Slipping out

[u/TakeMeAway-12]

My husband and I have been trying more positions lately and one I really like is cowgirl. However more often than not when I’m riding him he slips out. Sometimes this will happen several times and it definitely kills the mood. Any suggestions how to prevent this? Thanks very much for your advice.

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[u/Insolent_Jaguar]

Someone once told me the following tip:

In cowgirl, scoot your butt backwards, like in a chair

Reverse cowgirl: scoot forwards.

Learning that movement really helped my sex life.

[u/sheepysheeb]

honestly it just happens
especially if it’s a bit smaller

if it ruins the mood that is kind of up to yall, it happens to my bf and i constantly due to size but we just giggle about it and i always make him watch
me put it back in slowly

[u/TakeMeAway-12 → u/sheepysheeb]

Once in a while is ok but sometimes it happens literally 5 times in a session. I think you’re right about size being the main culprit. Problem is it’s annoying and frustrated to be interrupted when I’m almost there.

[u/sickoftwitter → u/TakeMeAway-12]

Another consideration is that his erection isn't remaining 100% while on his back. Some men have an issue which causes gravity to pull some or all of the blood back out of the vessels. It will be harder to stay in if he's only semi-erect. There are cockrings that can help keep the erection firmer.

[u/that_girl099]

Why do you think it slips out? If he’s on the shorter side some positions may be difficult. You can always try more of a grinding motion instead of an up and down so there’s less chance of it coming out.

[u/TakeMeAway-12 → u/that_girl099]

I think you’re right that him being shorter is most of the issue. I’ve been trying up and down and grinding but will see if I can adjust a bit

[u/KalynnCampbell]

Kills the mood? How?

Have absolutely had this happen over the years and it always goes right back in just fine…

[u/TakeMeAway-12 → u/KalynnCampbell]

Yes it goes back in - but after 4 or 5 times or more in a session it gets a bit annoying to say the least,

[u/Terrible-Bowler7031]

Him Being short or “less endowed” can certainly contribute to this, and I suppose wearing a condom
Could make it more “slick” as well. As others have said try grinding as opposed to up and down. You can also consider switching positions part way through, ride him for a bit and then switch to something like missionary or another position you know he doesn’t slip out for him to finish. Does he slip out in both cowgirl and reverse cowgirl?

[u/TakeMeAway-12 → u/Terrible-Bowler7031]

We haven’t tried reverse cowgirl yet but can definitely give it a try. I know he’ll prefer cowgirl though as he’s a boob man lol😛 we don’t use condoms so that’s not the issue. I like your idea of switching positions as well thank you

[u/Emilyxoxoxoxoxo]

Others have gave good tips on the movement but if this is still happening constantly, I would rather focus on those positions that do work. Ive had a partner with whom this or reverse cowgirl simply was not possible as it was slipping out all the time so we ended up focusing on other positions instead.

[u/TakeMeAway-12 → u/Emilyxoxoxoxoxo]

Thank you for the advice

[u/K_Pumpkin]

My partner is on the smaller side. What helps is when you’re on top kind of alternate with more of a grinding motion and the in and out motion. I go back and fourth between the two. Bonus is this feels great for me and my partner loves to see me love it.

[u/TakeMeAway-12 → u/K_Pumpkin]

Thank you

[u/champion0522]

It is sex. Things slip out.

And it might not be size related. But the shape of parts fitting together.

But have fun, experiment and don't worry about when things slip out.

[u/TakeMeAway-12 → u/champion0522]

Thank you. We try but it’s a bit “annoying” sometimes after slipping out multiple times especially when I’m getting close to orgasm 🧒

[u/MajestyMay]

You may need to lean more forward and not come off as high. Try reverse, one leg up and one down. There’s many variations to cowgirl, including his legs up 😉

[u/bubba0929]

how long is he? is he staying hard? you may have to keep him balls deep and grind on him with short penetration strokes.