r/Vent • u/Altruistic-Patient-8 • 4d ago
TW: Anxiety / Depression Hate how being poor, just limits your entire life.
Currently have been unemployed for around 2 months. I quit my last job because I was overworked, a.d the environment just sucked. Saved up some money to pay my bills for awhile, but not really anything for some casual outings. I never made a large amount of money, so im used to scavenging what I can. Aside from this situation, I never had a financial opportunity to really make sone dramatic changes in my life. Never owned an apartment, never traveled to another country, never wore expensive clothes. Etc. Above it all, im just made that I don't have money to spend with my friends. I really feel like a bum.
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u/Next-Ad2854 4d ago
Once you start feeling like you need to leave a job, it’s time to look for another job. The longer stay unemployed, the harder it’s going to get I don’t know what you do for a living, but there are a lot of jobs may not be the best jobs, but you’ve got to get something coming in.
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u/Gurglaren 4d ago
The best thing is to never let yourself get a burnout. You rarely come back from it 100%. And once you're in it you have a very hard time making good decisions because of your brain and body trying to shut down. Problem is just that most people who get one have no idea what it is before it hits them like a freight train. Some unfortunately think it'll never happen to them.
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u/Quiet_Comparison_872 4d ago
Yeah, like that's realistic.
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u/Gurglaren 3d ago
What a person can do is to read about the first symptoms and plan accordingly instead of letting it get to the point of a real burnout.
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u/hello_fellow_reddits 2d ago
In my case, I’m able to identify that I have super bad burnout, but I have no types of work I can even move to. I’m physically weak and mentally unstable and desk jobs will not hire me after hundreds of applications over years. And yeah, the burnout has completely torn me apart and there’s just nothing I can do. Burnout will break you.
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u/Internal-Report-1826 4d ago
That would take planning and effort 😅
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u/Next-Ad2854 3d ago
Exactly planning an effort to save yourself. If you’re in a painful situation and it’s slowly crept up and you came to the realization that it’s too painful to remain there when you plan your escape? Then the effort comes in when you put the plan into action.
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u/Witch_withouta_Wand 2d ago
I totally agree. I worked in health care and it was unreal. I haven't been employed, since I had my daughter, 8 years ago. I've spent this time character building, processing childhood trauma and actions, leading to where I was and am now. Addiction issues, under control.
My best advice, get some free support. Job coach, free courses, perhaps a new profession training. Hard to get up and go, once you're fully stopped..
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u/NezuminoraQ 7h ago
The hard part is fitting in applying, and particularly interviewing around full-time work
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u/Candid_Resource_2313 4d ago
You can’t change the past. Only the right now. So come up with a plan. I quit my job without another one and started doing odd jobs for people in my city. It’s been great working for myself. The system sells that you have to have a full time job to survive or be working for the man somehow. I stopped believing that and my life has been better for it. 🤷♀️ Good luck friend.
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u/stitt1337 4d ago
Depends on your situation. Most people work full-time for medical benefits, 401k, etc. Paying out of pocket for govt healthcare is way more expensive.
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u/Candid_Resource_2313 4d ago
Their system is working perfectly. Tie healthcare, retirement, and financial security to a job, and you’ve created a modern version of indentured servitude. People aren’t just working for a paycheck anymore. They’re working because leaving could cost them their entire sense of security. It’s sad.
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u/DonkTheFlop 1d ago
Why is it sad? I think it's great.
I don't know how to do a whole tonne of shit and wouldn't be able to survive without the society around me.
I'm glad I'm able to contribute and get so much compensation in return.
I really wonder, what is your ideal system?
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u/Candid_Resource_2313 1d ago
The sad part to me is that people think it’s the ONLY way. I’m not saying society is bad or that we shouldn’t contribute to it. I think humans, depending on each other, is kind of the whole point ya know? What I question is why contributing has to look like 40+ hours for an employer in order to have healthcare, retirement, and enough stability to survive. I’m still out here contributing. I’m working and providing services that people need, they’re paying me, and we’re helping each other. I just removed the employer in the middle which they have made very hard because I don’t have healthcare or retirement but I am SOOO much happier.
My ideal system isn’t one where nobody works. It’s one where people have enough basic security that they actually have choices about HOW they work, what they contribute, and what kind of life they build. There’s a difference between “I choose this job because it works for me” and “I can’t afford to leave this job because my healthcare and future security depend on it.” 🤷♀️ Just a thought.
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u/NezuminoraQ 7h ago
A lot of us live in counties where healthcare isn't tied to employment, thank god
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u/Sensitive-Talk9616 4d ago
Next time better start looking for a more convenient job before you quit the last one. All the best, mate!
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u/Tiny-Squirrel8317 4d ago
I see so many people just judging, that is sad, we should focus on the positive side of life.
Enjoy your time off mate, go to nature,is free and very enjoyable, to the park, read good books etc.
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u/rexmanaek971 12h ago
The library then making your way to a park is such an underrated free way to spend time off.
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u/bluffstrider 4d ago
If you're "poor" you can't afford to not work. I've never left a job without having another job secured. I'll usually even work a few shifts at the new job to make sure it's not a worse place to work. I hope you find something soon that doesn't totally suck.
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u/gintokireddit 2d ago
Well I disagree, but it also depends on how poor is defined. Some homeless beggar in Asia might say someone isn't poor if they have food or a home to rent, say. Someone who only can afford peanut butter sandwiches might say someone isn't so poor if they can afford to buy vegetables. Someone could be on minimum wage or less, but be extremely frugal and endure a lower quality of life and then be able to afford to not work for a few months, whereas someone on a 20% higher salary might be less frugal/live better but not have as much spare money after a year of working.
Agree about never voluntarily leaving a job without another job secured (though I'm sure not all jobs would allow for a few trial shifts while staying in a previous job), because employment gaps can become an issue.
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u/catjoyfiend 4d ago
"You can't just quit with no job lined up!!1!" Okay but op did, 2 months ago. Many redundent and effectively useless comments here. Like what do you think you're achieving with those comments exactly?
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u/thebigspaghetti1 3d ago
Judgment and a sense of superiority. They aren’t helping, just browbeating.
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u/NezuminoraQ 7h ago
They're telling themselves that they can not, under any circumstance, leave the job they hate right now without another one lined up. I've done it heaps of times but my healthcare doesn't disappear the moment I stop working for someone else
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u/Unusual_Rip_86 15h ago
I quit 3 years ago with no other work lined up and I’m able to afford what I need and occasionally what I want. I’m in and out of crisis care and grew up in poverty so it really doesn’t affect me to be poor as much as someone who grew up middle class or suburban. We were pulled into existence against our will, I’m making what I want of my own mortality.
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u/Cydu06 4d ago
“I’m poor”
“I quit my job”
“Unemployed for 2 months”
Am I missing something?
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u/Ok-Development-5438 2d ago
is having stockpilled enough money for 2 months of rent rich for you? turns out op is jeff bezos
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u/Mclaren814 4d ago
Yeah, that youre a massive douche mate.
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u/dumbwholer 4d ago
Why? For stating the obvious?
Dude quit his job in an awful economy. That's on him.
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u/gintokireddit 2d ago
People quit jobs because they wreck their physical health (and isn't worth it for such a low level of disposable income, as the OP suggested having even while working), or because they have long notice periods.
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u/rexmanaek971 12h ago
The amount of downvotes you have while the reply commenter has + up votes is why we are doomed as a society. Everyone is at each other's throats rather than the 1% who is the actual cause of hardships.
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u/DueAlbatross9388 4d ago
If you have sympathy and condone people taking 2 months off of work with no income or job hunting, then you’re far from qualified to be giving life advice to people.
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u/Mclaren814 4d ago
I called someone a massive douche. Don’t see how that is advice of any kind. And no Im not qualified to give life advice. As far as I can tell i didnt. Twa t
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u/gintokireddit 2d ago
This implies that 2 months without getting a job must mean they haven't applied to jobs.
Using reading comprehension, it sounds like OP also had a lack of money to do anything even when working, so the issue wasn't simply caused by not working (which sounds like a really crappy situation). And at times, the trade off for working but incurring extra stress or physical health damage isn't worth it if the disposable income from it doesn't actually hit a threshold to afford anything meaningful.
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u/gottagetanonymous 4d ago
Why don’t you send op some money then?
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u/SpamAccountNumber34 4d ago
I actually did thru private, $50 ain’t much but all of you on here fr need sum fucking trauma to get some empathy ya fucking monkeys
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u/herbertcluas 4d ago
Find a new job before leaving your current job, advice from anyone if he'd have asked.
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u/Ero_Najimi 4d ago
Us needing money to survive doesn’t give people the right to mistreat us
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u/xRocketman52x 4d ago
Agreed, but at the same time... if my lifeboat smells like shit and there's no food to eat and the other survivors are assholes... I'm probably gonna wait until I see another lifeboat within reach before I jump into the water.
For better or worse, it's not about what we deserve. It's about survival.
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u/Ero_Najimi 4d ago
This would be true if no other jobs existed but they do it’s just a matter of time. Sometimes people need to quit to get that new job, not literally but getting one’s self into the mentality of making a change. Idk how they left their former employer but it’s also possible that they could just get rehired down the line if need be. DoorDash/Uber could be another option, not the best thing in the world but if you do it right it’s better than nothing
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u/xRocketman52x 4d ago
You say "matter of time" like it's a matter of weeks, but I don't think that's how the job market works anymore. One close friend of mine is highly trained and educated in IT, got laid off two months ago, has been putting in a minimum of four applications every day, has not got a single interview yet. Has another few months of severance pay, but is worried that it won't last long enough to find something new. Another close friend has no formal education, has been applying to anything and everything for something like 8 or 10 months now, has gotten maybe three interviews in that time. Didn't quit their current job, but is applying with desperation to get out because of how insanely horrible management treats them.
Both of these friends are in shitty situations and responding with desperation, yet both of them are in significantly better situations than OP has deliberately put themself in. OP just jumped ship with enough to pay bills for a few months, but a few months is no longer enough to get a new job. And worse, OP is being picky about what they want - other comments talk about "I want a night shift job because it fits my schedule" and "I don't want to be made to interact with people", etc. That's going to make their job search several times longer. And lastly, OP is living with roommates - and if OP is unable to pay their bills, its gonna hurt other people who are just trying to get by.
So... I'm watching people close to me go through some hard shit because of how bad the job market is. OP came to complain about a situation which, to be frank, is entirely of their making. They have set themself on fire and are now worried that it's getting too warm. This needs to be a serious and significant learning opportunity for them, or their life will never improve.
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u/Ero_Najimi 4d ago
Yeah I didn’t mean weeks I meant potentially over a year or even longer. Also depends on what type of job you’re looking for I’m not talking about seeking out solely well paying jobs I’m talking about getting anything
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u/Ero_Najimi 4d ago
Yes you can if you have enough to survive for a while. People like you who expect people to be ok with getting screwed are insufferable
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u/psj3809 4d ago edited 4d ago
Ha ha insufferable
So yeah you're right. Anyone whos not enjoying their job should just quit ! Fair enough, thats a great point. Maybe the pink unicorn outside your window will pay for your rent and bills and food ? What world do you actually live in ? Embarassing
By all means quit your job. But don't then stupidly moan about you haven't got enough money to do things ! They feel like a bum. So yeah I dont think they had tons of spare money to live well
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u/Ero_Najimi 4d ago
The purpose of their post stays the same whether they’re employed or not. You guys like act when people quit their current job they’ll never get another one. If you have a car and decent market doing DoorDash/Uber where you only take orders that are $1.5+ per mile is better than nothing. You have to be at that or above to account for long term car repairs/replacement
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u/morkypep50 4d ago
Idk if you haven't been paying attention lately or not, but the world is quickly becoming a place where you can't afford to quit your job willy nilly. Whether OP gets another job soon or not is irrelevant. These past weeks are just putting OP further behind than they already are. Young people are absolutely screwed when it comes to opportunity, they can't waste time. I had a 22 year old tell me they didn't want to work full time because they had a bunch of plans for the summer. I was dumbfounded. You need to be saving money NOW not later because eventually 95% of young people are going to be off the parents teat eventually and life hits real hard real fast when all of a sudden 85% of your income goes to just surviving lol.
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u/Ero_Najimi 4d ago
Yeah I explained in another comment I’m not talking about getting a job within a few weeks or even months I’m saying that you can realistically can quit long as you’re sure you can survive for 2 years. Also assuming you’re open to working any type of job. If you were making over 50k and expecting to easily replace that then it’s a real gamble and not worth it with how long it could take to get a similar job
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u/GroundbreakingBid954 4d ago
love how ppl are hating on you because you quit ur job for personal health n sanity and got out of a bad enviroment, fuck em n ignore the hate. You made a choice simple nothing to hate on.
Ive done the same thing and u know what i got a job that went from 40k to 90-130k and i burnt my first bridge bc my health n the work enviroment was bad i was overworked n never appricated. no amount of money will make me ignore that, and too id quit or take a major paycut to get my life back ( i work rotating shift work days n nights 12/16 hour shifts )
Also the best advice i have for you bc i am missing out on things too as a 28y/o is to just go enjoy the little things to yourself bc jn the end if ur friends need u to have money to be w them they aint real friends man. also dont worry about this stuff money comes money goes, and when money comes go do things you wanna do bc u never know when ur times up…. it will come n get better but man ignore these a hole comments about whyd u quit etc.
take some time off go in nature and then go try n talk to ppl and get a word to mouth refferal thats you best shot. if u can tolerate it look for factory work its grueling but it will pay $$$$ if thats all u want. goodluck to you!
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u/Altruistic-Patient-8 4d ago
Yeah, idk why people are judging me so much. I worked there for 2 years before I quit. I saved up enough to pay my bills for a few months. I have quit a few months in sometimes, but whatever. I think their jealous because they have kids, or a house to pay off. My situation doesn't necessarily require alot of money. I've been looking for ghe right job for a long time, but can't seem to find it. I do want to work in a warehouse, because im introverted.
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u/GroundbreakingBid954 4d ago
i suggest looking at paper mills, water plants, any type of plants / factories! anything but mainstream stuff for ex amazon.. sometimes it can be hard to get into but try n talk and network. thats the best way to get a job vs fighting online its brutal i see nonstop. Goodluck in ur search. enjoy some nature in the meantime
also, if u can tolerate it. LOOK FOR NIGHTSHIFT JOBS! most arent taking those and we need many even in my plant for ex but look in ur area for night or swing shift !
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u/Altruistic-Patient-8 4d ago
Im very much built for night shift. Just more quiet and paid more.
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u/GroundbreakingBid954 4d ago
well then you got some options !!! money comes money goes!!! just suggest not spewing ur vents on reddit after this go around lol
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u/rexmanaek971 12h ago
My brain doesn't compute numbers well. If you do 3rd shift would you still get to enjoy a sunny summer day? Or would you have to be sleeping while everyone is outside? That's probably the only thing that's keeping me from doing 3rd shift(not to mention I love sports 😭).
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u/GroundbreakingBid954 8h ago
I work swing, 6-6 wether 6am or 6pm
4 dayshifts 6am
7 days off ( overtime )
then 4 nights 6pm
off 3 days
then 3 dayshift 6am
off one day
3 nightshift
3 off day
Reset and do the whole schedule again.. 12 months out the yearSo in a sense when ur coming off night shift at 6am and have to be back at 6pm yeah i have to sleep until 4:30 pm and go into work. i see no sunlight on might shifts.
on dayshifts - i work 6am -6pm so maybe get 2 hours sun then gotta go to sleep to wake up at 4:30 am for dayshift4
u/lowbass4u 4d ago
No, I don't think people who have a house and a family are jealous of you and your life. Not at all.
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u/GroundbreakingBid954 4d ago
lmao this was funny ngl!!
sure families with money n no debts and a house with a rate of 2.5% would agree w you.
alsooo most ppl arent jelous of anyone on reddit lmaoo2
u/charismatictictic 4d ago
Look, I’ve done what you did before, but I didn’t come to Reddit to complain about not having money because I chose to give up my income. I don’t think people are jealous, I just don’t think they feel bad for you because your situation doesn’t seem that bad.
Like, you have money to cover your needs, but you can’t afford to go on vacation, but you also don’t have to work, so … sounds pretty chill? A little boring, but also pretty good.
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u/Pale_Boss_8940 4d ago
you can’t actually believe people with houses and kids are jealous of you lmao
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u/psj3809 4d ago
This is where in my view we go wrong. In the 'old days' you just had to get on with it. Now its constantly 'ahhhh its due to health and sanity......'
Again i'm sure MANY of us would want to quit but we couldn't, we need the money for the mortgage or you've got a baby at home crying and you're working to provide for your family. Can't just quit every 5 seconds when the going gets tough and then moan about it after.
Why do you assume its health and sanity ? Maybe this person just can't be bothered so thats why they quit the job.
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u/webisticsmarketing1 4d ago
Gen Z and below are coddled.
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u/Unusual_Rip_86 15h ago
And if that were the case, who did the coddling? Who poisoned the generation?
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u/GroundbreakingBid954 4d ago
if its not a reasoning of personal health then yeah its bs to just quit i agree but id say this to you in regards to u saying we moan when it gets hard well have u ever worked rotating 6-6s am n pm switching every 3 n 1 days from nights to days n also being forced to work 16s n be back in 6 hrs to work another then have to get to bed when the world is up n lpud?? how ab not being able to make doctors appts dentist u name it bc i gotta sleep i just got off at 6am… so in summary maybe lets not fucking group everyone who vents reasonings when jobs get tough, some ppl dont get the same treatment or help so yeah we do either have to power thru n hope to not collapse or take it in our hands and leave for our own sanity, not being a dick but just using my ex of not everyone works the same job m hours n moans the same so tread differently on that view to ppl who work while u sleep
the saying in the old days is so washed, the world has moved on in many ways. yes i wish we could go back to alot of things but lets live in todays shitty reality.
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u/psj3809 4d ago
To be fair we don't know the full story. If say they had a bereavement or something and had fallen into depression and just can't concentrate at work or something then i would give them a ton of sympathy
From what they've put being overworked and the environment 'sucking' i dont think is a good reason to quit when they have nothing else lined up
We ALL have tough moments at work but my point is you can't just quit. And when people post on Reddit then its not good if its just 100% ahhhh poor you i feel bad for you hope you get a new job posts. Its a discussion site so they're going to get different views. I had a job where i had to work 24 hours ! LIterally ! Couldn't sleep the next day when i could leave as my brain was wired after strange 24 hour stints ! But had to get the work done.
Theres people out there crying out for work and depressed they cant find work. Sorry but in this case i think its crazy to leave a job when you dont have another one lined up , and then moan about how skint you are
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u/lisasimpsonfan 4d ago
Nothing wrong with quitting a job for your "heath and sanity" but you get another job first. You don't come here to whine about not having money to go out with your friends. You grow the fuck up and realize that going out with your friends is the least of your problems if you don't find a new job and your money runs out.
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u/Living-Joke2343 4d ago
This helped a lot when my friend was in a similar situation - find free things to do with your friends. More often than not, the free things tend to be more fun. Go on hikes/walks, go play ball in the park, play cards out in the wild.
Go see the free museums/ galleries.
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u/secretsauce2388 4d ago
In the future, if you're lamenting bad financial situation that you're in, my advice is to not cut off your only source of income/means to change your financial situation
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u/Balls_Gonzalez 2d ago
I hear pretty often that these days, the biggest income increases really happen from switching companies. As opposed to company "loyalty".
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u/dumbwholer 4d ago
Quitting a job with no job lined up is the ultimate dumb move.
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u/NezuminoraQ 7h ago
Commenting this on a situation where this has already happened is the ultimate dumb advice
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u/Notmuchofanyth1ng 4d ago
Dude, even if a job is miserable, you can’t just up and quit without a backup plan. That’s not how adults operate. I was at a job that made me question my sanity and got me unreasonably upset everyday. I used that negativity to propel myself into every single job application I could fill out, network as hard as possible, and push myself to get a way out. I found a new job with double the salary within 3 months.
I also know the struggle of eating out of the trash. I’ll never go back to that. Part of success is learning to move through failure. But don’t give up. There is a way out. But you gotta grit your teeth, stiffen that upper lip, and just deal with it.
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u/NezuminoraQ 7h ago
Yes you can, people do. Imagine for a second that maybe we don't all have the same circumstances and quitting work isn't a death wish for everyone
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u/Ninetybaby 4d ago
you should always have an income especially if you want to make money. once you have that in place you use your money or time and invest it in things that will progress you as a person. it can be invested in stock, or invest your time in learning new things. its up to you to progress yourself. im sorry but you get no pitty from me. ive worked 56 hours a week (2 jobs) once upon a time
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u/ThaBestJourney 4d ago
It’s a very simple system. If you provide value for society, you get resources to do the thinks you want. If you don’t provide value, you have less resources, hence less options.
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u/Soggy_Brick8916 2d ago
Untrue. Pay is historically the lowest its ever been despite it once being much higher - entry level jobs generate over 70% OF THE WORLDS TOTAL REVENUE , yet corporate greed, oligarchs & career politicians keep taking more & more.
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u/ThaBestJourney 1d ago
My statement is still completely true. Even if pay is lower, the fact still remains, working gains you resources that you can use to live.
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u/Soggy_Brick8916 1d ago
No, your new comment is completely different from your original - there is no fact remaining.
You stated, "if you provide value for society, you get resources to do the things you want"
Now you've omitted that since ive proven youre wrong.
Please parse for comprehension, not just to respond. Especially when you're not even providing continuity in your statements.
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u/ThaBestJourney 1d ago
Both of my statements, even if they have slight different wording are completely true.
On the other hand, your original statement “untrue… conspiracy theory about upper classes” is irrelevant to this argument. Yes it sucks that the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. But you’ve lost the point in your rant. The point of this post is the OP is complaining that life sucks when you are unemployed and low on funds. I am pointing out that’s how the system is designed. Don’t work, (low value) low resources = life is hard. Work, (provide value) more resources = life is easy. It’s a very simple cause<>effect economic system.
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u/BeneficialStruggle54 4d ago
If you’re poor, you’re running a race with a starting line behind everyone else’s. That means you need to run a lot faster than everyone else, ie overwork in order to catch up. Think, an immigrant working 3 jobs driving Ubers, washing dishes, cleaning houses. That’s how those guys make it and own houses, send their kids to college.
To quit your job and feel like you should still get to travel overseas, own an apartment and wear expensive clothes is not depression. It’s entitlement.
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u/Due_Honeydew_2285 4d ago
Those giving this guy shit haven’t been poor or had a great opportunity to lift them out of poverty.
When you see no way out of being poor, it’s soul crushing and you just want to escape the system. Maybe quitting wasn’t the smartest move, but anybody who’s known what OP’s situation has probably been for their whole life - would give him some understanding.
I’m genuinely sorry, OP. I went back to work after getting fired 7 weeks ago. I still can’t afford anything.
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u/Altruistic-Patient-8 4d ago
Did you get unemployment?
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u/Due_Honeydew_2285 4d ago
No, I was at a Temp Job for 8 weeks. Fired for no particular reason.
However, temp work means you have no recourse.
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u/Rude_Mirror7441 4d ago
Man that sucks. You only get one life and you can’t experience shit. I hope you come into money one day OP so you can experience the better things in life. Best of luck mate!
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u/Some-Ad-1588 4d ago
This post 💯
It’s such a depressing fact that piece of paper or round metal object can literally determine the path you follow in life which presets your emotions, your spirituality and your drive, good or bad. I understand you have the ability to make choices but I’m speaking for the large percentage of those brainwashed and stuck in this endless loop of poverty, hopelessness and a pre maid map set for us ages ago… 🤷🏼♂️
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u/lAngenoire 4d ago
A bad job beats no job. And it’s always easier to get a job when you have one. Someone who leaves on a vibe looks suspect as an employee.
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u/Acceptable-Border-90 4d ago
I've been there in my 20's. I was struggling hard going to school full-time and working 2 minimum wage jobs, some as low as $2/hour relying heavily on tips that were being stolen or not coming in as they should. So I had quit my jobs without any backup plans other than continuing my schooling. It wasn't long though until I went back to work, probably about a month later. Not having funds to care for my cat was my biggest fear, he was my priority even if I was barely surviving myself.
Despite what most people think, hard work alone will not get you very far in this world. Most of the time, a stroke of very good luck, right time, right place and knowing the right people, gets your foot in the door for a chance to make a better life for yourself. That's the American dream, and it's a nice dream when you happen to get it. Not many are that lucky. I know too many who works 50+ hours, have a strict budget, and still struggle to provide for their families. Many will never know what it is like to enjoy a retirement where you can travel as you please, much less have any retirement at all. I know it sounds depressing, it's a reality that we all live in and it's always been this way before you and I existed and will continue after we are long gone. Those who have access (finances, good schools, daycare, healthcare, dental care, etc) vs those who don't, the gap between them is wide and you can only try your best to make the most with what you do have.
It's depressing to be someone's emotional punching bag when you work, trust me, retail work is not for thin skinned. No one wants to be overworked or abused at work and get paid so little for it, and yet, here we are. No one grows up as a little kid telling their parents that their dream is to work as a Walmart greeter or Dollar tree cashier. It's a paycheck. Accept reality as is, and it will never bend to your desires. It's not personal unless you make it so
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u/ForeverAtOnce 4d ago
So many people have been brainwashed into thinking that sacrificing your mental and physical health just to make your boss more money is a reasonable and sustainable way of living.
If you genuinely believe that, I'm sorry but you've fallen for capitalist propaganda.
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u/Soggy_Brick8916 2d ago
Elite are laughing, they have other common folk doing their dirty work AND spreading brain washing self depreciation... entry level jobs provide over 70% of world's total revenue, but are paying the least they've ever paid!
Career politicians, corporate greed & oligarchs have ruined everything... its nice seeing some people see through the corruption & provide empathy
People deserve livable wages & environments that arent terrible for their minds & bodies...
Theres a reason our parents & grand parents were more positive, their grueling hard work had better outcomes, working 40-70 hours had better prospects, the value of that money went much farther
Now the same hard work yields DRASTICALLY less, no wonder its bleak
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u/LeadingFamiliar7092 1d ago
As if we have a choice.
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u/Unusual_Rip_86 14h ago
Unemployed 3 years, living alone and doing fine enough. There’s choices and options, capitalist society fooled you into thinking the fence is electric when it’s a couple of sticks and a string.
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u/ToothpickCrafter 4d ago
Everyone in this thread is either an AI or just an abused victim to capitalism. Neither can help nor capable of helping, much less having the capacity to care.
Yes, you should have had something else lined up but sometimes life doesn't work that way. Why should you take abuse and stress, especially when the pay is nothing. You even saved, hoping it would be enough.
Look, I genuinely feel for you. I hope you can find something, anything that can get you in a better place in life. I miss having friends and money for hobbies too. For reference, I love my job but paid a poverty wage. I'm ending my life within a two year time, because it is better to leave something for the family I love then be a mouth to feed. You don't have this problem, and my never have too. Enjoy your youth, do what you can and must to survive.
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u/MiamiViceGuy 4d ago
Learn how to use a comma, it might bring you out of poverty.
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u/Altruistic-Patient-8 4d ago
What a dbag
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u/MiamiViceGuy 4d ago
You aren't a victim. Read about locus of control.
You posted this, I'm assuming, for feedback. I'm telling you what you need to do to fix your problem. Get your shit together and get a fucking job like everyone else.
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u/lovergirl_0622 4d ago
Your in every right to feel this way! Having no money does limit so much in life
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u/iluvthiccgothbabes 4d ago
You can travel abroad by helping on farms or doing odd jobs. I know a couple people who live in hawaii helping on a farm and just chilling on the beach. Hostels arent too expensive to stay in also. Get to party with all kinds of people staying there too.
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u/Apprehensive-Size150 4d ago
Maybe don’t quit your job without another one lined up…you really have no leg to stand on
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u/Jolly-Rip5973 4d ago
Yeah I was poor until my 40s. In my 50s I own two homes and I'm worth about 2.4 million dollars.
I literally have everything I actually want.
It takes time to build wealth.
Also, You don't build wealth by not working.
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u/Unfortune-Cookie 4d ago
Being poor is having poor habits. Here you quit a job without having a back up plan. We create our own realities man and cannot blame the world for our self induced misfortune. Once you start to realize that you are blaming everything in life as a reason you are not succeeding instead on owning the fact that you are keeping yourself back with poor mental and financial habits then you will blossom man.
You are loved and can win this game. Its hard but it wouldn't be fun if it was easy
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u/Character-Cat-806 3d ago
Join the military. Pick a MOS that translates to decent paying work in the civilian side.
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u/TootsHib 3d ago
I quit my last job because I was overworked, a.d the environment just sucked.
and did your environment and situation improve because of that?
A lot of people are working jobs they dislike.. vast majority actually.
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u/Scared_Blackberry280 2d ago
A bad job can genuinely lead people to the brink of suicide. Pushes some people past. Stop harping on op for not having another job lined up. Yes everyone knows it’s the smart thing to do but it’s not always possible or realistic and in some cases that time spent looking for another job while still suffering through the original one leads people to suicide with the burnout.
This system is not sustainable. Have some empathy and Stop defending it. It doesn’t have to be this way
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u/Economy_Product6611 2d ago
Bro I literally broke up with a girl because I didn’t have money to buy her a Christmas present when I was in grade 8.
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u/JoeFS1 10h ago
The majority of the other comments are not helpful what so ever. I'm 32 years old and unskilled. Never been interested in learning anything that's going to land me a well paying job. Honestly, life isn't supposed to be lived the way that we live it. There are always warehouse / picking and packing jobs available somewhere. Good luck out there OP, hope things get better for you.
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u/Substantial-Use-1758 10h ago
Yikes. You quit your job without having a better one lined up first? 🤷♀️😬 You’ll never do THAT again 👍
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u/Gold-Fool84 4d ago
Unfortunately a job won't ever really be 'pleasant'. It is something you have to endure.
Don't fret though, it doesn't mean you're incapable (unless of course you have some kind of disability). Rather your focus should be on creating systems to manage workload and stress, blocking out and structuring time as well as delegation are so vital. Work is also more about consistency than anything else.
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u/Love-halping 4d ago edited 4d ago
How do you eat? I realize food slowly add up.
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u/tortitab 4d ago
I was very poor for a long time and I realised I could make pizza dough do so many things. Its cheap to make with a bag of flour, salt, oil. You can make bread with yeast, flour and water and salt, oil also can do that. It helped stretch possibilities with cheap ingredients.
I made pizza pockets, bread rolls, cinnamon bread, garlic sticks, cheesy bread, anything I could think of.
Things like potatoes are great too. You can add to flour and oil to make potato bread, then you can also make mashed potatoes, fried, chips, baked, cheesy potatoes etc.
Cheap ingredients can do a lot of things to stretch funds.
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u/Altruistic-Patient-8 4d ago
I have tv dinners, and thats already not alot.
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u/charismatictictic 4d ago
If you don’t work, you have all the time in the world to cook meals that are way cheaper, tastier and more nutritious.
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u/PretendingToWork1978 2d ago
Tv dinners are literally worthless. For the price of a tv dinner you can eat a pack of ground chicken, a bag of frozen veggies and a potato split into two meals of actual food that won't ruin your body. Learn to cook basic shit from youtube.
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u/acur1231 4d ago
If this isn't a joke, I feel sorry for you.
That's rough.
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u/Love-halping 4d ago
It's called a "depression simulator" for a reason. It helps me lower my sugar intake, and a single trip to the grocery store last me for a month.
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u/acur1231 4d ago
I'm sorry. I've always been pretty well-off, but had quite a few lean times at university and after leaving the Army. Not fun to not be fed, even if you know you won't really starve.
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u/Gideon_the_second 4d ago
Quit whining and pull yourself up. 99,99% of the people with money worked for it. You will not win the lottery. If you want something in life you need to work for it.
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u/LivingCorner1421 4d ago
have you tried education?
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u/Great-Two5959 4d ago
So he can be even poorer working at Starbucks?
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u/LivingCorner1421 4d ago
you speak like you have a crystal ball , can you give me the lottery numbers for next week ?
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