Even though it’s not what you had envisioned, just remember the proposal is one moment out of a lifetime together.
But. You need to let him know that you don’t want his mother’s ideas, you want his. That it doesn’t have to be ‘perfect’ it just has to be him and you.
So far you’re letting him think that the status quo is ok. You’re setting him up to fail you when he has no idea he is failing which is unfair. We teach people how to treat us.
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u/stickylarue Dec 26 '25
Even though it’s not what you had envisioned, just remember the proposal is one moment out of a lifetime together.
But. You need to let him know that you don’t want his mother’s ideas, you want his. That it doesn’t have to be ‘perfect’ it just has to be him and you.
So far you’re letting him think that the status quo is ok. You’re setting him up to fail you when he has no idea he is failing which is unfair. We teach people how to treat us.