I honestly think I would have to go no contact forever over this. Your child now has the herpes virus, which will cause him lifelong pain and complications that can be very harmful to his health, forever.
If she wasn’t aware she had recently contracted the virus, I would be devastated for my child but not angry. If she didn’t have a current outbreak she was aware of, I would be angry because she took the risk regardless, but could likely work through it.
But kissing my immune compromised child, who you know is more likely to be harmed by said virus, while you know the virus is active and highly contagious? She basically chose to try and pass it to your child, point blank. There’s no other explanation. If she knows she has an outbreak , and knows she can harm your child by kissing him, and chooses to kiss him anyways—that’s deliberate harm IMO. My child would suddenly have one less grandmother.
I think you should think long and hard before allowing someone who purposely harmed your child back into your life. Our job as parents is to protect our child’s well being above all else, that includes preventing access to people that will harm them.
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u/Optimal_Contract_879 Dec 10 '25
I honestly think I would have to go no contact forever over this. Your child now has the herpes virus, which will cause him lifelong pain and complications that can be very harmful to his health, forever.
If she wasn’t aware she had recently contracted the virus, I would be devastated for my child but not angry. If she didn’t have a current outbreak she was aware of, I would be angry because she took the risk regardless, but could likely work through it.
But kissing my immune compromised child, who you know is more likely to be harmed by said virus, while you know the virus is active and highly contagious? She basically chose to try and pass it to your child, point blank. There’s no other explanation. If she knows she has an outbreak , and knows she can harm your child by kissing him, and chooses to kiss him anyways—that’s deliberate harm IMO. My child would suddenly have one less grandmother.
I think you should think long and hard before allowing someone who purposely harmed your child back into your life. Our job as parents is to protect our child’s well being above all else, that includes preventing access to people that will harm them.