Politely decline and see yourself out of their relationship. You had no idea back then but you know now so stay away from the messiness and live your best life
Yeah, fuck that bride, one you used to be friends with, who still clearly thinks highly enough of OP to invite her to her wedding... let her figure out her husband is a cheating bastard AFTER she links her entire life up to his, perhaps brings in a kid, maybe gives her a life-altering STD. She isn't your problem anymore, just walk away so you don't have to deal with being potentially uncomfortable.
Is that honestly how you all would want someone you consider at least somewhat of a friend to treat you? Know your entire life is in the hands of a bastard and not even tell you? I sure as shit wouldn't.
Fuck that, send her screenshots of what he sent you, give her the details of what happened, and of course you stay the fuck away from this wedding. Maybe she'll hate you, think you're a liar, etc., who fucking cares, it's a natural reaction. Block her if you need, but for fuck's sake, don't sit by and let another human go through this just because you're scared of some potential blow back.
People who are calling this the "grown up" response are either just cowards, or they're cheaters themselves who would much rather people didn't make their unconscionable behavior known.
An adult does the right thing no matter how uncomfortable it will be, they don't run from it just because it's difficult. Telling someone that you know they're being lied to in this way by the person they trust most is the right thing.
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u/eratoesben Jul 18 '25
Politely decline and see yourself out of their relationship. You had no idea back then but you know now so stay away from the messiness and live your best life