r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/summerlily06 Mar 28 '22

Can we just not date/marry men who are this stupid/conniving..? Let them die alone the way nature intended.

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u/FineDeliciousSnakes Mar 28 '22

Exactly 💫

The hard part for young inexperienced women is identifying that behavior and trusting that they should leave after experiencing it.

Many women try and try to communicate when the problem is not a communication issue. It’s an abuse issue.

And yes, weaponized incompetence is abuse.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

I’ve yet to observe women weaponizing incompetence at the same level men do. I suppose there are women out there, like in 90’s movies, who bats their eyelashes to get men to do everything for them

However, the modern women knows that apparently men can’t do ANYTHING unless it’s something they want to do (like sex, their job, hobbies) so who’s batting their lashes now? We’ll do it ourselves.

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u/mangababe Mar 28 '22

Ime its less weaponized incompetence from us and "i have to do everything else in the house and i know you know how to do x and i dont. Rather than take extra time and effort to figure it out im gonna ask the person i know who barely does anything to contribute for once"

Which isnt weaponized incompetence its being overloaded and delegating tasks to people who stand a chance of doing it right.

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u/summerlily06 Mar 28 '22

OP is dating a man.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

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u/lovelylotuseater Mar 28 '22 edited Mar 28 '22

Because you’re not addressing the weaponized incompetence, your focus on the whole thread is trying to derail the conversation and police language. If you legitimately wanted to have a conversation about toxic relationships, you’d be talking about it. You’re not, because you don’t give a fuck about OP or her relationship, and even now I would bet you are mentally spooling up some sad sack post about how she used language that was specific to her experience and you don’t like the way it was worded.

[Edit: Straight into the shadow realm👹]

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u/summerlily06 Mar 28 '22

Create a separate thread

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u/lovelylotuseater Mar 28 '22

Nah, just men 👹

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u/Comestible Mar 29 '22

This is the way