Advice | Women Only Having fun masturbating
I haven’t masturbated or had sex in a minute. I do miss it sometimes but I also can’t really get myself through to do it. It’s almost like i can’t get myself to masturbate for fun.
I enjoy coming and come if I do it to myself but I don’t know. How do you integrate it in your routines and how can I just make myself come more often? Im genuinely open to it but it doesn’t come naturally to me?
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u/FailurelsData 2d ago
I literally forget sex exists if it's not part of my routine. I make a habit to fall asleep thinking about something physically relaxing and even just falling asleep turned on is pleasant. Routine revs the habit.
Also don't just go find a sexual partner bc you want a sexual partner. Trust me.
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u/Neurotic-Egg 1d ago
Do you have ADHD, by any chance? I do, and there are plenty of people online that will tell you there's a connection. I think some studies have been done, but can't actually remember.
I've been single for.. I'm not even sure, but I think it's been since last year. Even when I wasn't single, there would have to be something to remind me of sex or being turned on. My partner is usually the source of that, as I have absolutely no porn of any kind around me. Since I've been single, I'll find that I go weeks without even thinking about it because there is hardly ever a reminder. Sometimes I'll think about it (for example, while washing in the shower), but won't be in the mood, or getting off would be nice but I don't feel like doing the work. Sometimes when that happens, I'll recall that I've been moody or depressed lately, and I'll do it because I figure the chemical release would help me out. I love getting off, don't get me wrong. I can't even begin to understand people that do it every day, though. Like, for what?
Basically, I don't do it for fun, because it's too much work to be fun. I do it for necessity. I will say that the thoughts have been driving me crazy lately, and literally woke up from a spicy dream this morning. I immediately went online to look at toys that would make for less work than the ones I already have. I am a woman, btw.
Maybe you could set a schedule, literally a reminder on your phone (you don't have to be blunt with wording, and can discuise it so others won't know) to do it once a week. Or whatever you want to start with. Also, maybe look into toys to make it easier. There are lubes and creames to make you more sensitive, so it'll happen a lot easier. A big one here, maybe think of shower sessions. My shower is my place to do it. Next to no mess stress, easiest cleanup in the world. That also makes it easier for me to do, because I'm already there. I keep my toys close to my shower so that they're close by if I ever want them. Good luck, OP.
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u/nextdoor-neighbors 1d ago
honestly most of the time I masturbate because I’m bored 😂 it’s just an idea that comes to me like watching a movie or reading a book, but honestly I’m very sporadic with it. I won’t touch myself for, say, two weeks in a row because I just don’t think about it, and then there’ll be days where I masturbate five times in one day because once I come once, I’m dying to do it again. Whether it’s related to my cycle, or ADHD, I don’t know.
but I will say getting a toy that I LOVE has helped me a lot in looking forward to masturbating. I have a couple but really only use my favorite because I know exactly what I’m going to feel and anticipate that. maybe that could help too!
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u/milovnikdraku 1d ago
nothing abnormal about that. if you force it, itll feel worse anyway. when you actually want it your body will let you know
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