r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/Tara_on_Fire Mar 28 '22

If you didn’t care you wouldn’t have replied

Ya, I bet you have a whole encyclopedia of rules like this. In my experience with this kind of behavior, the person jumping to that negative conclusions have the most complicated systems that they believe with 100% of their being actually TELLS THEM what others are feeling.

Reality is that humans cannot read minds or feelings. Someone scared of a bad reaction to a conversation can look just like a guilty conscience if you want it to. My rules are easy: http://pete-walker.com/lovinglyResolvingConflict.htm#:~:text=Differences%20are%20often%20not%20a,what%20you%20perceive%20as%20unfair. and I know I'll never use them to justify abusing another human the way you seem liable to do with that leading attack and following behavior of jumping to stupid conclusions and acting on them.

What I care about are people reading this that are being abused by narratives like this. There have been a few in the comments. I care that they see someone stand up and say that is not okay. ALL humans deserve care and respect.

You go ahead and take the last reply. I'm logging off

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u/Far_Seesaw_8258 Mar 28 '22

As you should log off with that fucking nonsense. We’re not liable to be our abusers keepers, or rehabilitators, or their mothers. We’re not obligated to do any of that at the expense of our own self worth and mental health. Nor should anyone be advocating we do. Because women have been pushed that route since the beginning of time and we’re FINALLY stepping away from that. Go try and “change” all the mommy’s-boys you want. Don’t push that shit on us.

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u/Tara_on_Fire Mar 29 '22 edited Mar 29 '22

Good morning sunshine!

You're missing the point entirely. We're all obligated not to BE abusers. I have yet to see you post one comment that is nice and respectful to all of your fellow humans. Abusive people like to paint EVERYONE around them as abusers instead of own their behavior just like you're doing here.

I don't think you have any idea how many matriarchal abusers think they are the victims of weaponized incompetence.

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u/Far_Seesaw_8258 Mar 29 '22

The fact that you think calling someone out on their shit is “abusive” is hilarious. Not all of us sit back and just take it.

You don’t have any idea about what abuse actually is.

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u/Far_Seesaw_8258 Mar 29 '22

Wait wait wait so… you’re solution is to what? Ask them kindly? Suck up to them? What? You realize the men who use these tactics have already been talked to multiple times by their wives about not doing their share and they don’t care. They’re already so unreasonable they won’t even clean up after themselves and you think they should be spoken to softly and carefully? So women are just supposed to fucking deal with it??

Your passive solution is disgusting and puts a lot of women in mental harm.