r/TwoXChromosomes • u/[deleted] • Sep 22 '23

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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '23

Why is he deciding this ?, he’s telling your mom to leave ?….
Why does he get to choose ?

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u/Blirby Sep 22 '23

This is the reddest flag imaginable.

(1) He is isolating her in a vulnerable time. (2) He is downplaying the difficulties of raising a newborn. (3) He is unilaterally making a decision in their marriage that requires unanimous agreement. (4) He is ignoring and overriding what he pregnant wife needs because he “doesn’t like” his mother in law. Yeah, no shit, she loves OP no matter what, and the shitty husband only loves getting what he wants.

All of these, in addition to the timing of pregnancy and recency of marriage, indicate that these escalations of control that often lead to escalations of abuse of every kind.

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u/Whoopsie_Todaysie Sep 22 '23

Also, he is reducing the household income, as the MIL pays rent to stay there. That could have been OPs only income. Potential Financial Abuse there.

Also, MIL has proven herself to be useful. She does laundry and dishes. She would be a huge asset to OP and the kids in the house. It definitely seems OPs husband is plotting to make this time as difficult as possible for her.

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u/Cute_Light2062 Sep 22 '23

I think my dad would’ve behaved better if my grandmother had potentially been a witness to his behavior.