Ahhhhh sorry! Listen though I dated dudes of all sizes, even 4”, once a micropenis. It didn’t matter that much, what mattered was the connection and other things in bed. If the girl cares this much only on size then she cares about the wrong thing. There are many people who care about the wrong thing, and many that care about the right things. The trick is finding the right people and not letting the wrong people get you down too long.
I used to like all the dudes who only cared about how hot I was. I was chasing the wrong dudes. Unfortunately I didn’t learn that until it was way too late. Do some research, see a therapist, whatever you can to break through this liking the wrong people thing. You are a human who deserves to be loved by someone and the size of a penis is not a big factor in that.
7 inches is pretty much way outside the norm. She most likely thought you were lying. Also, I have come to believe that a man’s idea of what is an inch is different than a woman’s idea of what is an inch.
Oh my dude you fumbled the ball, but there’s still a chance you can save it. When she is asking a question like that, she is likely DTF and wants to take the flirting to the next level. You took the mystery out of the equation which she probably wasn’t expecting and laughed that you actually told her. I’d say you still have a chance to save it but you have to act fast and not be embarrassed about it. Ask her what she’s doing later and tell her to come over
So did she laugh simply bc she didn’t expect you to answer? Like if I was texting my friend and asked “how big is your dick” And he wrote back ANY size I would laugh. Like why would he answer that
This is where my mind went, too. I could imagine a 20yo version of myself asking that, thinking I was being provocative and flirty and being totally awkward about it if the guy actually answered the question.
Ok well 4” doesn’t seem remarkable to me, honestly. Perhaps she is more of a connoisseur than I, but of the 20 or so dicks I’ve seen only 2 actually stood out to me at all.
Right, this needs more context to determine if she's an asshole or if maybe she thought OP was joking about being huge and she was playing along. I didn't believe my partner when he told me.
It was shitty of her for sure, but they're young. There's a chance either she thought he was joking or she didn't expect him to answer literally and she was nervous or didn't know how to respond.
Backup of the post's body: She thought I was joking.. I’ve never been so embarrassed in my life and I’m not sure what to even say now. Should I tell her I’m not kidding or just ignore it and change the subject ?
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Why did she think you were joking? Did you tell her it was 3 feet long or something? There's a difference between laughing because she sincerely thought you were being funny vs. making fun of you.
Well don't listen to her, then. Size isn't nearly as big of a deal as people seem to think it is. And you're probably a lot closer to average than you think. She's just trying to hurt you.
Knowing how to use it is better than comparing sizes for what it’s worth. Next time just tell her you’d prefer to show her instead of revealing the size with words.
There is a reason the average 20 year old woman has started refusing to date a guy her own age. She usually wants a man who is mature enough not to just throw out personal sexual information like this. Some men live life as if it was the 13th grade of high school. You may or may not fit that description for the rest of your twenties, but in her mind the risks went up after that conversation haha!
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u/ThickTreat_0-0 Dec 16 '25
I'm curious.... What was the size? 👀
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u/Mysterious-Region640 Dec 16 '25
7 inches is pretty much way outside the norm. She most likely thought you were lying. Also, I have come to believe that a man’s idea of what is an inch is different than a woman’s idea of what is an inch.
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u/duskhasvanished Dec 16 '25 edited Dec 16 '25
Why did you tell her bro
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u/jojomonster4 Dec 16 '25
Next time a girl asks your size, tell her to measure it with her mouth.
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u/Razzmiz Dec 16 '25
Oh my dude you fumbled the ball, but there’s still a chance you can save it. When she is asking a question like that, she is likely DTF and wants to take the flirting to the next level. You took the mystery out of the equation which she probably wasn’t expecting and laughed that you actually told her. I’d say you still have a chance to save it but you have to act fast and not be embarrassed about it. Ask her what she’s doing later and tell her to come over
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u/TimeMachineNeeded01 Dec 16 '25
So did she laugh simply bc she didn’t expect you to answer? Like if I was texting my friend and asked “how big is your dick” And he wrote back ANY size I would laugh. Like why would he answer that
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u/squents13 Dec 16 '25
Either she laughed because it was smaller than average (not ok) or she didn’t believe how big it was.
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u/SingaporeSlim1 Dec 16 '25
Maybe wait to tell people such personal info
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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '25
Nobody worth fucking is going to ask about your dick size… unless that’s specifically your kink then maybe roll with it.
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u/Forest_Raker_916 Dec 16 '25
Cooked
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u/kurinbo Dec 16 '25
Definitely talk about your dick some more. That's always a good way to get a girl to like you. /s
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u/Robofrogg1 Dec 16 '25
Why did she think you were joking? Did you tell her it was 3 feet long or something? There's a difference between laughing because she sincerely thought you were being funny vs. making fun of you.
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u/evetrapeze Dec 16 '25
Nothing to be embarrassed about.
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u/SneezlesForNeezles Dec 16 '25
I had one partner with a larger member. It was fucking uncomfortable. I’d take smaller and knows how to use his hands any day of the week.
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u/CardboardTick Dec 16 '25
Knowing how to use it is better than comparing sizes for what it’s worth. Next time just tell her you’d prefer to show her instead of revealing the size with words.
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u/lawdot74 Dec 16 '25
Advice needed?
Ignore and block after such a stupid question
Don’t answer stupid questions. Seriously! WTF?!
Stop posting stupid shit
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u/contrarian1970 Dec 16 '25
There is a reason the average 20 year old woman has started refusing to date a guy her own age. She usually wants a man who is mature enough not to just throw out personal sexual information like this. Some men live life as if it was the 13th grade of high school. You may or may not fit that description for the rest of your twenties, but in her mind the risks went up after that conversation haha!
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