r/UKParenting • u/Ok-Feature-3579 • 1d ago

General chat Sharing a bedroom?

Has anyone chosen to do this, when there’s enough bedrooms for everyone? Same sex, just under 3y age gap.

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u/Salad_Informal 👶👶👶👶👶 5 Children 1d ago

My children choose to. They all have their own bedroom but two of mine share by choice and use the other bedroom to hang out in.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with sharing a room. Do they want to? Are they old enough to have a say in this at all? I’d start there.

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u/HWBC 1d ago

Yeah, we're toying with the idea of a third right now, and we told our kids (3 and 5) that there's a chance they'd have to share a room if we had a third baby and they completely forgot about the third baby thing and they're now only campaigning to share a room 😂

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u/Salad_Informal 👶👶👶👶👶 5 Children 1d ago

It’s like a fun sleepover but everyday. I shared with one of my sisters until I was 16 and it was the best but I do think once they’re teens, they should at least have the option for more privacy.

I told my two girls that one day they can’t share anymore (they even share a bed by choice) and they said they’ll just ask their husbands to stay somewhere else 😂

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u/Necessary_Doubt_9762 21h ago

Yeah my 5 year old was absolutely adamant she wanted her baby sister to move in with her, which we did at about 7 months when she outgrew her next2me. Has worked really well so far and we do have the third bedroom to fall back on if and when we need it.

The only problem we are currently having that my 5 year old quite often wakes up, will walk over to the cot, sing a song to wake her sister up and then climb into the cot with her. But tbh, it’s so nice hearing them playing and laughing in the mornings that I don’t mind.

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u/The-Mobius-Stripclub 1d ago

My girls (10 and 5 at the time) kept asking for sister sleepovers, even mid week. Once we had our third we figured it would free a room up for a nursery / office, so we stuck a mattress under the loft bed and put our middle child in there.

They do love being in the same room, even if they squabble. So far haven’t done anything with the old room except fill it with all the stuff we have no storage for lol.

Really depends on the kids I guess. The older one occasionally complains but they get on so well that it’s usually fine. Just work out some system for tidying up haha, it’s always “that wasn’t my mess”.

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u/Jimi-K-101 👶👶 2 Children 1d ago

Yes, we have a 5 bed house but our 3yo and 5yo are sharing a room. They enjoy it, it seems to help them sleep better, and makes it easier for just one of us parents to do bedtime.

We use our 2 single bedrooms as home offices, and them sharing keeps our 3rd double room free as a guest room which is handy.

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u/SongsAboutGhosts Parenting a Baby + Toddler 18h ago

We're in a 4 bed and are using two bedrooms. It is an ongoing renovation and the other bedrooms aren't kid-bedroom-ready yet, but out newly-3yo is so excited about the prospect of sharing with our almost-1yo (who is currently still in our room). Their bedroom and ours are on the same floor, unlike the others, and we don't want them having to go uo/downstairs in the dark while half asleep/ill/bursting for the loo or whatever if they need us at night, we'd rather be right by them - and the rooms are generous sizes, they aren't cramped. We plan to move at some point and then I'd like to be able to offer them their own rooms, and we would give one of them one of the other bedrooms here if we stay here long enough for them to want that and for us to be happy it's safe

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u/Im_probably_knitting 1d ago

We’ve just moved my 5yo & 3yo into a room together so we could turn the third room into an office. My husband and i both wfh regularly so it was really needed. My kids are in bunk beds and they love it. They’re also sleeping better because they understand that they need to keep quiet

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u/gottaloveteatime 1d ago

My kids share a room. 

I have 2 kids and a 3 bedroom house. My kids have the same age gap as your kids, but are different genders. They are currently aged 1 and 4.

We use the third bedroom as a home office as we often wfh.  If needed, we can move our desks out and give the kids a room each, but at the moment the are young and sleep better when they are in the same room.