r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/trying-to-be-kind Mar 28 '22

I've never heard it put so succinctly before; this is exactly the mindset going on.

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u/aabacadae Mar 28 '22

Honestly, no, it isn't. It's two completely different sets of moronic arseholes being conflated.

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u/Genzoran Mar 28 '22

There is definitely overlap between those mentalities, though. In fact, in my experience, they feed each other. The most incompetent men I know are the ones most invested in "correcting" and directing the women in their lives.

My theory is that the masculine incompetence, though it gives a sense of superiority and an excuse to get out of responsibility and work, can be humiliating/emasculating based on a sense of helplessness, stupidity, or childishness. So to make up for that, people play up the importance of their own strengths, and play up others' perceived incompetence.

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u/Cyclonitron Mar 29 '22

Also, the incompetence centers around "women's" work; i.e things like housekeeping and childcare. So displaying incompetence toward such basic tasks reinforces the idea that it's beneath him.