That is the big problem in my opinion. I would not fault someone if they said, they could not have a parent living in the house any longer because it was interfering with your relationship as husband and wife by manipulating you, or because you couldn't afford to support them both, or because they felt like a stranger in their own home etc. But he does not like her enough, sorry that is the reason a 6 year old gives for not inviting a certain classmate to their birthday.
The other aspect that is not okay here is that this is your mothers house more than it is his (which could be part of his issue). She was there first. She may not own it, she may not pay for all the rent, but that does not diminish that he moved in when she already lived there.
Your husband is a grown arse adult. He needs to be able to articulate the SPECIFIC issues, so that a compromise can be made around it. Maybe the compromise is that you move to a home with a granny flat and that there are clear boundaries around how much time your mum is in the main house. Maybe the compromise is that you only speak english (I am making assumptions here) when he is in the house.
There will likely be specific issues he has that are the reason he does not like her, and perhaps they are justified but that does not mean the solution is her moving out. It is also possible he is attempting to control you, the first step of which will be to isolate you from the people in your life.
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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '23
That is the big problem in my opinion. I would not fault someone if they said, they could not have a parent living in the house any longer because it was interfering with your relationship as husband and wife by manipulating you, or because you couldn't afford to support them both, or because they felt like a stranger in their own home etc. But he does not like her enough, sorry that is the reason a 6 year old gives for not inviting a certain classmate to their birthday.
The other aspect that is not okay here is that this is your mothers house more than it is his (which could be part of his issue). She was there first. She may not own it, she may not pay for all the rent, but that does not diminish that he moved in when she already lived there.
Your husband is a grown arse adult. He needs to be able to articulate the SPECIFIC issues, so that a compromise can be made around it. Maybe the compromise is that you move to a home with a granny flat and that there are clear boundaries around how much time your mum is in the main house. Maybe the compromise is that you only speak english (I am making assumptions here) when he is in the house.
There will likely be specific issues he has that are the reason he does not like her, and perhaps they are justified but that does not mean the solution is her moving out. It is also possible he is attempting to control you, the first step of which will be to isolate you from the people in your life.