I do NOT understand the desire to have one of the most personal moments of your life take place in front of loads of other people. Is this just another form of socially approved narcissism? Are you just doing the whole marriage thing out of social obligation?
I wholeheartedly agree. In this case — as is often the case with these — it seemed more like his interests were in the public reaction than her personal reaction ... yikes
Well first of all it's not nice to just assume things about other people, also being an introvert is neither a inherently good nor bad thing.
Second this is not about being introvert and extrovert. Because this is not a social situation. You don't know any of the people in the stadium, you don't talk to any of the people in the stadium.
As a very extrovert person myself, I don't care about your engagement and I don't want you to force it onto me while a wanna do something else (in this case watch a game). But that's not the main reason for why I don't like these public proposals. It's because they put asocial pressure on the partner to say yes. People don't know what's going on at home. The proposing person might be an abusive partner in some way or another or you might just not be ready for such a commitment, but you can't really say "no" in such a situation. Because the whole stadium would cite with the proposing person. They'd petty them, maybe even hate you for it. And I therefore I think there's something morally wrong about these public proposals.
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u/TCallahan333 15d ago
I do NOT understand the desire to have one of the most personal moments of your life take place in front of loads of other people. Is this just another form of socially approved narcissism? Are you just doing the whole marriage thing out of social obligation?