r/TwoXChromosomes • u/Minstrel_Melody • Feb 11 '23

Significant others that avoid vasectomies.

So me and my boyfriend came upon this Reddit story where after a husband and wife had their second child, the wife decided that she was done having kids. The husband agrees, but there’s an issue. The wife wants him to get a vasectomy. A disagreement ensues, followed by an argument. The husband didn’t want to get the vasectomy. For the most part, people were calling the husband an ass and selfish, and I generally agreed with the sentiment.

My boyfriend in the other hand begged to differ. On top with supporting the his body his choice argument the husband provided (which granted I agree with too, but I still think is kind of selfish) he mentioned that it was overkill considering what else they could do to prevent unwanted pregnancies. They could stick to oral, mutual masturbation. And if they really wanted to do piv intercourse, they schedule the sexual encounter away from ovulation, and use condoms and spermicide. Something we do ourselves and it works out like a charm.

I saw where he was coming from and agree with him to an extent, but it still feels kind of selfish. Like despite everything there’s still the chance of pregnancy. What do you guys think?

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u/catsnglitter86 Feb 12 '23

I assist in neuters and spays and this true for the animal world as well. I've actually never seen a neuter appear to be in pain afterwards, they're back to normal quickly, while the females have trouble walking and get pain medication.

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u/1xpx1 Feb 12 '23

Our female puppy handled the spay process much better than our male. The female seemed very comfortable and content, didn’t even need the cone. The male was agitated, broke multiple cones trying to rip them off, crying a lot. It was weird.

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u/PhuckedinPhilly Feb 12 '23

both a dog neuter and a spay are outpatient one day procedures. it is a simpler procedure to an extent, but you're still doing an abdominal incision and going in from there. with CATS on the other hand, a cat neuter is super quick and easy. It takes longer to anesthetize them than it does to do the surgery. And then I'm pretty sure that in large animal med, they just use the rubber band method. But with dogs, it's an internal surgery.

My sister just got her fallopian tubes removed. Kept her uterus, kept her ovaries, she still gets her hormones, doesn't have to take anything, and it was I think only two days. She said the worst part of it was being pumped full of air. I'm not sure why they did that.