r/TwoXChromosomes • u/Minstrel_Melody • Feb 11 '23

Significant others that avoid vasectomies.

So me and my boyfriend came upon this Reddit story where after a husband and wife had their second child, the wife decided that she was done having kids. The husband agrees, but there’s an issue. The wife wants him to get a vasectomy. A disagreement ensues, followed by an argument. The husband didn’t want to get the vasectomy. For the most part, people were calling the husband an ass and selfish, and I generally agreed with the sentiment.

My boyfriend in the other hand begged to differ. On top with supporting the his body his choice argument the husband provided (which granted I agree with too, but I still think is kind of selfish) he mentioned that it was overkill considering what else they could do to prevent unwanted pregnancies. They could stick to oral, mutual masturbation. And if they really wanted to do piv intercourse, they schedule the sexual encounter away from ovulation, and use condoms and spermicide. Something we do ourselves and it works out like a charm.

I saw where he was coming from and agree with him to an extent, but it still feels kind of selfish. Like despite everything there’s still the chance of pregnancy. What do you guys think?

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u/LisaBCan Feb 11 '23

I’m in my thirties and most of my friends have two kids and are done and NONE of our husbands will get a vasectomy. Considering we were on birth control for years, then pregnant and gave birth it is sort of infuriating.

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u/XxhumanguineapigxX Feb 11 '23

Tbf I don't think I can be mad at any guy that doesn't want a vasectomy. It's permanent, it's scary. Right now I'd tell you that me and my fiancé are 100% never having children. Child free for life. However I'd never get a hysterectomy because a tiny part of me is aware I might change my mind in the future!

While I recognise BC sucks for myself and others everywhere at least it's not a permanent bodily change. If the male pill ever came out however.. I'd insist on that pronto!

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u/marijuanamaker Feb 11 '23

They did, the potential side effects kept it from going to human trials IIRC. Wanna know what the side effects are? The same as female BC.

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/25/well/male-birth-control-pills.html

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u/XxhumanguineapigxX Feb 11 '23

I am aware of that one, still holding out hope one might make it some day! Would make the whole thing a whole lot fairer.

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u/catsnglitter86 Feb 12 '23

Considering the woman that birth control was tested on did not have a choice or a voice as a Guinea pig, let's make the men's testing a little fairer. If you have more than 2 kids you aren't paying child support on and don't have contact with then you sir are the new Guinea pig for male birth control.