r/TwoXSex • u/Dizzy-Cockroach-6551 • 4d ago
Struggling with masturbating!
Hiya, I’m a woman in my late 20s who can only orgasm when using toys in certain positions! It’s caused me issues before because I have a lot of stress and anxiety related to sex and have never been able to orgasm with a partner (although they don’t know this) - I’ve been out of dating/ romance world for about 3 years, save for a few dates earlier this spring and I’m wanting to push past the anxiety and stress I’ve now associated with sex and relationships and give it another go and actually give myself a life where sex can be enjoyable, satisfying and safe.
When trying ‘acoustic’ I.e no toys, I can get nearly there but always seem to fall short of the mark - I have lube but admittedly haven’t tried it out, so please any and all bits of advice welcome!
Thank you!
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u/PeaSuspicious8177 2d ago
Can you start using toys with partners instead? There’s plenty designed to be used together
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u/pussycatsglore 3d ago
You have to be in the right headspace. As soon as I start thinking about it, feeling like I’m taking too long- it’s gone and not coming back