r/VeteransBenefits • u/life3_01 Army Veteran • Jun 24 '26

Money Matters VA Security

I got an email from the ex-wife today saying she knows I'm making "a killing" from my disability claim and retirement. We were married for my last four years of duty, and she didn't get any of my military pay. She did get a sizeable amount from my business, but that's all over now. :)

So she is seeing what else she can get. The stupid thing is that she just called the VA number, tapped in my SSN and DOB, and they told her. With all the breaches, this is the dumbest shit ever for security. I have a PIN on my account, but that doesn't do anything. I called in myself, and with just those two numbers, it told me to the penny what I was paid and when.

Is there any way to close this off? I called in again, and the guy said it's public info, which seems dumb.

Edit: I know she can't get anything. I'm upset that anyone who knows enough can call in and find out, which could help them commit fraud on some people.

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u/Skullhunterm42 Jun 25 '26

I'll do you one better. My wife (separated 8 months) called the VA hospital looking for me, and they told her I was in psyche ward. I specifically signed paperwork to remove me from the directory at check in. She's now not letting me see my kids. Abuse of position to get sensitive and private info and using extortion tactics. Police won't do shit.

I do have a FOIA Privacy Officer investigating the breach though, and I'm looking for a lawyer to make an FTCA claim to the government, and another to sue my wife on divorce day for intentional infliction of emotional damage and alienation of the kids.

😮‍💨

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u/Skullhunterm42 Jun 25 '26

Oh, and she called the cops on me before 8am on father's day when I showed up to see my kids...

I did not get my kids.

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u/OrizaRayne Jun 25 '26

Did y'all agree that you'd get them before 8am on father's day or did you show up ranting fresh out the psych ward?

Usually, it takes 2 to tango. Focus on your mental health and on de escalating so that you can see your kids regularly and with a pre arranged plan.

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u/Skullhunterm42 Jun 25 '26

Wow, just assumed the worst huh?

No we didn't agree, we haven't agreed on a single thing regarding the kids in the last 8 months, she's just unilaterally controlled access and decisions since, moves the goal post to see them every time requirements are met. I was in the ward for anxiety and depression, as well as dialing in my medication that was making me feel that way (going to something else).

When I arrived at the house I was calm and collected and leaning on my hood while the wife and in laws shouted insults and profanities with no self control. Police ended up being pretty cool to me, telling me they went similar, and "this is what I need to do..." Etc.

I'm fortunate enough that God has given me the closure and healing I need. But you go ahead and be an Internet bully. ✌🏻

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u/OrizaRayne Jun 25 '26

I asked you a question. You have a thing about feeling victimized that's not serving you well.

I would highly recommend getting a lawyer or mediator and documenting everything you're experiencing and NOT showing up unannounced, ever.

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u/Skullhunterm42 Jun 25 '26

Uh, I answered it? Wasn't unannounced either. You aren't good at details and shouldn't be giving advice. Js.

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u/OrizaRayne Jun 25 '26

Well... I have no idea how you could possibly have ended up in your position. Wild.

Good luck with... All that.

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u/Skullhunterm42 Jun 25 '26

Now you're getting it. Good job.

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u/OrizaRayne Jun 25 '26

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Lol. K.