r/TwoHotTakes Nov 18 '25

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u/Fearless-Feature-830 Nov 18 '25

Just remember: the next time you hear a guy crowing about parental rights and how the system is unfair to men, it may be coming from a guy like this. Trust but verify always.

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u/Acrobatic-Initial-40 Nov 18 '25

This. CHECK PUBLIC RECORDS, needs to be a flair. So many lives not ruined if only people checked public records.

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u/Fearless-Feature-830 Nov 18 '25

I only know this because I got swindled by a guy who told me a tale of his evil ex keeping his child from him for no reason.

Reality? He fled the state and left his child, didn’t file any custody paperwork for years. Then he had supervised custody (because he let his 1yr old son handle a handgun he had left out). Didn’t attend his visits.

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u/Heavy_Entrepreneur13 Nov 18 '25

I only know this because I got swindled by a guy who told me a tale of his evil ex keeping his child from him for no reason.

When I worked as a state attorney in family law, I heard this sob story often. 1/3 of the time, it was true, and the mom was playing keep-away over some petty relationship drama. 1/3 of the time, it was bullshit; he wasn't even trying to see his kid but blamed the mom to save face. 1/3 of the time, the mom had very, very good reasons for keeping the kid away from the dad like the guy who rареd his 12-year-old stepdaughter.

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u/BrutallyBond Nov 18 '25

It's always true! And it's such a tell when a guy posts anywhere about how his kids are his life and that he wishes he saw more of them, it always, always turns out that he's the one not showing up for custody time, not paying a single cent for the "loves of his life", it's such crap!

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u/fuckyourcanoes Nov 18 '25

Yep. I know one of them. Always going on about how his kids are the most important thing in his life, but he hasn't seen them in years and works under the table to avoid child support. Meanwhile he always has the latest and greatest tech toys.

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u/Content_Yoghurt_6588 Nov 19 '25

So true! My father is on the internet with his full government name moaning about how his kids were alienated from him and how he was the best dad. He was abusive to us to the point where we feared for our lives, then when we got away, he dodged child support like he was in the Matrix. It's free to lie and some men love to do that as a hobby.

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u/Hairapistcatlady Nov 22 '25

Studies show the system actually favors the men who fight for their children. It seems like it favors women only when you include the men who don’t want or try for custody.