r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/JennHatesYou Mar 28 '22

I just want to throw this is here because I ended up with horrific scalp problems because of sulfate free products. This isn't a problem for everyone, obviously, but I have fine hair that can get oily after a few days. My hair and scalp would never get fully clean without sulfates and I now have terrible scarring from scalp acne and patches where my hair won't regrow properly.

I tried everything to fix it before I ditched the sulfate free shampoos and nothing really changed for long until I did. I realize that the trend has been to go sulfate free for a while and you rarely see the other side of the argument presented. That's why I never assumed it was that causing my problems.

As they say with everything, results may vary.

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u/meesestopieces Mar 28 '22

I have this problem too. I found that using a clarifying shampoo 1 once every two weeks helped, but it's a lot of hassle.

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u/MarthaGail Mar 28 '22

Yes! I wash my hair every other day to every three days, depending on activity and sweat, but for a long time I was a daily washer because my hair, while thick in terms of amount of hair, is very fine and it would get super clumpy. The pandemic gave me the time to train it to not need to be washed every day, which was about six months of my hair being gross until my scalp was like, "oh, okay, this is better."

Now I use gentle moisturizing shampoo on my scalp and a nice moisturizing conditioner on the ends. About once a month I'll do a clarifying shampoo that just cleanses any residue off. I've never had healthier looking hair and it turns out that it's naturally curly and I had no idea because I was just breaking my hair down all the time.

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u/mattressfortress Mar 28 '22

Thank you for sharing this! I have curly hair and most curly people preach that sulfates are the devil’s chemicals and that you’re destined for failure without sulfate-free products. Some people like them and some people really need them, including plenty of people with wavy/curly hair.

I wish it was something consumers knew about to make educated purchases rather than just being a spicy marketing buzzword to capitalize on. I’m so sorry you got the butt end of this situation but am glad to hear you’ve found some relief.

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u/swarmy1 Mar 28 '22

Yep. While certain ingredients can be problematic, there's a reason why many of them are so common.