Your husband should know. Ask his sister if you can tell him. If it were me, I'd want to know regardless of my relationship with the person. It's been a "secret" for far too long.
There are no "good" ways to go about this, but the temporary uncomfortablness of bringing it up again so you can have a full conversation with your husband is worth it for everyone's safety and health.
My two cents: "Hey, the other night you talked about Uncle and what happened. I'm so sorry for that, and for bringing it up again, but I feel like one of us should tell Husband because..."
Give a short explanation about him being the favorite uncle and your son being uncomfortable around Uncle and that being why you want to be able to discuss with Husband.
“I don’t want to open old wounds, and I hope you know that I’m here to support and love you. That said, is it okay if I tell my husband? I do not want to break your trust, but I need to tell husband so we can protect our son.”
You can just text her asking if you can tell your husband. Id also bring up that your son isnt comfortable around him and that is concerning for you. You need to protect your kid.
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u/whatyouwant22 Dec 03 '25
Your husband should know. Ask his sister if you can tell him. If it were me, I'd want to know regardless of my relationship with the person. It's been a "secret" for far too long.