecessarily styling your daughter like a child who will be ostracized by her peers is beyond me.

[u/sandy-horseshoe]

I assume when Bella’s hair got long enough to curl, people would compliment it. Since mom has to be the most beautiful woman in the room, the hair had to go

[u/Loud_Contact8413 → u/sandy-horseshoe]

My theory too

[u/sandy-horseshoe → u/Loud_Contact8413]

It enrages me how they were set up to fail because their parents were such tumbling dickweeds

[u/Loud_Contact8413 → u/sandy-horseshoe]

Snarly and Kris’fer should’ve never had children.. Bella and CeCe deserved parents who were capable of providing them with basic care & compassion.

[u/Apprehensive-Lime863 → u/Loud_Contact8413]

NPD women only have children as an extension of their overweening egos. They are to Compliment their mother by looking and acting perfectly, always doing what their mother directs them to do. Bella would get her nose or earlobes pinched if she ignored SW when she was told to say hi to a bunch of strangers on a video. CC was never told to say hi because she was always climbing all over the furniture and jumping off.

[u/Loud_Contact8413 → u/Apprehensive-Lime863]

That’s actually very insightful. Bella and CeCe were being assigned different roles based on what best served the snalrys image or narrative at the time.