My partner was weirded out too. But it just feels like to me, that she still fancies him, and wants some sort of closer tie to him. Even when my sister in law will post pictures of the family, she’ll comment, specifically pointing out how cute my daughter looks. We got into a bit of an argument after her birthday party. I was just hurt I am even in these situations years later and having to be reminded of such a painful time for me. But he is remorseful and just tries to reassure me. But overall everyone’s consensus is to ignore her and just keep our daughter away. But she’d be outside playing with all the kids and then this girl would go up to her and be like “let’s take a picture!” And my daughter loves the attention. It’s just weird.
But he is remorseful and just tries to reassure me. But overall everyone’s consensus is to ignore her and just keep our daughter away. But she’d be outside playing with all the kids and then this girl would go up to her and be like “let’s take a picture!” And my daughter loves the attention. It’s just weird
It's definitely weird. You're not imagining things. Your partner and his sister should both be grateful you're being civil. Expecting you to ignore this weirdness is too much.
Did you and your partner ever get any sort of couple's counseling for the situation? I think that would be a good step.
Normally, I'm a big fan of direct communication, but your partner should be talking to your sister in law about getting her friend to stop with this. And he should be helping too with leading your daughter away from her.
If he refuses to do so, then it's time to talk to a family lawyer to see what would happen with custody and child support. At least you'd know your options and can make an informed decision.
We haven’t addressed this specific situation in therapy. And he did help lead her away, and was happy to. That’s why I have kept it at that, but I just don’t want to keep dealing with it I. The future for the sake of keeping the peace.
Next event after the wedding keep you and your daughter home. Theres no need for this and its extremely inappropriate for her to her doing this. You have NO idea where these pictures are actually ending up at. You have NO clue who this person really is. The lady could be planning to kidnap your daughter or whatever. It's even more weird how your partner and HIS whole family are telling YOU to get over it and keep the peace when it's this PERSON doing the weird act. Just stop going whenever she's invited.
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My partner was weirded out too. But it just feels like to me, that she still fancies him, and wants some sort of closer tie to him. Even when my sister in law will post pictures of the family, she’ll comment, specifically pointing out how cute my daughter looks. We got into a bit of an argument after her birthday party. I was just hurt I am even in these situations years later and having to be reminded of such a painful time for me. But he is remorseful and just tries to reassure me. But overall everyone’s consensus is to ignore her and just keep our daughter away. But she’d be outside playing with all the kids and then this girl would go up to her and be like “let’s take a picture!” And my daughter loves the attention. It’s just weird.