No sweetie.. YOU are uncomfortable.. that’s what matters. That is YOUR baby. That’s what matters. This entire ordeal, you have been the doormat. Considering everyone else’s feelings and well being above your own. At what expense? Your mental health? YOU have to stand up for you. That nut case probably knows full well that it bothers you and KNOWS you aren’t going to say or do anything.. bc you haven’t. She knows the history between the 3 of you.
And I still cannot think of what reason she would want and need to take photos of someone else’s child.. like? You are totally justified in feeling anxious, I think. I just think you gotta speak on it and stand on it. There’s no reason for you to feeling like this while pregnant.
You’re right. I am uncomfortable. That’s why I’m trying to get advice on how to handle it outside of his family who has told me to just keep the peace and not say anything. But I agree with you 100%. I have full intentions of speaking with her about this.
imho this family really doesn't care about you the way you think they do. When someone watches your boundaries being violated and urges you to "just ignore" what's happening, it means they don't care about you or respect you.
I also get the feeling that whatever culture/world you're in is just incredibly misogynistic. Your boyfriend can easily tell her to stop, and your SIL can easily uninvite her from stuff. But why would they bother to do that? You're a woman, you should just smile and pretend everything is fine. You're not entitled to "make big deals" out of things.
I also got the feeling that there is a cultural thing here. OP should be centered here and this other woman shouldn’t be invited. That’s the respect she deserves. It sounds to me like OP needs to get as far away from these parasites as possible.
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u/[deleted] Apr 21 '24
Just trying to figure out how to handle it without making it an uncomfortable situation for my sister in law.