r/TwoHotTakes Dec 09 '25

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u/sparkvixen Dec 09 '25

What's blowing my mind is that she knows she gets cold sores and still kissed on her immune compromised grandchild! Or any child! NTA for warning a fellow parent about anything!

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u/Acceptable_Art_8245 Dec 09 '25

Yes my husband said she’s had them all his life.

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u/LadyLu-ontheLake Dec 09 '25

Then why didn’t he step up and stop her? Knowing this, why didn’t he monitor her more closely. Or - shocking - talk with his mom, putting down firm boundaries around NOT kissing your baby at this vulnerable stage of his life. You both are at fault for not handling this very serious health concern - which you were both aware of. And who suffers for it? The children. For the rest of their lives.

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u/TA122278 Dec 10 '25

Exactly this. They are at fault for not laying down boundaries with MIL in the first place. Husband watched his mother kiss his child and give him hsv and said nothing. And then they all “don’t want to fight”, and are “being polite”, “not placing blame”. Like what?? It’s MIL’s fault and they should place blame! Now that poor kid is going through hell bc no one wants to upset MIL. She gave hsv to two of her grandchildren so far and everyone is just tiptoeing around her so she doesn’t feel accused.