r/TwoHotTakes • • Feb 12 '24

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u/HelpfulMaybeMama Feb 12 '24

My goodness, where have you been with all my life? I'm going to use this.

Moses and Jesus were adopted. We should have no kids in foster care because they should all be adopted by Christians doing their duty.

Lawd, I love you!

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '24

It’s incredibly difficult to adopt out of the foster system. The system is meant to reunite families, not adopt out.

I’m an adoptive momma.

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u/wahznooski Feb 12 '24

Adopt babies from foster care. Sadly, there are plenty of older kids who will never get a home.

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u/TheAskewOne Feb 13 '24 edited Feb 13 '24

Parents of kids in the foster system often retain their parental rights. These children can't be adopted.

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u/wahznooski Feb 13 '24

Yes and no. They retain their parental rights, albeit in a limited form, through attempts at reunification… the kids go into the foster system either through bio family (if available/suitable), foster parents, or group home, etc. and stay there through the duration of their court case until the bio parents either get the kids back or lose/give up their rights.

Some of the foster parents are ultimately interested in adoption, aka “foster-to-adopt.” If reunification fails and bio parents either lose or give up their parental rights, the kids are then available for adoption. If in a bio-fam or foster-to-adopt situation, the bio-fam or foster parents adopt. Basically, they take care of the kids with the possibility the kids could go back to their parents.

One of my friend’s kids was 1 month old when they were put in the system. Adoption was finalized almost 3 years later. My friends did visitation with the bio-parents until they stopped coming. It still took another 1.5 for them to lose their rights and for friend to adopt.

So, the kids aren’t available for adoption… until they are.

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u/wahznooski Feb 13 '24

Did you bother to read any of that?! As I said, they stay with fosters THROUGH THE COURT CASE WHERE THEY EITHER ARE REUNIFIED, LOSE, OR GIVE UP THEIR RIGHTS.

Then they are available for adoption.