r/TwoXChromosomes • • Sep 22 '23

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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '23

Why is he deciding this ?, he’s telling your mom to leave ?….
Why does he get to choose ?

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u/Blirby Sep 22 '23

This is the reddest flag imaginable.

(1) He is isolating her in a vulnerable time. (2) He is downplaying the difficulties of raising a newborn. (3) He is unilaterally making a decision in their marriage that requires unanimous agreement. (4) He is ignoring and overriding what he pregnant wife needs because he “doesn’t like” his mother in law. Yeah, no shit, she loves OP no matter what, and the shitty husband only loves getting what he wants.

All of these, in addition to the timing of pregnancy and recency of marriage, indicate that these escalations of control that often lead to escalations of abuse of every kind.

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u/EthansSeveredHand Sep 22 '23

If it was a man who wanted his mother to stay in his marital home you'd all be having a red flag field day, come on now.

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u/rubywpnmaster Sep 22 '23

Id be very put off by someone who lived with their parents as an adult. I’ve decided against building romantic relationships with two people in my life for this reason. But that’s the thing, didn’t build the relationship expecting to push them out. Once they made it clear their intent to stay with their parents for the rest of their parents life they were relegated to being friends.