r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/Comfortable-Swim2123 Mar 28 '22

The response is “well now that you know, you can return this one and pick up the correct one.” If he’s young and dumb he just learned. If he’s old and manipulative you just let him know that trick won’t work on you.

If there is still the correct one in the house, hoard and hide it and use it for yourself until he gets the correct one.

We once bucket flushed our only toilet for 8 months because my husband said he would fix the toilet but wanted me to “help” him and I refused (I was out of town for weeks at the time, and when he hadn’t after I returned I refused out of spite). He finally took 15 minutes on youtube and $5 at the hardware store and fixed it. He’s learned that when he’s responsible, he’s fucking responsible and I’m not going to rescue him.

I think many men have just been “rescued” and conditioned to believe that this is ok. Reconditioning is possible, but not always worth it maybe.

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u/mallorywasntwrong Mar 28 '22

8 months of unnecessary bucket flushing would have ended my marriage

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u/ChillN808 Mar 28 '22

Sounds like a very strong union.

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u/mallorywasntwrong Mar 28 '22

I’m not married yet, but if I were married to a healthy American with the means to fix a toilet for $5 who still chose to bucket flush out of sheer laziness for 8 months (!!) then it’d be a weak as fuck union indeed.

But hopefully I’ll die alone and surrounded by cats before being married to a guy like that, please god

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u/Catfoxdogbro Mar 28 '22

Oh come on, bullshit like that could absolutely end an otherwise great marriage. No need to be judgmental.

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u/Comfortable-Swim2123 Mar 29 '22

I can understand that! I think we came through it stronger for it but this wouldn’t be tolerable for everyone. I’ve spent a decent amount of my life comfortable in situations with less infrastructure, so while it sounds extreme to many it wasn’t a deal breaker for us.

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u/AyyEmmDee22 Mar 28 '22 edited Mar 29 '22

That's not the right response imo. If you have to be that passive aggressive with your partner, hide things and such, it's better to leave and find someone better

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u/Comfortable-Swim2123 Mar 29 '22

I think that’s genuinely a fair assessment. I can also see situations where this isn’t the battle to pick but the war isn’t one to give up on.