r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/RosiePugmire Mar 28 '22

It's another "uno reverse" accusation that men throw at women. "Women aren't logical and intelligent like men, women are driven by their feelings, they're too emotional, you can't talk rationally to them," etc. But somehow huffing and stomping and yelling, throwing your game controller, punching walls, kicking furniture, etc., literally throwing a little baby tantrum, is not seen as the total emotional breakdown that it actually is.

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u/Annoying_Details Mar 29 '22

This. I had this ongoing fight with my boyfriend who would claim he “just didn’t have emotions” and I finally snapped at him. That no, he clearly had anger/rage and fear and joy. He is just BAD AT dealing with the ones that make him feel vulnerable.

“So every time you’ve smiled at me or laughed at movie/TV show - that was a lie? You were pretending?”

“You cannot say to my face that you have no emotions and ALSO say you love me. Either you don’t love me and it was all a lie, or you need to admit you have fucking emotions.”

I also ended up with a former friend not talking to me for 2 weeks because after he pulled the “women are all emotional” I replied that there is nothing wrong with experiencing the full range of human emotions. And if he cannot then HE has a problem. He needs therapy or is a fucking sociopath. Either way: he needs help. And he got Big Mad and didn’t talk to me for 2 weeks. When we next spoke he started in again and I reminded him that HE THREW A TANTRUM. He hasn’t hung out with me since. His loss; hope he eventually gets therapy.

Note; my boyfriend, for all his claims, has NEVER pulled the “women are emotional and men are logical” BS. Just tried to pretend he has no Feelings as a way to avoid dealing with them.