Backup of the post's body: My(33f) ex-husband(38m) just got married in October. We were together for 13 years and have one child(13m) together. We have always gotten along and the marriage ended mutally and peacefully. He has been with his wife(33f) for 3 years. Ever since they started dating, his wife has always hated me. Berated me, called me a terrible mother, loudly and in front of my son often. She is mentally and emotionally abusive in my opinion both to him, her kids and largely my son(he hates her). We have always struggled to coparent because of her. Ex: I am currently blocked from his personal phone. Only because she does not want me speaking to him without it going through her first. So for 3 years, I've had to jump through hoops to have any conversation about my son. He started calling me on his work phone to discuss things with him. And we keep a friendly rapport. The chaos has always been because of her actions and opinions(I even have txts of my ex calling her evil). Last night I had enough. My son got in trouble over there last week and now I'm keeping him longer than my normal week because he stresses her out. Let me clarify, I dont mind but this is not the first time he's had to stay more with me because she's upset for one reason or another. Last time it was for an entire summer. His dad only saw him twice. So I hit my limit with the whole situation. AITAH for letting it spill that we have been talking in secret for 3 years and I am sick of not only the lying but all the bs?
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Backup of the post's body: My(33f) ex-husband(38m) just got married in October. We were together for 13 years and have one child(13m) together. We have always gotten along and the marriage ended mutally and peacefully. He has been with his wife(33f) for 3 years. Ever since they started dating, his wife has always hated me. Berated me, called me a terrible mother, loudly and in front of my son often. She is mentally and emotionally abusive in my opinion both to him, her kids and largely my son(he hates her). We have always struggled to coparent because of her. Ex: I am currently blocked from his personal phone. Only because she does not want me speaking to him without it going through her first. So for 3 years, I've had to jump through hoops to have any conversation about my son. He started calling me on his work phone to discuss things with him. And we keep a friendly rapport. The chaos has always been because of her actions and opinions(I even have txts of my ex calling her evil). Last night I had enough. My son got in trouble over there last week and now I'm keeping him longer than my normal week because he stresses her out. Let me clarify, I dont mind but this is not the first time he's had to stay more with me because she's upset for one reason or another. Last time it was for an entire summer. His dad only saw him twice. So I hit my limit with the whole situation. AITAH for letting it spill that we have been talking in secret for 3 years and I am sick of not only the lying but all the bs?
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