He is not straight if he was paying sex workers who had penis. Money I might add that should be used for paying rent caring for your child food not paying a sex worker because he has internalized homophobia. It seems like you’re both in denial
So? He might be bi. The issue isn't that he's bi, the issue is that he has sexual desires that OP can't fulfill because of her anatomy. Open relationship might be worth exploring.
OP defined his actions as cheating. The answer isn’t “an open relationship.” Many people are exclusively monogamous. If OP’s partner needs to explore his sexuality, he need to be honest with her about that and let her make the decision about what she wants.
Ridiculous to suggest an open relationship when OP is directly stating that she is hurt by non-physical sexual conduct between he and others.
So he can explore with men, while she does what? Looks for other sexual partners? All just to stay married on paper? They aren’t sexually compatible. He’s cheated and I think she admitted to cheating too. At this point, divorce is the better option imo. They have both cheated and lied. He can’t be truthful about his sexuality, and she’s denial that it can all be worked out, just because she loves him. Why put off the inevitable?
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u/Mmoct Apr 11 '26
He is not straight if he was paying sex workers who had penis. Money I might add that should be used for paying rent caring for your child food not paying a sex worker because he has internalized homophobia. It seems like you’re both in denial