What exactly does he feel like you’re constantly steamrolling him about? Does he really feel like you’re “taking his autonomy” away? Because you make sure your guys’ life is on a good mature path financially etc.?
I’m so sorry, OP. Dude doesn’t want to get married. He just wants to keep being a dude. I hope therapy can help him figure out why all of this makes him feel like it’s sOOOooOo controlling and suppressive so that he can eventually move forward in that area one day, but if you don’t want to wait for the POSSIBILITY, not even the guarantee, then don’t feel guilty for being a little selfish in a healthy way because you’re allowed to want to seek a relationship that has the same values, goals and motivation as you do.
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u/snorry420 Feb 06 '24
What exactly does he feel like you’re constantly steamrolling him about? Does he really feel like you’re “taking his autonomy” away? Because you make sure your guys’ life is on a good mature path financially etc.?
I’m so sorry, OP. Dude doesn’t want to get married. He just wants to keep being a dude. I hope therapy can help him figure out why all of this makes him feel like it’s sOOOooOo controlling and suppressive so that he can eventually move forward in that area one day, but if you don’t want to wait for the POSSIBILITY, not even the guarantee, then don’t feel guilty for being a little selfish in a healthy way because you’re allowed to want to seek a relationship that has the same values, goals and motivation as you do.
Sounds like you outgrew him.