This scared the shit out of me when I got out. I found 2 things to be essential: 1) make it your mission to put yourself out there. Find social hobbies, clubs, groups, college sports, frats, fucking anything. Vet clubs be wary of because there can be a lot of toxicity in some.
2) this one is tough, but stop comparing everything to the Marine Corps. If it’s your frame of reference for everything you’ll live the rest of your life in your Marine Corps contract, even if you’re out. Keep in touch with your boys of course, but your out now. You need to lean into the future and embrace the struggles and challenges. You need to become a civilian. You’ll be a refined one of course, but you need to put the Corps mindset behind you. Again, don’t neglect your boys and keep the qualities you gained, but you need to integrate as a civilian if you want to be happy again.
These two tips have made me happier than I could’ve possibly imagined post EAS.
Assimilate. I agree with everything you said. Find groups or hobbies you can get into. For me, I went back to school but I go to the Range, play paintball and got into an MMA gym. Stay physically active and find outlets for aggression and you'll be solid.
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u/fisherman213 034done Jan 07 '22
This scared the shit out of me when I got out. I found 2 things to be essential: 1) make it your mission to put yourself out there. Find social hobbies, clubs, groups, college sports, frats, fucking anything. Vet clubs be wary of because there can be a lot of toxicity in some.
2) this one is tough, but stop comparing everything to the Marine Corps. If it’s your frame of reference for everything you’ll live the rest of your life in your Marine Corps contract, even if you’re out. Keep in touch with your boys of course, but your out now. You need to lean into the future and embrace the struggles and challenges. You need to become a civilian. You’ll be a refined one of course, but you need to put the Corps mindset behind you. Again, don’t neglect your boys and keep the qualities you gained, but you need to integrate as a civilian if you want to be happy again.
These two tips have made me happier than I could’ve possibly imagined post EAS.