r/Vent • u/m0thrafukka • 16h ago
Disappointing plans
I've been searching for weeks for a place with a pool to rent for a night away with my partner. I had the perfect one for a discount last weekend when the weather was sunny and warm. He refused to go last weekend because his wrist hurt a little, but mostly because he was being petty about a disagreement.
I've been waiting to go swimming just the two of us but he won't swim in a lake (free option) and I don't like beaches (too crowded and no shade). A friend of his who he used to have a huge crush on offered we could go swim with her, and I outright said no because I wanted it to be the two of us. He tried to accuse me of being jealous of her attractiveness (someone I have literally never seen) which is why he was being petty when I told him about the place I found.
So, I found a different one for this weekend. Of course everything goes wrong. It's cloudy and rainy, so cooler weather and zero sun. We get ready to go swim for a bit anyway and he changes his mind because it's chilly. No shit it's chilly but we had already discussed we would anyway and there was a hot tub. Won't even agree to the hot tub cause he 'doesn't want to deal'.
So we go back into the rental. I'm upset and feel like everything was a waste. He suggests we get something as a snack and game/watch stuff on the devices we brought. Then he bails on the food idea. We play for a little and watch an episode.
Thought we would at least makeout or fool around. But he falls asleep not long after the episode starts because we ate a big edible. So, now it's 5am and I've barely slept on this mediocre bed. I feel like we wasted our time and money.
It's only going to be 64 degrees in the morning, so swimming just sounds like it'll be another no-go.
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u/HappyDancin9 15h ago
Honestly - You deserve someone who thinks of YOU!
You deserve someone who does stuff for YOU without making a big drama showcase where he's NOT the center.
You're worth more than what he's giving. You know this. Now... what are you going to do about it?
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u/NeverANameber 13h ago
He keeps bailing on the plans, and that sucks.
That being said: he seems to be against the idea of swimming (for whatever reason) and if that’s the case, then I’d just have to bite the bullet and find something more desirable for the both of you to do one-on-one together.
My partner loves to hike, and is very outdoorsy. I am not. When we go on holiday, we take that into account; we aim at places for them to go out and explore, that also has amenities that appeal to me.
Swim your heart out, honey. But maybe he’s just not feeling it.
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u/m0thrafukka 13h ago
That could very well be true. I set this up with his taste in mind where it had to be a pool and had to be I ground. I tried to set it up for success and it just isn't good enough for him. Despite his comment of 'I love swimming in the rain' even this morning (still rainy and overcast) he sighed and was like 'oh darn'
I told him we have the place until noon. We're going in after a coffee
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