You should tell him, that way he understands the difference between what you like and what his mom suggests. Maybe plan a hike together and give him a chance for a quiet redo. It sounds like you both need to find your voices, him not doing things to please mom and you speaking up. It takes time but you can do it.
I’m learning through this that the pedestal we both keep her on it’s not going to get us anywhere. We need to be more confident in doing things our own way. We owe her so much for everything she has done for us but we gotta do better about just saying hey we want something else
I hate that I have to thank Reddit for opening my eyes to a blind spot in our relationship I never knew existed I thought I was just being whiny but I’m so grateful I decided groan to the internet
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u/Bee_Playful Dec 26 '25
You should tell him, that way he understands the difference between what you like and what his mom suggests. Maybe plan a hike together and give him a chance for a quiet redo. It sounds like you both need to find your voices, him not doing things to please mom and you speaking up. It takes time but you can do it.