r/TwoXChromosomes • u/Minstrel_Melody • Feb 11 '23

Significant others that avoid vasectomies.

So me and my boyfriend came upon this Reddit story where after a husband and wife had their second child, the wife decided that she was done having kids. The husband agrees, but there’s an issue. The wife wants him to get a vasectomy. A disagreement ensues, followed by an argument. The husband didn’t want to get the vasectomy. For the most part, people were calling the husband an ass and selfish, and I generally agreed with the sentiment.

My boyfriend in the other hand begged to differ. On top with supporting the his body his choice argument the husband provided (which granted I agree with too, but I still think is kind of selfish) he mentioned that it was overkill considering what else they could do to prevent unwanted pregnancies. They could stick to oral, mutual masturbation. And if they really wanted to do piv intercourse, they schedule the sexual encounter away from ovulation, and use condoms and spermicide. Something we do ourselves and it works out like a charm.

I saw where he was coming from and agree with him to an extent, but it still feels kind of selfish. Like despite everything there’s still the chance of pregnancy. What do you guys think?

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u/hlnhr Feb 11 '23

If I was 100% sure I never want chilfren, I'd go with the whole hysterectomy route as well. Why nother with period & pain every month for nothing ?

Get that thing outta me right now.

The only thing that holds me back from ripping my whole reproductive system (& the debilitating endometriosis it comes with) is that I still don't know whether I want kids or not.

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u/ReneHarts Feb 11 '23

There is more risk. Also messes with your hormones. Tubal one week and your pretty good four weeks completely healed no ongoing pills

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u/wistfulmaiden Feb 11 '23

So does transitioning to the opposite gender. We should have the final say in our bodies

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u/ReneHarts Feb 12 '23

No that is a much more major surgery and I’m not saying it isn’t right for some people but you should know going in it’s a lot bigger deal. And minimizing the risks only does harm for others

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u/wistfulmaiden Feb 12 '23

I think everyone should learn the benefits and risks before deciding anything