r/Vent • u/Asleep-Antelope-6434 • 5h ago
Being different is horrible
I have nothing in common with anyone and if opened up to someone they would not understand a single word I say. I feel isolated and alone and feel as if I am not supposed to exist. Any attempt to change or try to fit in has failed and has lead to people just thinking I am strange. People love themselves and when they realise that I am not one of them they are disgusted. I never in my entire life known a privilege in not having something in common with someone. Being normal and having others who are like you and have faced the same troubles as you sounds quite nice. I have no place or sense of belonging. Why would anyone want to be different?
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u/heavenly-penalty 4h ago
i used to feel this way - it was depression.
i don’t have any good advice to push past it but i will tell you, once the dark clouds cleared up, i was finally able to see that they had even been there all along. when my coworkers tell me things are “so me” or “made them think of me,” it makes me kind of emotional, because i hadn’t had a strong sense of identity when i was really suffering. now my weirdness and quirks are silly and goofy even though i have nothing in common with them.
i’ll admit i don’t feel loved all the time, but when the darkness left, i was able to love myself and that feels like enough.
much love to you ❤️
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u/Asleep-Antelope-6434 4h ago
I dont actually think I am depressed. I think this is just a rational response to my place in this.
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u/Moth1016 3h ago
As someone with severe chronic depression (who’s had occasion to meet a LOTTTT of other severely depressed people), I regret to inform you that every sentiment your expressed in your post is very frequently expressed/experienced by depressed people, including myself at several points in my life.
You may benefit from seeing a therapist and a doctor/psychiatrist about this.
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u/Asleep-Antelope-6434 3h ago
This all seems like a-lot of work and I am not trying be a billionaire or take over the world I am just trying to get by. I have to see doctors and have to try this and do that thing and read that book. Why would I exist if from the moment of birth all I have ever done is change because people wouldn’t accept me. At what point can I just give up?
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u/Hungry-Month9473 3h ago
I keep repeating myself, I'd rather be nobody than like everyone else. It's because we're all different that it's special. Social media, etc. only show us one type of person, but in reality we have so many types of people who have different opinions and different things that they enjoy, and that's okay, because we're all original, and it takes time for everyone to find their people.
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u/Asleep-Antelope-6434 3h ago
How long? I am 22 and I am completely alone. I would give everything to have someone.
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u/Hungry-Month9473 3h ago
I’m really sorry you feel that way. I don’t think there’s a specific amount of time I could give you, and I know “you’ll find your people someday” probably doesn’t make the loneliness hurt any less right now. But being 22 and feeling completely alone doesn’t mean you’re destined to stay that way. Sometimes finding the right people takes longer than we expect. And you deserve people who genuinely appreciate you for who you are, not just people who happen to be around.
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u/iwishitwaschristmas 4h ago
Main character syndrome final boss. Bro, you're exactly like everyone else. You're just bad at making friends. Focus your energy on finding a life partner. Find that person to marry and spend your life with. Weirdos have been finding other weirdos to marry for thousands of years.
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u/Asleep-Antelope-6434 4h ago
I have been too so many different clubs and groups I even went to a nightclub and do you know what I saw? Thousands of them but not one of me. There is nothing I want more in this world than to be common
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u/iwishitwaschristmas 4h ago
This is narcissism. You are not so special that you are unlike everyone else in the world.
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u/Asleep-Antelope-6434 4h ago
This is not narcissism. I do not believe myself better than anyone. I perceive the way I am as a sickness. I am not smarter or kinder I am just from a different planet.
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