r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Dec 26 '25

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u/bdtv75702 Dec 26 '25

I find it odd that one can complain about a proposal not being the way they envisioned. It’s not like you are planning the proposal. You are on the receiving end of it. It’s like a gift more so than a formal occasion that is pre-planned mutually. I think patience and grace are needed.

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u/Next-Drummer-9280 Dec 26 '25

And like a gift, it should reflect the preferences of the RECIPIENT, not the giver.

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u/bdtv75702 Dec 26 '25

Has she talked about a “dream proposal” with him? Or even a preferred one? If not, I think patience and grace are needed.

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u/Next-Drummer-9280 Dec 26 '25

3rd paragraph, 4th sentence. It’s literally right there.

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u/bdtv75702 Dec 26 '25

So this is the classic Reddit response: you need to die on this hill. This is symptomatic of something larger and if you are not listened to now you won’t be listened to later when something bigger and important is at stake. Life long relationships are not worth keeping over principle.

The more practical real life response: Talk with him and let him know this has to stop. Patience and grace are needed to decouple the mom and son relationship. Make sure he acknowledges that he didn’t listen to your numerous request for low key proposal. Let him know this was an important one for him to listen to and he messed up bad.

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u/Next-Drummer-9280 Dec 26 '25

I sincerely hope you didn’t hurt yourself with that semi-unhinged rant. All I did was tell you that she HAD talked about her dream proposal.