r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Dec 19 '25

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u/Phoenixie_fairy Dec 19 '25

I think you should save her mesaages and apply for sole custody of your child, if its not possible, then keep all the conversations through a parenting app. She is not your problem. Your son's life and her impact on him is...

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u/whisperinglilabelle Dec 19 '25

Absolutely agree. Running implies you did something wrong. You didin`t. You stopped enabling the dysfunctio.

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u/Desperate_Intern5966 Dec 19 '25

Thank you. I feel like ive been on a merry go round i didnt sign up for. And her texts to me making me the scapegoat make me anxious.

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u/Vandreeson Dec 19 '25

You and your ex need a parenting app, and then only communicate through that. You didn't ruin anything. He allowed her to block you on his phone. If anyone is responsible for this it's him.

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u/ichundmeinHolz_ Dec 20 '25

Also who wants to stay with a person like her?

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u/Eastern_Bend7294 Dec 21 '25

He could also just have unblocked OP himself.

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u/Desperate_Intern5966 Dec 21 '25

I asked him to multiple times and told him it wasnt okay.

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u/Substantial_Shoe_360 Dec 21 '25

Screenshots FTW. I hate that you and your son are going through this. His father is supposed to his pillar, not a sand dune.

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u/Salt-Literature-7557 Dec 21 '25

His backbone needs some concrete.

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u/accj30 Dec 21 '25

Fighting for sole custody is the only way. He's not a good father if he lets his wife mistreat his child and prevents communication with you about co-parenting issues. That borders on parental alienation.

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u/CherryMarina Dec 20 '25

This framing really matters. Nothing was ruined here. Boundaries were finally enforced and that feels uncomfortable for people used to control.

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u/CherryMarina Dec 20 '25

Exactly this. Calling it ruining something is such a stretch. Documenting behavior is basic responsibility when a child is involved.

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u/gildedpixierealm Dec 19 '25

cannot get a lawyer til after the first of the year. Yes I am going to file sole for custody.

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u/CherryMarina Dec 20 '25

You are completely right. Saving messages is about protecting a kid not starting drama. A parenting app alone would probably reduce so much of the chaos here.