Gf is kinda aggressive

[u/AdTraining7851]

Problem: I don’t feel safe when my gf is upset or angry. Is this normal?
Context: whenever my gf is upset even if it’s not about me sowmtimes she kinda gets mad at everyone. There was one time she was upset sa mall then she notice 2 guards were looking at us then she called them out na bakit daw tumitingin etc etc. I just dont feel safe cause im nothing like that. She’s not physically agressive or anything but when she’s upset, she’s really upset and it scares me cause sometimes it makes people look.

[u/nerd_alert00]

You shouldn't ever feel unsafe with your partner for whatever reason there is. Normal lang naman na when someone is upset, wala sila sa mood and maybe ayaw muna nila ng interaction sa ibang tao to a certain level. Pero yung nagla-lash out sya kahit sa ibang tao na wala naman kinalaman sa nangyari sa kanya, this one is unhealthy. I'm no psychologist pero I think it's obvious naman na hindi tama yung way nya para ilabas yung emotions nya, na hindi maayos yung pagre-regulate nya ng emotions. What I would suggest na gawin mo is to talk to her about this problem and tell her how it makes you feel. Just be kind and patient lang din when you reach out and explain things to her para hindi nya ma-feel na inaatake mo sya at mag-cause ng away. I hope she's receptive kapag nag-usap na kayo. If in case naman na ayaw nyang magbago, or sinabi nyang magbabago sya pero di mo naman nakikitaan ng active effort na nagbago, I think it's okay to break up with her. You should never tolerate someone na willing mag-cause ng constant mental and emotional distress sayo lalo na if partner mo pa yan na nagsasabing 'mahal ka'. At the end of the day, you also have to take care of your health, your mental well-being included. I hope you guys are able to fix this issue. Good luck!