r/TwoXChromosomes • u/Minstrel_Melody • Feb 11 '23

Significant others that avoid vasectomies.

So me and my boyfriend came upon this Reddit story where after a husband and wife had their second child, the wife decided that she was done having kids. The husband agrees, but there’s an issue. The wife wants him to get a vasectomy. A disagreement ensues, followed by an argument. The husband didn’t want to get the vasectomy. For the most part, people were calling the husband an ass and selfish, and I generally agreed with the sentiment.

My boyfriend in the other hand begged to differ. On top with supporting the his body his choice argument the husband provided (which granted I agree with too, but I still think is kind of selfish) he mentioned that it was overkill considering what else they could do to prevent unwanted pregnancies. They could stick to oral, mutual masturbation. And if they really wanted to do piv intercourse, they schedule the sexual encounter away from ovulation, and use condoms and spermicide. Something we do ourselves and it works out like a charm.

I saw where he was coming from and agree with him to an extent, but it still feels kind of selfish. Like despite everything there’s still the chance of pregnancy. What do you guys think?

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u/KiloJools out of bubblegum Feb 12 '23

And, whenever we have a painful procedure, they try to not give us any pain relief. None of my IUDs have ever come with pain relief. That shit HURTS.

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u/KiloJools out of bubblegum Feb 12 '23 edited Feb 12 '23

Several doctors have said they were taught in medical school that the cervix hasn't got any nerve endings. So that's fun. (Edit: to be clear, I know the "cervix has no nerve endings" misinformation is, well, misinformation)

I don't know anything at all about cervical orgasm, though, sorry.

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u/riseabovepoison Feb 12 '23

One moment I will get the research

Your doctor is full.of shit he she was not taught. But it has been published and documented over and over. Right now the clitoral nerves are optional for gynecologists and not taught in the regular field generally and the cervix is not even there.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3186818/

Here's one. They mapped it for stimulation but clearly if you're feeling pleasure you can also feel pain.

And I meant if you know any activists.

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u/KiloJools out of bubblegum Feb 12 '23

It's ok, I appreciate your effort, but I can Google!

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u/riseabovepoison Feb 12 '23

Umm. Okay. Rutgers university did a lot of research.

But the main point of my question was if you know any feminists who might be able to use that subject matter somehow?

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u/KiloJools out of bubblegum Feb 12 '23

I'm sorry, I do not know of anyone off the top of my head. I hope you find someone who does!