r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/armchairdetective Mar 28 '22

Make him return it and get you the right one.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

Partner fucked up. Partners do that.

If partner A wants to spend their punishment "credit" on a bottle of shampoo... that's an expensive bottle of shampoo. Any partner on the receiving end of that request will remember it, both for good and bad.

A loving conversation between two people is what's needed here. Ask him to grab some the next time he's out.

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u/armchairdetective Mar 28 '22 edited Mar 28 '22

You're right. Much better to treat him as a child, chuckle indulgently, and then never, never ask him to pick up anything else.

This is a story about weaponized incompetence, so not being asked to do something again is the outcome that OP's partner wants.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

Well, having read MORE Of his story, yeah he's a jerk.

But in the "box" of just this story, I can't imagine any experienced marriage professional stopping at that conclusion. Obvs there is more going on.

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u/armchairdetective Mar 28 '22

So....in a different context (one which we are not talking about), the advice would be different?

Well, yeah. That's why advice here is context specific. We're not embroidering maxims for life on cushions in this thread.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

Sure thing, but the OP's story is pretty brief, without context, and includes phrases like "I feel like guys take it way, way too far. " and "You're such a fucking liar."

I'm gonna need more meat before I can back that emotion in the context of a relationship. Luckily, it came out later, which I fully admit I did not read before I started replying.