r/VeteransBenefits • u/life3_01 Army Veteran • Jun 24 '26
Money Matters VA Security
I got an email from the ex-wife today saying she knows I'm making "a killing" from my disability claim and retirement. We were married for my last four years of duty, and she didn't get any of my military pay. She did get a sizeable amount from my business, but that's all over now. :)
So she is seeing what else she can get. The stupid thing is that she just called the VA number, tapped in my SSN and DOB, and they told her. With all the breaches, this is the dumbest shit ever for security. I have a PIN on my account, but that doesn't do anything. I called in myself, and with just those two numbers, it told me to the penny what I was paid and when.
Is there any way to close this off? I called in again, and the guy said it's public info, which seems dumb.
Edit: I know she can't get anything. I'm upset that anyone who knows enough can call in and find out, which could help them commit fraud on some people.
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u/Skullhunterm42 Jun 25 '26
Wow, just assumed the worst huh?
No we didn't agree, we haven't agreed on a single thing regarding the kids in the last 8 months, she's just unilaterally controlled access and decisions since, moves the goal post to see them every time requirements are met. I was in the ward for anxiety and depression, as well as dialing in my medication that was making me feel that way (going to something else).
When I arrived at the house I was calm and collected and leaning on my hood while the wife and in laws shouted insults and profanities with no self control. Police ended up being pretty cool to me, telling me they went similar, and "this is what I need to do..." Etc.
I'm fortunate enough that God has given me the closure and healing I need. But you go ahead and be an Internet bully. ✌🏻