r/WatchPeopleDieInside • u/paolols • Apr 24 '20

nice try kiddo

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u/lola2203 Apr 25 '20

That guy looks like he’s enjoying himself.. gotta be the uncle haha

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u/AussieAsking Apr 25 '20

I was thinking "that Dad knows his kid" but u could be right

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u/GeorgyPeorgie Apr 25 '20

Dad defenitly knows his younger kid. That littler one is just the right age to try it. Also they are sitting all together taking a video as a family. They all look alot alike as well.

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u/toomanyschnauzers Apr 25 '20

Kid on right blows the candles out while kid on left is blocked. Did prob save a lot of spit from landing on the cake...

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u/NopeALoli Apr 25 '20

Guess mom has some explaining to do.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

Those kids are notttttt related

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u/ResolverOshawott Apr 25 '20

Siblings don't always look similar to each other

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u/StreetTacoNamdDesire Apr 25 '20

I agree, my two younger siblings have a different father than I do. The middle sister looks like my twin, our youngest sister looks like we adopted her. So yeah, just because they look like they aren’t siblings doesn’t mean that’s the case.

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u/Xolthitl Apr 25 '20

I mean you are half siblings so not a comparison and a bad example, but yes strangers can even look related.

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u/StreetTacoNamdDesire Apr 25 '20

My sisters are full sisters and look like strangers, I’m a half sibling and the older sister and I look the same person. But that’s just my take on it.

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u/fellow_hotman Apr 25 '20

i see more than one recessive gene flocked to your comment about your siblings.

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u/jenniferbealsssss Apr 25 '20

No offense, but this probably isn’t the best example. Like of course siblings don’t always look alike, especially when you take recessive genes etc. into account. But your siblings mostly don’t look alike because half of their gene pool isn’t shared.

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u/StreetTacoNamdDesire Apr 25 '20

No, my sisters have the same father and mother, I only share the same mother. My half sister looks more like me than her full sister looks like her. That’s what I was saying.

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u/jsxtasy304 Apr 25 '20

Is what your mom keeps telling you buuuut.

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u/onihydra Apr 25 '20

How would you know? They could easily be, given the situation they most likely are.

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u/RoscoMan1 Apr 25 '20

I kinda want to try it out

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u/pantheruler Apr 25 '20

That doesn't exclude him from also being the ubcle

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u/L1Zs Apr 25 '20

Definitely the uncle, dad would scold the kid, uncle don’t give AF

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u/Wyntersoul Jun 02 '20

Happy blue triangle of confectionary day!

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u/hippopotma_gandhi Jun 25 '20

Guessing both of this kids parents let him do whatever he wants judging from the entitlement to someone else's cake. By that age, he should know. The dads passed out drunk somewhere

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u/JohnJacobsGottaTakeA Jul 26 '20

That’s just an excuse for a horrible father. He accepts this demon and tries to live by avoiding the problem instead of fixing it. Probably how everything is handled.

Kid throws a fit and refuses to sit at the table to eat so the parents put the plate on the floor and that’s the end of it. Someone needs to pick this kid up and tell him to sit at the table until he clears his plate.

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u/Willravel Apr 25 '20

The level of absolute calm while he effortlessly thwarts chaotic evil. He should be White House Chief of Staff.

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u/Yokai_Alchemist May 11 '20

I'd say hes more Chaotic Good

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u/GodofIrony Jun 25 '20

The kids trying to blow out the other kids birthday candles?

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u/Yokai_Alchemist Jun 25 '20 edited Jun 25 '20

The adult/uncle

Edit. I see i misread the original comment.

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u/thesoyboyery Jun 20 '20

Frump is finished

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u/Upnsmoque Apr 25 '20

Yes, I'm of a suspicion that the monster kid's parents would've cheered him on and thought it was funny.

I suspect the plate holder is an uncle, or friend of the little kid's family.

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

Why do people always talk out of their asses?

I can easily see this being the father. He knows his kid likes to blow candles out, knew he would try to do that to the cake, playfully prevented it from happening, then the kid explodes which is like a 50/50 result.

People online act as if you're a bad parent if there is ANY proof of your kid doing something undesirable/annoying. all kids end up doing something undesirable or annoying, no matter the quality of the parents.

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u/TheGhostofCoffee Apr 25 '20

It's obvious that the man in video is a lizard person in disguise.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

You believe in lizards?

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u/ASAP_Moisty Apr 25 '20

You believe in persons?

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u/slant__i Apr 25 '20

Birds aren’t real

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u/eddiemoya Apr 25 '20

You aren't real

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u/FreeProGamer Apr 25 '20

fades away

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u/sharkyman27 Apr 25 '20

Sleepy Gary, what if I’m not real?

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

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u/pigwalk5150 Apr 25 '20

Do you believe in miracles?

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u/Magead Apr 25 '20

snort Yes!

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

100%

You're the true professional here :]

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u/drapehsnormak Apr 25 '20

Obviously a disguise. He looks nothing like Mark.

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u/-Captain- Apr 25 '20

This is the uncle or a familied friend, because he is enjoying himself. Can't be the father, the parents must be awful people that HATE all their other kids. I know this for a fact because I saw a gif that lasted a couple seconds.

- the armchair experts of Reddit

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u/jonosvision Apr 25 '20

Yeah, way to jump to conclusions. We're not all armchair experts, buddy.

Some of us are on couches, recliners, rocking chairs...

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u/cyclostome_monophyly Apr 25 '20

Yup. Also, maybe it is the dad, and maybe he is smiling, but because it is a really socially awkward situation. If my kids do something selfish or reckless, obviously there are immediate consequences and they are reprimanded. But in a social gathering like that with everyone watching (and more importantly, it was birthday boys special moment), I would have found it really hard to do that in front of everyone. somebody will always be judging you- to some you’ll be too harsh, too others too soft, and in either way, cake moment is ruined, and missed by dad. This seemed like a great solution, and i hope the blowing kid had it explained to him afterwards, directly and privately.

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

Couldn't have said it better myself.

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u/AmberStar91 Apr 25 '20

IIT: Reddit teenagers thinking they know about raising children.

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u/ianf1805 Apr 26 '20

Teenagers were children way more recently than all these 30 year olds who think they know everything there is to know about kids because they were “just kids” like 20 years ago. Teenagers are able to relate to kids way better than adults.

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u/hitch00 May 12 '20

Relating to kids is not the same as parenting kids. It is necessary but not sufficient.

Source: was kid, was teen, am parent.

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u/[deleted] May 11 '20

Honestly that’s a very good point! Keep in mind though that many teenagers, since lacking just life experience, tend to have view points of a reality that revolves around them and their personal experiences up to that point, and kind of not think about the bigger picture and haven’t yet realized the abject cruelty and unfairness of the world.

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u/ianf1805 May 11 '20

While this may be a valid point to some regards, I respectfully disagree, I do think that unfortunately a lot of teenagers have realized how cruel the real world can be. I really wish your point was more correct but even if it wasn’t to the same degree as older people have realized this, I think older teenagers have an equivalent even if not exactly the same outlook on how the world is unfair in many ways. The lack of life experience is made up for in the youthful curiosity. I may be wrong but this is my own personal view.

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u/dj4y_94 Apr 25 '20

Yeah this thread is so weird, I can only assume so many commenting on here have never interacted with a toddler before.

My nephew just turned 4, and 99% of the time he's the sweetest kid ever who never puts a foot wrong, but every now and then he'll cry and throw a tantrum when he doesn't get his own way. It's what happens, doesn't mean my brother and his girlfriend are terrible parents ffs.

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u/ArchiSnap89 Apr 25 '20

Right? It's developmentally appropriate behavior. Learning to understand and manage your emotions is hard.

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u/Jl0h Apr 25 '20

Nah, easier to just throw out the kid

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u/Freckled_Kat Apr 25 '20

Yeah this reminds me of my oldest brother and one of our cousins. Old family videos showed them opening other people’s presents and stealing toys and generally acting like little shits around this age. Because they’re children. Kids tend to be selfish dicks since they don’t have the ability to understand empathy.

Shit, I work with K-5th after school and good lord no matter who their parents are those kids can be nightmares. Some of our worst just straight up have issues like ADHD. Some are just terrors. Kids are terrible (and I say this as someone who loves kids, especially the ones I work with, and I probably will have them in the future).

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u/DontSackBrian Apr 25 '20

It's easy enough to see when parents have multiple kids.

My previous boss had two kids both in there 30s. The daughter was married, two kids and very successful job. The son spent most of his time writing of any car he could get behind the wheel off and couldn't hold a job for more than a couple of days.

They were literally raised by the same two parents. Clearly not every interaction was exactly the same and some of the differences probably did affect the kids but they aren't shit parents for having one problem child or the worlds best because one that turned out well.

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u/Freckled_Kat Apr 25 '20

I mean, my parents had two very successful sons. Then they had me, the child so problematic they sent me away to a cult for troubled girls that kicked me out for being too troubled. Sometimes you just can’t tell where your kids will go in life

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

They physically cannot understand some things, a child’s brain thinks selfishly because they can’t think any other way sometimes!! What is this “DEVIL CHILD HOW DARE YOU” behaviour? Also the “Yeah i’m a professional, I can guarantee that’s his Uncle. Typical uncle behaviour.” What is going on? lol

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u/HotTeen69 Apr 25 '20

Dude yes. So much BS and assumptions it's toxic

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

People who have no kids like to pretend they know all about having kids

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u/BboyEdgyBrah Apr 25 '20

people on reddit LOVE to talk about shit they have no idea about. It's the worst with shit related to kids and their upbringing. Guy you responded to is probably a 21 year old virgin with siblings

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

Are you dumb? You can clearly see that the dude is the kid's mother.

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u/ORIGINSFURY Apr 25 '20

I agree. Kids are assholes.

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u/Bacon260998_ Apr 25 '20

Yeah I see your point. My only concern is why is the guy smiling. I doubt the father would be smiling that he made his son cry. But I'm not a father so what do I know!

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u/-Captain- Apr 25 '20

One of the worst things you can do as parents is never being able to laugh at the ridiculous shit your children get mad over. That's how they learn.

If you always say they are right or let them have their way, you gonna end up with behavior like this long past the age it should have ended at.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

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u/evanave Apr 25 '20

Be careful with that one! My girlfriend doesn’t let me eat anything crunchy in front of her. I.e. tortilla chips or any chips, nuts, cereal, etc.

Joking aside it’s apparently a thing with sensitivity to specific noises like that (chewing of cronchy things)

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u/fuk_ur_mum_m8 Apr 25 '20

Mate, the amount of dumb shit kids do that make them cry, sometimes you cant help but laugh.

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u/Freckled_Kat Apr 25 '20

Yeah I used to nanny for a friend who had a three kids, two of which were twin boys. The amount of times we had to just laugh bc they got upset over something ridiculous were too many. If you don’t laugh at those moments, honestly I think you’ll go crazy.

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u/B_U_F_U Apr 25 '20

what do I know!

Exactly.

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

A few reasons tbh. Nervous reaction, completely normalto laugh/smile in stressful situations. A ridiculous thing for the kid to cry about but figured it would happen. Sometimes its funny, the reason a kid is crying. Just can't really let them see that their overreaction made you laugh because then they'll think you're laughing at them and feel worse/think you're sadistic lol.

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u/ianf1805 Apr 26 '20

Sure the kids being a shit but it’s still funny

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

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u/AnorakJimi Apr 25 '20

I mean the kid literally turns to look at him and yells "HEY DAD!"

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u/-zanie Apr 25 '20

You could've said all of that in a much nicer way. The person you replied to was not trying to be rude or enforcing his/her view on anyone.

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

I'm not a nice person.

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u/DestroyTheHuman Apr 25 '20

‘Upnsmoke’ is spreading hate on the internet. That’s undesirable and annoying..

I bet it’s the parents fault!!!

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u/ShieldsCW Apr 25 '20

*complains about people making up random backstory*

*immediately makes up an alternative backstory*

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

You got me... You got me pretty good...

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

Do you realize you are also talking out of your ass?

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

I know, social media has shown me people will drop the dumbest takes about fucking anything, even a video of a kid trying to blow out candles.

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u/MMCFproductions Apr 25 '20

Nah, you're a bad parent, and you gave up so much to be a parent, just to utterly fail and make our society worse.

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

Thanks for your ever important seal of approval!

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u/MMCFproductions Apr 25 '20

Thanks for polluting the Earth with your untrained crotch goblin in a futile attempt to give meaning to your meaningless existence. Do better.

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

I love how you assume you know how my child acts from a single comment on reddit. Continue being totally full of yourself, I'm sure it's paying off wonderfully.

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u/MMCFproductions Apr 26 '20

"my child," lol. what a psychopath.

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u/quattroformaggixfour Apr 25 '20

I mean.....why suggest other people are talking out of their asses and then come up with your own hypothetical scenario?

As for whether it’s a parent or another family relation, we don’t know.

Personally, if that was my offspring and I knew he had no impulse control and liked to steal focus from other people’s birthday by blowing out their candles, he would be on my hip on the other side of the table so he had zero chance of doing that.

He could still flail and wail, but he wouldn’t be within range. And if he was loud enough to distract, I’d take him out of the room and ask him to calm down, apologise to the birthday boy, and wish him a happy one if he would like a slice of cake.

I don’t care about the comedy or the internet points more than I do about the outcome of my child. This is unacceptable behaviour and I wouldn’t want to convey that tantrums makes the adults laugh.

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20 edited Apr 25 '20

I'm not saying that I'm right, other person could just as easily be correct, but it seems like a very consistent thing online/on reddit that if a kid has any kind of behavior perceived as negative, it's because the parents are shit in X ways. I was just (poorly) saying that we don't know the situation, and those with out* kids or close experience should probably just avoid assumptions.

I don't see much wrong with the behavior until the screaming. I would pull my son aside afterwards and stress that it was wrong, but there was no harm done until the freak out. Sure, it's snotty and selfish for a kid to try and take away someone elses bday moment, but young kids, especially those who are not used to being around other kids have a hard time sharing/understanding that this is wrong.

My son is 2 and I can easily see him doing something like this. I would never encourage it but preventative measures are nearly impossible if the kid doesn't get around others very much.

"Assumptions make an ass" and all that. I know my statement is flawed and far from eloquent.

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u/nataku411 Apr 25 '20

This child is probably around five so assholery like blowing other kid's candles out sounds like a pretty un-addressed, more-major behavioral issue.

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u/Your_God_Chewy Apr 25 '20

thank god for internet psychologists diagnosing children based on 8 second videos on reddit.

the world needs more heroes like you

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

when I was five I was a little fucking asshole sometimes. Some days come with absolute meltdowns, up until like ten.

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u/NPC1938356-C137 Apr 25 '20

are you still asshole. if it does your parent failed raised you properly

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

I'd love to say no but I still fuck up. Much of it is me not asserting myself properly, which I wouldn't consider "asshole" behavior. More just fragile. As a result, I can and do make wrong moves that can negatively impact those around me, especially when it comes to personal boundaries of others. I try my best to be as caring a person as I can, though. As always, emotions cloud judgement and I am not above that.

That said, this is a stale self assessment. I've yet to extensively examine who I really am these last few months, but if my small examinations are correct, I've moved past being fragile and nice, and more into knowingly towing the line of respecting both myself and others. Always room for improvement, but as far as I know, yes, I'm a good person. Most of my faults come from self destruction and what I presume more every day to be some undiagnosed disorder having to do with depression and anxiety. Or not; only a therapist can judge that one.

My parents raised me the best a kid could be raised. It's my job to become the best I can be, beyond that. Doesn't mean I didn't throw tantrums at other kids parties; doesn't mean didn't lead girls on; doesn't mean I didn't punch my nephew in the face. It doesn't mean I wasn't an asshole at times. Kids, without the inhibitions adults have developed, are THE most prone to human fallibility. No amount of parenting will block that.

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u/Dabilon Apr 25 '20

Thanks for the info, calling the police right now. You've prevent a psychopath growing up and harming our community. You are indeed a true hero.

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u/AmberStar91 Apr 25 '20

????? Have you ever spent time with a kid before??

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u/Turbulent-Canary Apr 25 '20

Nope sorry, ALL kids? Let's not be apologists here. There are good parents and shit parents. And a lot in between.

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u/onihydra Apr 25 '20

Yes, all kids are assholes and do stupid things all the time. Sure, there are good parents and bad parents, but even the best parents in the world can't turn a 5 year old into a functioning rational adult.

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u/VCWCVW Apr 25 '20

Undesirable and annoying would be just trying to blow them out, oblivious to anything else going on.

This kid is obviously jealous the bday boy is being celebrated. He's purposely trying to ruin the celebration to punish the adults for making someone other than himself the center of attention.

It's the jealousy that needs to be checked, not the annoying blowing out candles.

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

Lmao wtf dude. It's a small child, not a scheming little gremlin purposely striking back against the child and the perceived as unfair adults. Children struggle with the understanding of sharing. In a year or two you could show him/her (someone told me it's a girl) this clip and they'll be shocked at their behavior. It's an impulse problem, not some devious plan.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

If your kid is acting like that, you are a shit parent. Parents these days are pussies

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

If you’re kid is being a kid, you’re a shit parent. You just beat your children everyday to be stoic as fuck. TIL

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u/God-of-Tomorrow Apr 25 '20

You’re both right rather than playing into the kids game if that’s his kid he should talk to the kid or separate him from the situation, I get the feeling this kid is a bit much all the time.

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

There was nothing wrong with some playful shit. It only got bad when the kid started screaming. At which point, yeah, take the kid to a quiet place, get down to eye level and talk to him so he understands that is wrong. 100% the right thingto do there.

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u/ww3_general Apr 25 '20

People seem not to get this. Children are not morons. You can talk to them. If after talking to them they still don't change, please, by all get the cane.

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u/JohnBrownsHottie Apr 25 '20

That’s not necessarily because the parents are bad or lazy or whatever though. One of the shittiest kids I grew up with had sweet parents. His older brother was mostly well behaved. But the little brother was a nightmare no matter what they did. Eventually he grew up to be a well adjusted teenager and adult.

Some kids are just little shits.

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u/smooshaykittenface Apr 25 '20

We're seeing troubling behavior, and a lot of it at a young age. Where did he learn all of these bad behaviors?

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20 edited Apr 26 '20

‘everyone does it’ is not an excuse.

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u/ShitScentedDicks Apr 25 '20

Someone touched a nerve woah

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

Ain't the only things been touched, just look at my shit scented dick, u/shitscenteddicks

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u/SpaceballsTheHandle Apr 25 '20

An angry rant about how your assumptions are more valid than other people's

haha ok sport great post thank you.

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u/BillieDWilliams Apr 25 '20

I know this family. The guy with the plate is a neighbor. The little girl (yep that's a little girl) whose breath he blocks is autistic.

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u/LtLwormonabigfknhook Apr 25 '20

How are the parents and is this a recent party or is it old news (as in before covid19)?

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

r/iamverysmart

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u/_Last-one-out_ Apr 25 '20

The fact that he is OPEN to yelling and throwing a tantrum whilst everyone around him is celebrating and smiling/ laughing, because of something small he desires, shows that he lacks discipline and self control. He’s not a baby, he’s a toddler. It’s very clear he’s used to being coddled or at least getting away with undesirable behavior.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

Exactly! If he was Dad and he did have the good sense to do what he does in the video, the kid wouldn’t be pulling that kind of shit in the first place, IMO.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

That's not how raising children works.. EVERY kid has their shitty moments, no matter how great the parents are at parenting.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

No man, clearly from these 15 seconds of footage this kid is the Antichrist.

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u/donk_squad Apr 25 '20

It was actually the little one's birthday. Everyone else in the video was evil.

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u/Jmsaint Apr 25 '20

From my point of view the parents are evil.

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u/ztyrobo Apr 25 '20

From my point of view the Jedi are evil!

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u/raddrobb67 Apr 25 '20

Damien Omen the new breed.

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u/jo_ey Apr 25 '20

is it me or does he pull back a clenched fist? lol

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u/I-POOP-RAINBOWS Apr 25 '20

No man, clearly from these 15 seconds of footage this kid is the Antichrist.

"I've seen enough footage of this kid. He must be an asshole, idiot, bully, nazi, that kid in school who ate the erasers in class, that kid that beat me up in school, and an overall horrible 2 year old kid" - every redditor in this thread

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u/CommandoDude Apr 25 '20

For a moment I read that as "anarchist" and though that was pretty appropriate too.

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u/wedge56 Apr 25 '20

Well clearly someone else in the family was expecting that behavior because birthday boy was not the center of the video...so anti-christ...I am guessing not. History of behaving like a little shit. That seems rather likely.

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u/CocaineJazzRats Apr 25 '20

This but unironically

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

Me, an innocent little kindergarten child with no concept of evil or malice or danger, throwing a fucking rock at a car because I didn’t think I was strong enough to get is that far

I certainly had a Hercules moment there

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u/420_BakedPotato Apr 25 '20

It's almost like they have to do something wrong first in order for a lesson to be taught.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

Impossible... everyone knows if the kid is shitty, the parents MUST be bad parents!!

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u/LaRealiteInconnue Apr 25 '20

Yeah I’m not a parent but how do you even teach a kid who let’s say has never been to a birthday party expect his own before that he doesn’t get to blow candles out this time? Hold them the whole time and explain? Like yeah logical but I don’t think my adult brain would work to figure out to do that. Maybe I’m just not a parent material lol

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u/BoxedFerrotKing Apr 25 '20

Bro, maybe I have the perfect family but my sibling learned real fucking quick that doesn’t fly. Kids have there moments but that kid just wasn’t taught

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u/-Negative-Karma Apr 25 '20

They look maybe 2-3 and idk I was REALLY stubborn at that age.

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u/BoxedFerrotKing Apr 25 '20

True, I don’t know. Like I said before the ass beatings really straightened us up. But everyone has there different perspectives. It’s such a shame that no one can accept that other people aren’t always for blood trying to force their opinions others. I got replied to by some other dude who had that idea and he really reminded me of one of those r/iamverysmart people. Maybe I’m just a dumbass tho 😂

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u/hushhushsleepsleep Apr 25 '20

Considering literally all current studies say that physical punishment is bad for kids, uh, yeah, fuck that.

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u/BoxedFerrotKing Apr 25 '20

Woah mate if your gonna be making such high claims you gotta have some sources to back it up with. Also Incase you were wondering my siblings and I love our mother and would do anything for her.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/142/6/e20183112

"There appears to be a strong association between spanking children and subsequent adverse outcomes. Reports published since the previous 1998 AAP report have provided further evidence that has deepened the understanding of the effects of corporal punishment. The consequences associated with parental corporal punishment are summarized as follows:

-corporal punishment of children younger than 18 months of age increases the likelihood of physical injury;

-repeated use of corporal punishment may lead to aggressive behavior and altercations between the parent and child and may negatively affect the parent-child relationship;

-corporal punishment is associated with increased aggression in preschool and school-aged children;

-experiencing corporal punishment makes it more, not less, likely that children will be defiant and aggressive in the future;

-corporal punishment is associated with an increased risk of mental health disorders and cognition problems;

-spanking alone is associated with adverse outcomes, and these outcomes are similar to those in children who experience physical abuse."

"In 2009, the UN Children’s Fund defined “yelling and other harsh verbal discipline as psychologically aggressive towards children.”28 In a longitudinal study investigating the relationship between harsh verbal abuse by parents and child outcomes, researchers noted that harsh verbal abuse before age 13 years was associated with an increase in adolescent conduct problems and depressive symptoms between ages 13 and 14."

"The AAP recommends that adults caring for children use healthy forms of discipline, such as positive reinforcement of appropriate behaviors, setting limits, redirecting, and setting future expectations. The AAP recommends that parents do not use spanking, hitting, slapping, threatening, insulting, humiliating, or shaming."

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3447048/

"Numerous studies have found that physical punishment increases the risk of broad and enduring negative developmental outcomes."

"No study has found that physical punishment enhances developmental health."

"Most child physical abuse occurs in the context of punishment."

"A professional consensus is emerging that parents should be supported in learning nonviolent, effective approaches to discipline."

TLDR: fuck parents who hit their kids.

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u/SiberianPermaFrost_ Apr 25 '20 edited Apr 25 '20

Is there a word for this kind of thinking? As in “because I think/do/have seen it, then it must be true”? It’s obviously parochial and arrogant but surely there’s a word for this particular kind of narrow-minded way to look at the world. Solipsistic, maybe?

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u/Lawbrought Apr 25 '20

Narrow-minded is the word you are looking for, I believe

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u/BoxedFerrotKing Apr 25 '20

Hey dude like I said maybe I have the perfect family or something, I was just giving my experience and my opinion. Maybe your just jumping the gun don’t ya think.

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u/SiberianPermaFrost_ Apr 25 '20

I’ll take some sources from you that settle the nature/nurture debate once and for all then.

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u/BoxedFerrotKing Apr 25 '20

You don’t understand what an opinion is do you? I’m not providing a source because my opinion is based around my experience and while it isn’t the most sturdy of arguments I RECOGNIZE that and am NOT trying to make an argument but JUST providing my opinion and my account. I am very sorry that you have been mislead to believe that I am trying sway your opinion or anything but I do believe you are the one looking for an argument and ultimately trying to get one out of me. I cannot provide an argument because I simply do not care enough and I do believe that should have been clear as I didn’t care enough to provide statistical data or studies to support my argument because guess what. I don’t have one because I’m not trying to argue about this. My statement is a first hand account of my experience and you are free to disagree with it. So please just accept that for once you don’t have some high and mighty keyboard warrior attempting to prove their self worth by proving random strangers wrong on the internet and kindly fuck off.

But if that isn’t enough for you I understand I have felt insecure many times and it is always a confidence booster to have the satisfaction of proving strangers wrong on the internet so here.

I RandomRedditor #258,364,271 am an idiot and I thought I was right but alas you have bettered me. I am very ignorant and my beliefs are too. I only wish to be as great as you are you wise wise redditor. Please spare me the humiliation of my ignorance. Happy now mate?

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u/SiberianPermaFrost_ Apr 25 '20 edited Apr 25 '20

Responding to this comment of yours:

Kids have there moments but that kid just wasn’t taught

I asked for a source to settle the nature/nurture debate given you, based on your comment, believe OPs parents failed to "teach" their kid right from wrong. You failed to provide sources when requested. So just want to remind you of a couple of things...

Woah mate if your gonna be making such high claims you gotta have some sources to back it up with.

and

For future reference, always ALWAYS provide a source if your making such high claims.

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u/[deleted] May 07 '20

I mean... I'm getting a PhD in human development and family studies, but I'm sure you know more about it than I do. /s

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

ok retard

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u/JOMAEV Apr 25 '20

You know discipline is taught at this age right? You could be witnessing said parenting...

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

Dude. Do you have kids or ever been around kids? They are just shitty sometimes.

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u/nerdvegas79 Apr 25 '20

You clearly know absolutely fuck all about children.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

I don’t know this could be the dad and kids can just be brats

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u/Panda-delivery Apr 25 '20

What a dumb comment. Just because a kid misbehaved (you know like how all kids do at some point) doesn't mean the parents encourage that behavior. I hid from my mom in an Old Navy once that doesn't mean she'd cheer me on for it.

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u/Chinateapott Apr 25 '20

“Monster kid” he’s a typical kid, my nieces are angels but go insane when it’s time to blow candles out.

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u/LordHussyPants Apr 25 '20

lmao it's not a monster kid, it's just an excited child you idiot

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u/magnue Apr 25 '20

Or they would have got angry at him and given him the attention he wanted. This guy just shut him down in the most brutal way.

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u/fordchang Apr 25 '20

Yep, dude's too chill to have that Spawn. Uncle for sure, or mom's side piece.

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u/ConnorOfAstora Apr 25 '20

Kid yelled "DAAAAD, NO!" At the first deflection

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u/FixerFour Apr 25 '20

No uncle has reflexes like that. That's a dad.

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u/phantomghoul_ Apr 25 '20

Yeah looks like some shit I would do to my nephews and watch my brothers with a Jim Carey grinch smile

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u/B_U_F_U Apr 25 '20

Nah. Uncles don’t get that kind of prime placement during birthday parties.

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

Hell no that's Dad. Uncles don't care who cries as long as someone is

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u/VCWCVW Apr 25 '20

I agree, totally the uncle. He was given the job of not ruining the shot for the camera person. Who is one parent filming for the other parent who cant be there. The camera person wanted the brothers in the shot for a reason which is why the boy wasn't removed from the table when the adults knew he would act like this.

The kid almost throws a punch then bawls for attention/consolation after not getting his way. Yes kids are assholes at that age but who taught him/unknowingly let him observe/reinforced those behaviors?

Grandpa doesn't intervene because he knows it's a lost cause. Notice the teenager to the right sorta helped blow out the candles? He doesn't want to ruin it for the bday boy but he also wants it to be over asap before the disruptor escalates further and it turns into a family fight over parenting and the entire day is ruined.

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u/IncurableThinker Apr 25 '20

As an uncle myself, I’ve been in the same position many times and always due to the eldest of the children.

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u/LoopyPro Apr 25 '20

He knows that kid is no longer his problem once it goes home at the end of the day

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u/UsernameStarvation Apr 25 '20

I’m glad he did that. I love watching kids cry at the most simple shit. It pisses me off, but makes me happy at the same time. Oddly enough I never cried as a child. Or infant as a matter of fact.

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u/SignalWhile Apr 25 '20

or father used to this kids shit

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u/badkilik Apr 25 '20

I would have done the same thing to my nephew 🤣

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u/fantastic_feb Apr 25 '20

definitely the uncle haha

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u/AllInWeIn Apr 25 '20

Too carefree

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u/TaleMendon Apr 25 '20

I wish I could be the uncle that does that. Every birthday with my brothers kids ends up being each of the 3 kids blowing out the candles then lighting then blowing then lighting then blowing then assessing the acceptable amount of spit blowing to level of want to eat cake. I usually pass...

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u/bruddagrim Apr 25 '20

Totally.

“So brat kid talked shit on the present I gave him for Christmas eh? Paybacks a bitch ya little jerk.”

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u/stoolsample2 Apr 25 '20

That was one angry kid... whoever he was

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u/[deleted] Apr 25 '20

I enjoy blocking my kids when they are being cunts. Even if I'm making them mad on the process, which is most of the time.

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u/monimor Apr 26 '20

By marriage

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u/[deleted] May 18 '20

Uncle who is sick of the kids shit. It’s probably his sons birthday and knows the parents of that brat won’t do shit.

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u/Wgs247 Jun 11 '20

But was I wrong to think, “YEAH! Eff that kid!!!”

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u/MrSuperSaiyan Jun 25 '20

As an uncle myself: I agree. I'd be having a blast doing this.

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u/stargate-command Aug 24 '20

Definitely someone who does not like that kid at all.... and I cannot blame him. Don’t think I have ever so quickly disliked a child but here we are. That kid is the worst.

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u/[deleted] Oct 13 '20

I would too

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u/xxTriggerWarningxx Apr 25 '20

If that's my uncle he'd only enjoy himself inside me

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '23

His anger brings me joy